I would add, I think your symptoms are due to anxiety. Also, unprotected sex with partners of unknown std status is risky behavior for you and your spouse. I am not making any moral judgement, but for yours and your spouse's health and safety, you should get in the habit of using condoms on a regular basis.
I agrew with 100% with the std clinic. I will add stop reading herpes symptoms lists. When you don't understand how the virus works you can't understand the context of the symptoms. None of this is herpes related