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Herpes, Fungus, Balanitis, Yeast, UTI...what is wrong with me?!?!?

I've been reading other's stories trying to figure this out but I can't, so here it goes...sorry, it's a long one:

I'm a 30 year old man and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years now.  We were both tested and were negative for STDs when we started dating and have had unprotected sex since then.  Where the story starts, we had unprotected sex on 3/21/13.  Then 3 days later, I VERY STUPIDLY hooked up with a girl I met online during the afternoon on 3/24/13.  She gave me brief unprotected oral sex (she didn't have any signs of lesions or sores on her mouth).  That night I started to feel a weird tingling/uncomfortable feeling in my penis and there were a few small little red spots on the penis head (I'm uncircumcised and I have been getting this as well as some painful redness/irritation under my foreskin after sex or masturbation for a few years now).  This continued through the week.  There was never any discharge and no red spots on my penis ever turned into blisters or oozed any pus or anything.  They would subside in a day or so.  I emailed the girl I had oral sex with to see if she had any STDs.  She said no.  Later in the week I asked her again since the pain was still there and she said no again.  Not surprisingly, she was offended that I kept asking so she told me I was crazy and not to contact her again.

6 days after the oral sex, I went to see my PCP and discussed the situation.  She examined the red spots and didn't see anything to indicate an STD.  She still did a urine sample and that came out negative for Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and any UTI or bacterial infections.  She also gave me the antibiotics to get rid of Chlamydia/Gonorrhea.  The discomfort and pain continued for another 2-3 weeks, off and on throughout the day.  The pain felt like it was inside my urethra.  Sometimes it felt like the pain would move into my lower abdomen or into my legs, but I didn't know if I was making this up in my head or not.  Still no discharge.  I went back to my PCP for a regular checkup on 4/26/13.  By then pretty much all discomfort/pain had subsided, though I would feel it every once in a while.  To be safe, my doctor did a full blood test for STD's (including Herpes).  I got the test results back a week later and everything was NEGATIVE (though I didn't get any numbers on the tests).  Following those results and the lack of symptoms, I felt like I was in the clear!  I had been reading A LOT on this website and others and decided it must have been something like balanitis or a fungal infection from being uncircumcised, so I started applying Lotrimin anti-fungal cream on my penis which didn't seem to bother it at all and seemed to keep any redness or soreness away.

My girlfriend and I then had unprotected sex the morning of 5/11/13 (the first time we've had unprotected sex since this incident).  I don't know if this was just terrible coincidence or what but the next day I started to feel the discomfort in my penis/urethra again.  Then the following night, my girlfriend mentioned to me that she wanted to break up with me (or at least take some time apart).  This news hit me like a freight train.  Side note: she doesn't know about my STUPID moment of infidelity...the break up is unrelated if that matters at all.

That night I couldn't sleep that well and to make matters worse, the pain in my urethra was at the maximum pain it had ever been.  The next day it continued.  My penis head also seemed to be red/inflamed, and the pain seemed the worst AFTER urination (no burning during though).  The pain continued throughout the week, fluctuating between almost nothing to very discomforting.  Again, it seemed to move around.  It would go from the urethra, to my lower abdomen area, to my lower back, to my thighs, sometimes in my testicles, and then back around.  I also started to feel jolts of pains in my leg muscles.  I even think I was getting some in my arms at times too, but things have been so stressful for me, I don't really know what's real and what's not anymore.

The pain again continued, so on 5/18/13, I went to an Emergency Care MD, since my PCP wasn't available.  I explained the whole story and the doctor examined my penis.  I had a few painless red spots/bumps again, but she said those are completely normal and don't look like herpes or anything else that I should be worried about.  They did a urine test again and again gave me antibiotics for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea.  A few days later, I got a call from them and the urine sample was again NEGATIVE for everything.  She had referred me to a urologist whom I met with on 5/23.  Again, I mentioned the whole story.  He asked about pain from ejaculation.  Sadly I have only masturbated one or two times since this all started.  I did notice pain in my perineum when I ejaculated the one time.  Before he even examined me, he diagnosed me with Prostatitis and CPPS (he never did an actual prostate exam...he only examined my penis area).  He gave me a 10-day dose of Levaquin (levofloxacin).  I started to take this that day.  Even before I went to see him that day, it seemed like the pain in my urethra was starting to subside.  Finally, it seemed like there was light at the end of the tunnel!  I had a diagnosis, the pain was subsiding, and I had the treatment to help with this!

However, on 5/25/13, I woke up in the middle of the night from a wet dream.  Yeah, I still get these every few weeks.  I cleaned myself up and went back to bed.  When I woke up a few hours later, I noticed my urethra was a little wet.  There wasn't much there but I had a little clear, sticky fluid coming out.  I figured this was just left over semen from the wet dream.  Then about an hour or so later, I noticed something on my penis head.  It was one small raised papule...about 1/2 mm in size.  To me, it just seemed like a normal papule on the penis head that was red/inflamed.  It was painful to touch.  Then I noticed that I had some redness on the right side of my penis shaft under the foreskin, similar to what I sometimes get after sex or masturbation.  This was also painful to touch.  There were 4-6 raised red spots and when I pulled my foreskin back tightly, I could see little blood vessels emanating from them as well.  I thought maybe this was irritation from my wet dream and sleeping for some time with semen on my penis, so I applied some Lotrimin cream.  Later that evening, I had checked myself again and things seemed to be a little worse.  The redness was larger and now there seemed to be a few more red spots/bumps...all about 1/2 to 1 mm in size.  I could feel the pain in my penis now.  I kept examining these but they never blistered or became ulcers.  There were just tiny raised spots with redness around them on my penis shaft under my foreskin and a few right at the edge where the penis head meets the shaft.  I was also feeling jolts in my muscles again.

The next day 5/26/13, I went back to the Emergency Care MD.  They had my notes from last time, so I gave them the update from the urologist, the wet dream, and the spots I have found and the lingering pain.  The doctor (different from last time) examined me and said it might be herpes or it might be something else.  He was very vague.  They did a swab of the infected area under my foreskin and I am currently awaiting the results.  He wouldn't say for sure that it was herpes but he gave me a 10-day prescription of Valtrex and told me to wait for the results.  And even if the results are negative, that it could still be herpes and I should get another blood test in a week or so.  Yeah, I now know that herpes takes time to show up in blood tests.  The red bumps are almost all gone now (never scabbed) but the pain is still in my penis.  As you can tell, I am really FREAKING out now and wonder if anyone has any input on what could possibly be wrong with me?  This one stupid mistake has ruined my life.  

Please help!
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101028 tn?1419603004
yes indeed stress and anxiety can cause all over aches and pains like this.  keep active -walking and such release endorphins too that help you feel better in general as well as keeps your muscles all stretched properly :)
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Hi Grace,

I just wanted to update you on this.  The test swab came back NEGATIVE for Herpes.  Clearly, this was a relief.  The swab was taken within 24 hours after they appeared so I feel pretty good about the result.  Plus, I had the negative blood test 5-6 weeks after the unprotected oral sex.

However, I'm still worried about what is happening to me.  I have been having what I could only describe as constant neuralgia now.  All throughout the day I get jolts of pain in my muscles all over my body....my thighs, my legs, my stomach, chest, and arms.  Every once in a while I feel some pain in my penis, my testicles, my perineum, and/or anus, but it's pretty mild.  Can Prostatitis/CPPS cause this?  My girlfriend and I are still going through this lengthy breakup as well (living together but I'm moving out this month) so I'm extremely stressed....can stress cause this?

Any ideas what this is???
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Thanks again Grace!  I'll be sure to report back when I get the results of the swab back.
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101028 tn?1419603004
as I said, these don't sound at all like herpes.  

I'd certainly continue cleansing daily with a mild soap under your foreskin and applying an antifungal twice a day.
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Thanks for the quick reply!  I only went to the walk in clinics because both times it happened to be a Saturday and it was my only choice.

These red spots are definitely more aggressive than what I've had on my foreskin before.  Can herpes appear as red bumps on the foreskin that never ooze, blister?  Upon further examination, they might be scabbing very very slightly.  And could I have prodrome symptoms on and off for 2 months without a "classic" breakout before finally having one, if that's what this is?

I felt so relieved with the herpes blood test being negative at 5-6 weeks after the encounter, but then read afterward that it might be a false negative that early, so I'm really worried about that as well.

Do you think this is candida, fungal, or yeast problem instead?  I feel like my situation is unlike anything I've read on the internet (and I've scoured over soooo many articles, forums, etc...
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Wow I have red shiny bombs on my penis they look like balanitis when I saw it in a pic they don't give me pain sometime they will show up on my penis and sometime don't I'm worried I am 15 years old and these bombs came couple days after having unprotected sex with my 15 year old girl friend it was the first time I ever had sex  when I ask an adult man wat he thinks the bumps are he said it sounds like a fungal infection but I don't know if he is right I am really worried some one please help me.
101028 tn?1419603004
this doesn't sound at all like herpes going on. your original herpes testing was negative so odds are you would've had a very "classic" initial first episode - multiple and painful lesions within 2-20 days after the encounter.  

at this point, no more walk in clinics or ER's. they are not good at issues like this and you've already covered the testing bases that they are usually most helpful with.    You should be exclusively following up with the urologist at this point.

grace
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