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How can you talk about it??
I dated my now ex-boyfriend. I was clean had proper paperwork stating it. After we broke up, I found out that I herpes types 2, but at the same time I would break out in my mouth also. So i told him to go get tested because I tested positive for herpes. Well it's like he can have a normal conversation with everyone else but me. I know he has it. Why is it so hard for him to talk to me about this??
I have type-2 genital herpes. They did do a lesion culture of my mouth and saw that I had canker sores too. Well i will look at her forum.
I don't know how to get him to go get tested"IF" he hasn't been tested. He's not going to tell, so therefore I already know that he has it. I've asked him to go get tested. I really don't know what type he has but I have type-2, so possibility he might test positive in the same area. I mean I've read where people have outbreaks in the mouth and have genital herpes. I know we are not ruined, but too him, he feels ruined.
He won't talk to me about it and it's letting me know that he does have it. If I send it to him he will probably push more and more away, because he is ignoring me completely. Maybe it's hard for him to deal with because he is embarrassed or feels ashame. I'm trying to do my best.
I don't know how to get him to go get tested"IF" he hasn't been tested. He's not going to tell, so therefore I already know that he has it. I've asked him to go get tested. I really don't know what type he has but I have type-2, so possibility he might test positive in the same area. I mean I've read where people have outbreaks in the mouth and have genital herpes. I know we are not ruined, but too him, he feels ruined.
He won't talk to me about it and it's letting me know that he does have it. If I send it to him he will probably push more and more away, because he is ignoring me completely. Maybe it's hard for him to deal with because he is embarrassed or feels ashame. I'm trying to do my best.
hsv2 orally rarely reoccurs. you'd need a + lesion culture of your mouth symptoms to confirm that you are the exception to the general rule and have frequently reoccurring hsv2 orally. this is well worth looking into. don't hesitate to pay to post on Terri Warren's herpes expert forum here on medhelp for more info on hsv2 orally.
neither of you are ruined. He needs to better educate himself on hsv2 and he also needs to get tested to know his status. he can get the risk of transmission down to a female partner as low as 2-3%/year ( you can get transmission to a male partner down to 1%/year ). Perhaps send him a link to the free herpes handbook so he can better educate himself on herpes?
neither of you are ruined. He needs to better educate himself on hsv2 and he also needs to get tested to know his status. he can get the risk of transmission down to a female partner as low as 2-3%/year ( you can get transmission to a male partner down to 1%/year ). Perhaps send him a link to the free herpes handbook so he can better educate himself on herpes?
I've been tested for this. I tested after I broke up with him. And I pretty much knew something was wrong because my body felt like it was getting attacked.
I've asked to be tested for everything...and herpes is what I have. Seen the paperwork plain as day. I have type-2 but at the same time I have the same sores on my mouth. Three doctors have confirmed it.
Yeah I understand that, but he is having a hard time dealing with it as I am. He said he was ruined. Yeah, it doesn't mean to pass something on to someone and not take responsibility for your actions. Sometimes you can't worry about self, because you never know when you are going to need that person help. I'm dealing with it perfectly fine. I know I have it for the rest of my life, but sometimes the truth feels good to hear.
I've asked to be tested for everything...and herpes is what I have. Seen the paperwork plain as day. I have type-2 but at the same time I have the same sores on my mouth. Three doctors have confirmed it.
Yeah I understand that, but he is having a hard time dealing with it as I am. He said he was ruined. Yeah, it doesn't mean to pass something on to someone and not take responsibility for your actions. Sometimes you can't worry about self, because you never know when you are going to need that person help. I'm dealing with it perfectly fine. I know I have it for the rest of my life, but sometimes the truth feels good to hear.
odds are what is going on in your mouth isn't hsv2. how often are you getting mouth symptoms?
what testing have you had done so far?
he's an ex. Don't expect to get what you are looking for from him. the relationship is over so look elsewhere for ways to deal with this. You told him you were diagnosed and thought it might've come from him. Nothing else you can do at this point.
also make sure you were tested for herpes when you had last had std testing prior to this partner. it's not a part of routine std testing so you don't always get tested for it when you ask for it.
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what testing have you had done so far?
he's an ex. Don't expect to get what you are looking for from him. the relationship is over so look elsewhere for ways to deal with this. You told him you were diagnosed and thought it might've come from him. Nothing else you can do at this point.
also make sure you were tested for herpes when you had last had std testing prior to this partner. it's not a part of routine std testing so you don't always get tested for it when you ask for it.
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