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Herpes, Fungus, Balanitis, Yeast, UTI...what is wrong with me?!?!?
I've been reading other's stories trying to figure this out but I can't, so here it goes...sorry, it's a long one:
I'm a 30 year old man and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years now. We were both tested and were negative for STDs when we started dating and have had unprotected sex since then. Where the story starts, we had unprotected sex on 3/21/13. Then 3 days later, I VERY STUPIDLY hooked up with a girl I met online during the afternoon on 3/24/13. She gave me brief unprotected oral sex (she didn't have any signs of lesions or sores on her mouth). That night I started to feel a weird tingling/uncomfortable feeling in my penis and there were a few small little red spots on the penis head (I'm uncircumcised and I have been getting this as well as some painful redness/irritation under my foreskin after sex or masturbation for a few years now). This continued through the week. There was never any discharge and no red spots on my penis ever turned into blisters or oozed any pus or anything. They would subside in a day or so. I emailed the girl I had oral sex with to see if she had any STDs. She said no. Later in the week I asked her again since the pain was still there and she said no again. Not surprisingly, she was offended that I kept asking so she told me I was crazy and not to contact her again.
6 days after the oral sex, I went to see my PCP and discussed the situation. She examined the red spots and didn't see anything to indicate an STD. She still did a urine sample and that came out negative for Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and any UTI or bacterial infections. She also gave me the antibiotics to get rid of Chlamydia/Gonorrhea. The discomfort and pain continued for another 2-3 weeks, off and on throughout the day. The pain felt like it was inside my urethra. Sometimes it felt like the pain would move into my lower abdomen or into my legs, but I didn't know if I was making this up in my head or not. Still no discharge. I went back to my PCP for a regular checkup on 4/26/13. By then pretty much all discomfort/pain had subsided, though I would feel it every once in a while. To be safe, my doctor did a full blood test for STD's (including Herpes). I got the test results back a week later and everything was NEGATIVE (though I didn't get any numbers on the tests). Following those results and the lack of symptoms, I felt like I was in the clear! I had been reading A LOT on this website and others and decided it must have been something like balanitis or a fungal infection from being uncircumcised, so I started applying Lotrimin anti-fungal cream on my penis which didn't seem to bother it at all and seemed to keep any redness or soreness away.
My girlfriend and I then had unprotected sex the morning of 5/11/13 (the first time we've had unprotected sex since this incident). I don't know if this was just terrible coincidence or what but the next day I started to feel the discomfort in my penis/urethra again. Then the following night, my girlfriend mentioned to me that she wanted to break up with me (or at least take some time apart). This news hit me like a freight train. Side note: she doesn't know about my STUPID moment of infidelity...the break up is unrelated if that matters at all.
That night I couldn't sleep that well and to make matters worse, the pain in my urethra was at the maximum pain it had ever been. The next day it continued. My penis head also seemed to be red/inflamed, and the pain seemed the worst AFTER urination (no burning during though). The pain continued throughout the week, fluctuating between almost nothing to very discomforting. Again, it seemed to move around. It would go from the urethra, to my lower abdomen area, to my lower back, to my thighs, sometimes in my testicles, and then back around. I also started to feel jolts of pains in my leg muscles. I even think I was getting some in my arms at times too, but things have been so stressful for me, I don't really know what's real and what's not anymore.
The pain again continued, so on 5/18/13, I went to an Emergency Care MD, since my PCP wasn't available. I explained the whole story and the doctor examined my penis. I had a few painless red spots/bumps again, but she said those are completely normal and don't look like herpes or anything else that I should be worried about. They did a urine test again and again gave me antibiotics for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. A few days later, I got a call from them and the urine sample was again NEGATIVE for everything. She had referred me to a urologist whom I met with on 5/23. Again, I mentioned the whole story. He asked about pain from ejaculation. Sadly I have only masturbated one or two times since this all started. I did notice pain in my perineum when I ejaculated the one time. Before he even examined me, he diagnosed me with Prostatitis and CPPS (he never did an actual prostate exam...he only examined my penis area). He gave me a 10-day dose of Levaquin (levofloxacin). I started to take this that day. Even before I went to see him that day, it seemed like the pain in my urethra was starting to subside. Finally, it seemed like there was light at the end of the tunnel! I had a diagnosis, the pain was subsiding, and I had the treatment to help with this!
However, on 5/25/13, I woke up in the middle of the night from a wet dream. Yeah, I still get these every few weeks. I cleaned myself up and went back to bed. When I woke up a few hours later, I noticed my urethra was a little wet. There wasn't much there but I had a little clear, sticky fluid coming out. I figured this was just left over semen from the wet dream. Then about an hour or so later, I noticed something on my penis head. It was one small raised papule...about 1/2 mm in size. To me, it just seemed like a normal papule on the penis head that was red/inflamed. It was painful to touch. Then I noticed that I had some redness on the right side of my penis shaft under the foreskin, similar to what I sometimes get after sex or masturbation. This was also painful to touch. There were 4-6 raised red spots and when I pulled my foreskin back tightly, I could see little blood vessels emanating from them as well. I thought maybe this was irritation from my wet dream and sleeping for some time with semen on my penis, so I applied some Lotrimin cream. Later that evening, I had checked myself again and things seemed to be a little worse. The redness was larger and now there seemed to be a few more red spots/bumps...all about 1/2 to 1 mm in size. I could feel the pain in my penis now. I kept examining these but they never blistered or became ulcers. There were just tiny raised spots with redness around them on my penis shaft under my foreskin and a few right at the edge where the penis head meets the shaft. I was also feeling jolts in my muscles again.
The next day 5/26/13, I went back to the Emergency Care MD. They had my notes from last time, so I gave them the update from the urologist, the wet dream, and the spots I have found and the lingering pain. The doctor (different from last time) examined me and said it might be herpes or it might be something else. He was very vague. They did a swab of the infected area under my foreskin and I am currently awaiting the results. He wouldn't say for sure that it was herpes but he gave me a 10-day prescription of Valtrex and told me to wait for the results. And even if the results are negative, that it could still be herpes and I should get another blood test in a week or so. Yeah, I now know that herpes takes time to show up in blood tests. The red bumps are almost all gone now (never scabbed) but the pain is still in my penis. As you can tell, I am really FREAKING out now and wonder if anyone has any input on what could possibly be wrong with me? This one stupid mistake has ruined my life.
Please help!
I'm a 30 year old man and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years now. We were both tested and were negative for STDs when we started dating and have had unprotected sex since then. Where the story starts, we had unprotected sex on 3/21/13. Then 3 days later, I VERY STUPIDLY hooked up with a girl I met online during the afternoon on 3/24/13. She gave me brief unprotected oral sex (she didn't have any signs of lesions or sores on her mouth). That night I started to feel a weird tingling/uncomfortable feeling in my penis and there were a few small little red spots on the penis head (I'm uncircumcised and I have been getting this as well as some painful redness/irritation under my foreskin after sex or masturbation for a few years now). This continued through the week. There was never any discharge and no red spots on my penis ever turned into blisters or oozed any pus or anything. They would subside in a day or so. I emailed the girl I had oral sex with to see if she had any STDs. She said no. Later in the week I asked her again since the pain was still there and she said no again. Not surprisingly, she was offended that I kept asking so she told me I was crazy and not to contact her again.
6 days after the oral sex, I went to see my PCP and discussed the situation. She examined the red spots and didn't see anything to indicate an STD. She still did a urine sample and that came out negative for Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and any UTI or bacterial infections. She also gave me the antibiotics to get rid of Chlamydia/Gonorrhea. The discomfort and pain continued for another 2-3 weeks, off and on throughout the day. The pain felt like it was inside my urethra. Sometimes it felt like the pain would move into my lower abdomen or into my legs, but I didn't know if I was making this up in my head or not. Still no discharge. I went back to my PCP for a regular checkup on 4/26/13. By then pretty much all discomfort/pain had subsided, though I would feel it every once in a while. To be safe, my doctor did a full blood test for STD's (including Herpes). I got the test results back a week later and everything was NEGATIVE (though I didn't get any numbers on the tests). Following those results and the lack of symptoms, I felt like I was in the clear! I had been reading A LOT on this website and others and decided it must have been something like balanitis or a fungal infection from being uncircumcised, so I started applying Lotrimin anti-fungal cream on my penis which didn't seem to bother it at all and seemed to keep any redness or soreness away.
My girlfriend and I then had unprotected sex the morning of 5/11/13 (the first time we've had unprotected sex since this incident). I don't know if this was just terrible coincidence or what but the next day I started to feel the discomfort in my penis/urethra again. Then the following night, my girlfriend mentioned to me that she wanted to break up with me (or at least take some time apart). This news hit me like a freight train. Side note: she doesn't know about my STUPID moment of infidelity...the break up is unrelated if that matters at all.
That night I couldn't sleep that well and to make matters worse, the pain in my urethra was at the maximum pain it had ever been. The next day it continued. My penis head also seemed to be red/inflamed, and the pain seemed the worst AFTER urination (no burning during though). The pain continued throughout the week, fluctuating between almost nothing to very discomforting. Again, it seemed to move around. It would go from the urethra, to my lower abdomen area, to my lower back, to my thighs, sometimes in my testicles, and then back around. I also started to feel jolts of pains in my leg muscles. I even think I was getting some in my arms at times too, but things have been so stressful for me, I don't really know what's real and what's not anymore.
The pain again continued, so on 5/18/13, I went to an Emergency Care MD, since my PCP wasn't available. I explained the whole story and the doctor examined my penis. I had a few painless red spots/bumps again, but she said those are completely normal and don't look like herpes or anything else that I should be worried about. They did a urine test again and again gave me antibiotics for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. A few days later, I got a call from them and the urine sample was again NEGATIVE for everything. She had referred me to a urologist whom I met with on 5/23. Again, I mentioned the whole story. He asked about pain from ejaculation. Sadly I have only masturbated one or two times since this all started. I did notice pain in my perineum when I ejaculated the one time. Before he even examined me, he diagnosed me with Prostatitis and CPPS (he never did an actual prostate exam...he only examined my penis area). He gave me a 10-day dose of Levaquin (levofloxacin). I started to take this that day. Even before I went to see him that day, it seemed like the pain in my urethra was starting to subside. Finally, it seemed like there was light at the end of the tunnel! I had a diagnosis, the pain was subsiding, and I had the treatment to help with this!
However, on 5/25/13, I woke up in the middle of the night from a wet dream. Yeah, I still get these every few weeks. I cleaned myself up and went back to bed. When I woke up a few hours later, I noticed my urethra was a little wet. There wasn't much there but I had a little clear, sticky fluid coming out. I figured this was just left over semen from the wet dream. Then about an hour or so later, I noticed something on my penis head. It was one small raised papule...about 1/2 mm in size. To me, it just seemed like a normal papule on the penis head that was red/inflamed. It was painful to touch. Then I noticed that I had some redness on the right side of my penis shaft under the foreskin, similar to what I sometimes get after sex or masturbation. This was also painful to touch. There were 4-6 raised red spots and when I pulled my foreskin back tightly, I could see little blood vessels emanating from them as well. I thought maybe this was irritation from my wet dream and sleeping for some time with semen on my penis, so I applied some Lotrimin cream. Later that evening, I had checked myself again and things seemed to be a little worse. The redness was larger and now there seemed to be a few more red spots/bumps...all about 1/2 to 1 mm in size. I could feel the pain in my penis now. I kept examining these but they never blistered or became ulcers. There were just tiny raised spots with redness around them on my penis shaft under my foreskin and a few right at the edge where the penis head meets the shaft. I was also feeling jolts in my muscles again.
The next day 5/26/13, I went back to the Emergency Care MD. They had my notes from last time, so I gave them the update from the urologist, the wet dream, and the spots I have found and the lingering pain. The doctor (different from last time) examined me and said it might be herpes or it might be something else. He was very vague. They did a swab of the infected area under my foreskin and I am currently awaiting the results. He wouldn't say for sure that it was herpes but he gave me a 10-day prescription of Valtrex and told me to wait for the results. And even if the results are negative, that it could still be herpes and I should get another blood test in a week or so. Yeah, I now know that herpes takes time to show up in blood tests. The red bumps are almost all gone now (never scabbed) but the pain is still in my penis. As you can tell, I am really FREAKING out now and wonder if anyone has any input on what could possibly be wrong with me? This one stupid mistake has ruined my life.
Please help!
Dude i have the same problem as you... Same exactly as you described thought im going insane.... DId you beat it? Prostatitis?
Please start a new thread with you questions and concerns. What you describe is not how hsv acts at all.
Im 15 , and on christmas brake of 12/22/15 ive had a burning around my uncircumcised penis and i had unprotective sex with 2 females and both were tested negative for everything, i waited a few more days because i thought it was nothing so everyday it would burn until one day i woke up and i felt shaky and felt like everything was unreal until i went home and went to the er and they said it was a urinary in fection so they gave antibiotics so i took them and now soemtime i feel pain in my lower stomach and urethra tube to my testiclesand it stressed me out to the point i got stressed bumps but also i went to my regular doctor and he took a blood work test for everything and 90% of it came back negative and my urine test was all negative to so now i have like red bumps on my penis til and on my forskin i had cuts around it but it healed and now it looks like these painless red patches nothing burns or itch i just feel discomfort and its scarying me i havent had discharhe just my foreskin is a little tight its better than the last time i had a urinary i fection im afraid it cant possibly be herpes im not sure it is i just wanna know if im alright because im scared im 15 and i cant really keeo going to the ER
That is incorrect. I have had both chicken pox and shingles and I am negative for HSV1. Cold sores on lips, yes, that is typically HSV1 and typically acquired in adolescent life.
By the way. I think and correct me if I'm wrong....if you've had chicken pocks, shingles or cold soars as a kid that is HSV1 and it in your system. I had cold soars and chicken pocks as a kid and I had shingles in 2004/5.
I will have to get that additional test that differentiates between the two but first I will get these little lesions swabbed.
Cheers guys
I will have to get that additional test that differentiates between the two but first I will get these little lesions swabbed.
Cheers guys
I am really intrigued with this conversation and your plight. Many years ago I was going through this and I did not no what I had. I did the Floxin, I did everything I could to make a long story short. Sufficient to say I had all the symptoms and fears you had.
Then during yet another search for answers I came across a book. Just reading the write up about the Book "Headache in the pelvis" I started feeling better in my pelvic area in general. Needless to say I bought the book and as I read, the pain and all the symptoms that made me feel like I had herpes or prostate cancer or "non specific prostatitus" (as the doctor coined it for lack of a better set of words) melted away, the guessing game stopped for like twenty years....
until just now.
That is what brought me here today. And I am very grateful that I tuned in because you just reminded me of those days many years ago (1995ish).
Every paragraph took me back.
You see...I recently found a new sex partner after abstaining from sex for about three and a half years. My abstention was dew to the fact that this crazy girl I was messing around with for a short time and behind my girlfriends back told me that I gave her herpes. But it just didn't make sense for a lot of reasons, but primarily the crazy chick wasn't the only one, there was one other and neither girl had any herpes symptoms.
We checked right away. I did however or rather I tested positive for HSV but 1 or 2, I don't know. I lost contact with all involved and I stopped having sex at that time. I was just not sure if I had herpes or not and I took it as a wake up call to changed my life style regardless.
But I didn't get stressed. There was never any symptoms before the incident or for the three and a half years after....until today and let me tell you it is a very stressful time in my life.
I figure I've been running at my maximum stress level life and work wise. I have a couple of women chasing me and one that I like and that really wants me to give in but I haven't felt emotionally available or sexually interested. Then this 30 year old cutie bounces into my life and I'm off to the races.
At least I thought I was ready.
Can you believe I started to use a condom and she told me that she was allergic to latex. So being the selfish/stupid guy I still appear to be I throw caution to the wind and went bare back.
Two or three days later I think I do have herpes. Now one week in I got a red spot or two, that wet feeling with no discharge, a little heat and discomfort, I'm feeling ill abdomen wise and I am thinking "now you show up" WTF. Right?
Now, all those symptoms from 20 years ago are starting to come back.
But you no what I am also experiencing is the highest stress level I have experienced for about...you guessed it...twenty years.
The added emotional stress dumped on top of my stressful life style has brought back all my symptoms.
Last time this stuff happened down there I discovered the book. The book describes an intricate network of muscles that operate your pelvic region from the pelvic floor. These pelvic muscles operate your penis, testicles, bladder...it can affect your abdomen, your rectum and all the above mentioned pelvic area organs.
The book suggested that I clench my fist and hold it for 30 seconds and then release and open your hand. Notice how stiff and hard to open it is. Now try it for 1 whole minute. More stiff right?
Well, as the book described it, imagine holding that fist clenched for say 5 years. Your wrists and arms probably wouldn't work that well and likely your shoulders and neck wouldn't either. That translates directly to the pelvic floor and that is what emotional stress does. It tightens the pelvic floor to such an extent that you get adverse effect in those areas attached.
It hurts cause its clenched and its gonna cause problems in every part of your body that it controls.
I'm gonna dig out that book.
Hope your all still tuned in. You've been looking for a long time.
Then during yet another search for answers I came across a book. Just reading the write up about the Book "Headache in the pelvis" I started feeling better in my pelvic area in general. Needless to say I bought the book and as I read, the pain and all the symptoms that made me feel like I had herpes or prostate cancer or "non specific prostatitus" (as the doctor coined it for lack of a better set of words) melted away, the guessing game stopped for like twenty years....
until just now.
That is what brought me here today. And I am very grateful that I tuned in because you just reminded me of those days many years ago (1995ish).
Every paragraph took me back.
You see...I recently found a new sex partner after abstaining from sex for about three and a half years. My abstention was dew to the fact that this crazy girl I was messing around with for a short time and behind my girlfriends back told me that I gave her herpes. But it just didn't make sense for a lot of reasons, but primarily the crazy chick wasn't the only one, there was one other and neither girl had any herpes symptoms.
We checked right away. I did however or rather I tested positive for HSV but 1 or 2, I don't know. I lost contact with all involved and I stopped having sex at that time. I was just not sure if I had herpes or not and I took it as a wake up call to changed my life style regardless.
But I didn't get stressed. There was never any symptoms before the incident or for the three and a half years after....until today and let me tell you it is a very stressful time in my life.
I figure I've been running at my maximum stress level life and work wise. I have a couple of women chasing me and one that I like and that really wants me to give in but I haven't felt emotionally available or sexually interested. Then this 30 year old cutie bounces into my life and I'm off to the races.
At least I thought I was ready.
Can you believe I started to use a condom and she told me that she was allergic to latex. So being the selfish/stupid guy I still appear to be I throw caution to the wind and went bare back.
Two or three days later I think I do have herpes. Now one week in I got a red spot or two, that wet feeling with no discharge, a little heat and discomfort, I'm feeling ill abdomen wise and I am thinking "now you show up" WTF. Right?
Now, all those symptoms from 20 years ago are starting to come back.
But you no what I am also experiencing is the highest stress level I have experienced for about...you guessed it...twenty years.
The added emotional stress dumped on top of my stressful life style has brought back all my symptoms.
Last time this stuff happened down there I discovered the book. The book describes an intricate network of muscles that operate your pelvic region from the pelvic floor. These pelvic muscles operate your penis, testicles, bladder...it can affect your abdomen, your rectum and all the above mentioned pelvic area organs.
The book suggested that I clench my fist and hold it for 30 seconds and then release and open your hand. Notice how stiff and hard to open it is. Now try it for 1 whole minute. More stiff right?
Well, as the book described it, imagine holding that fist clenched for say 5 years. Your wrists and arms probably wouldn't work that well and likely your shoulders and neck wouldn't either. That translates directly to the pelvic floor and that is what emotional stress does. It tightens the pelvic floor to such an extent that you get adverse effect in those areas attached.
It hurts cause its clenched and its gonna cause problems in every part of your body that it controls.
I'm gonna dig out that book.
Hope your all still tuned in. You've been looking for a long time.
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