I'm a 29 year old male with genital herpes, last week I began having unprotected sex with a female partner that was not infected prior to us being together. During the week we had intercourse a half a dozen times, unprotected.
At this time and in the weeks prior I was taking a one-a-day generic for Valtrex.
Around the time we began sleeping together I started to notice familiar warning signs of an outbreak. (ie. tingling sensations) I remained vigilant in my one-a-day therapy but continued to have unprotected sex.
We recently slept together on Monday and Wednesday, it is now Saturday. I would say Monday I was aware of the sensations, by Wednesday they were not any worse but had been present for a couple of days.
I did a more thorough check on Thursday morning to find what appeared to be a freckle, as well as what appeared to be the very early stages of a wart. Thursday afternoon the sensations also became more noticeable. I have a tendency to blow things out of proportion, but with the sensations and my past dealings with this virus that I have had for ten years, I feel confident in my ability to identify it. On Thursday I doubled my anti-virus doses and have not slept with this girl since Wed. night.
I think it's also important to mention that I have not been sick in quite some time, I work out very hard on a pretty regular basis, and would not be surprised if my immune system is low. I'm still able to identify the two spots on the shaft of my penis and they are in the same general vicinity as the tingling sensations.
I'm currently approx. 5 days into the sensations and have been taking 1000-1500 doses of a Valtrex generic for 3 days. The sensations are still present but the signs on my genitalia appear to be no further advanced.
In fact the the most noticeable spot on the shaft of my penis looks like a freckle. Just below it is a very tiny spot that also sits along a vein. Although very small, I thought it showed signs of being a donut shape which is consistent with herpes, but it is not risen from the skin nor is the surrounding skin irritated.
I'm wondering if the doses of anti-virul could be fighting the virus and not 'killling' it... Just keeping it in a state of activity on my skin without becoming more aggressive than it currently is?
To the substance of my issue...
I've done a ton of reading the last couple of days and learned what I should have know a long time ago. I'm familiar with much of what the internet has to offer, (ie. asymptomatic shedding, blood tests, etc.), but I still consider myself extremely ignorant.
More important I'm absolutely distraught over what I may have done to this girl. I'm ashamed and scared out of my mind...
I have no idea how to tell her and I don't know who to turn to for answers.
Any help concerning my situation is greatly appreciated.
A more clearer diagnoses of my symptoms...?
The timing of the situation and the chances that I passed this virus on to her...?
How to deal moving forward...?
Ultimately... Is there a 'legitimate' chance that we slept together, unprotected, half a dozen times during this type of outbreak and she did not contract the virus?
Thank you very much for your help,
Scared & Ashamed