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Transmission rates?
I had unprotected vaginal intercourse with someone for 1-2 minutes (pulled out, decided no condom was a bad idea). I found out later that she was positive for HSV2 and didn't think to tell me because she didn't know you could transmit it if you didn't have symptoms.
What are the chances from this single exposure of me contracting the virus being that she didn't have symptoms at the time of the exposure?
What are the chances from this single exposure of me contracting the virus being that she didn't have symptoms at the time of the exposure?
Well you know the men always think it's easier for the ladies and vice versa. dating in general sucks no matter what your gender. Part of the reason why waring and I come at it all differently than some posters is we've both had hsv2 for 20+ years. Most of our sexual life has been with genital herpes - we know it's not the big deal many folks assume it has to be. Been there, done that and if it's affected our sex lives - we sure haven't noticed it. Nothing to do with our gender - has to do more with us as a whole - someone who is self assured, smart and funny is a heck of a lot more attractive to others than someone who plays the oh woe is me card or locks themselves away afraid to take chances in life. I don't know about waring but I know for myself - I usually send the menfolk running off long before I ever get around to bringing up the topic of my herpes!
How did you get hsv1 before the age of 8? When we are young our immune systems are not fully mature so it's a heck of a lot easier for us to pick up everything - including hsv1 orally. About 1/3 of us in the US contract hsv1 orally before we start kindergarten. We get it from our parents and our caregivers - not thru sexual means mind you but from ways that as an adult we are more immune to . Same with genital herpes - sure you can get it from a one time encounter - I'm proof enough of that myself- but you are more likely to get it from multiple encounters with someone who has it. All my long term partners haven't contracted hsv2 - thankfully haven't transmitted it since the first year I was infected. Herpes really isn't THAT contagious - especially for males. Even if someone isn't on suppressive therapy - if it's after the first year or so of infection - they are not actively shedding the virus about 311 days out of the year on average!! That's a heck of a lot of risk free days you can be having sex with someone :)
grace
How did you get hsv1 before the age of 8? When we are young our immune systems are not fully mature so it's a heck of a lot easier for us to pick up everything - including hsv1 orally. About 1/3 of us in the US contract hsv1 orally before we start kindergarten. We get it from our parents and our caregivers - not thru sexual means mind you but from ways that as an adult we are more immune to . Same with genital herpes - sure you can get it from a one time encounter - I'm proof enough of that myself- but you are more likely to get it from multiple encounters with someone who has it. All my long term partners haven't contracted hsv2 - thankfully haven't transmitted it since the first year I was infected. Herpes really isn't THAT contagious - especially for males. Even if someone isn't on suppressive therapy - if it's after the first year or so of infection - they are not actively shedding the virus about 311 days out of the year on average!! That's a heck of a lot of risk free days you can be having sex with someone :)
grace
Ok I am going to have to rewrite my bloody post because it was lost!
To 2worried 2578, I think your comments to Jason were very rational, not you, you could be one of these people who 'I got given oral sex with a condom and now I have AIDS people' because, well...i could not find your story.
Jason and me are in different boots, I like your comments because they were rational.
I could have it so could Jason but you...are you sure about getting married?
You need to tell your story because well I think everyone gets weird feelings throughout there body all the time. Sounds like your more nervous about marrying someone and may have some cold feet type feelings, it's pretty common for people to brush certain problems under the carpet but to come out through imagined anxieties!
anyway
I don't get it it, this whole Herpes thing, so how did I get oral herpes before the age of 8 if its harder to catch than genital, I wasn't exactly having hard core pashes at the nursery!
Now I'm negative post 6 months after having hard sex, and some inside contact with a proven female HSV2 carrier and I get negative IGG results? well I've read the stats and I've still got a just under 18% chance of still having it, 1 in 5 odds!
Waringblender and Grace come from a different perspective, HSV2+ an female. Women find it easier to get men. End of story. I find it hard to get girls ,, let alone with an STD, it would be over for me.
It's much more serious for blokes!
To 2worried 2578, I think your comments to Jason were very rational, not you, you could be one of these people who 'I got given oral sex with a condom and now I have AIDS people' because, well...i could not find your story.
Jason and me are in different boots, I like your comments because they were rational.
I could have it so could Jason but you...are you sure about getting married?
You need to tell your story because well I think everyone gets weird feelings throughout there body all the time. Sounds like your more nervous about marrying someone and may have some cold feet type feelings, it's pretty common for people to brush certain problems under the carpet but to come out through imagined anxieties!
anyway
I don't get it it, this whole Herpes thing, so how did I get oral herpes before the age of 8 if its harder to catch than genital, I wasn't exactly having hard core pashes at the nursery!
Now I'm negative post 6 months after having hard sex, and some inside contact with a proven female HSV2 carrier and I get negative IGG results? well I've read the stats and I've still got a just under 18% chance of still having it, 1 in 5 odds!
Waringblender and Grace come from a different perspective, HSV2+ an female. Women find it easier to get men. End of story. I find it hard to get girls ,, let alone with an STD, it would be over for me.
It's much more serious for blokes!
enough of the nit picking at other posters or it'll be time to shut down the thread ok?? Remember we are here for support and education - not bickering.
Thank you :)
grace
Thank you :)
grace
I guess we're gonna make this thread the longest in the forum eventually....
Thanks for thinking I'm rational Breeder. However, right now i'd rather not be correct about my thoughts - cuz if they are right, I have herpes.
I wish that I am indeed being irrational (like waringblender says) about the symptoms i am having, or overly-anxious rather. I should get my results in the next day or two, and I am more scared than ever.
I also just found out that children born to mothers (like my future wife) who have HSV2 are at a higher risk of developing schizophrenia, something which already runs in my family. These are the results of a study.
On top of that, my mother came down with Bell's Palsy last night, WHICH I UNDERSTAND, can also be caused by HSV1?
What's goign on with this virus???
Anyway, Breeder, lay off my friend Waringblender.
Thanks for thinking I'm rational Breeder. However, right now i'd rather not be correct about my thoughts - cuz if they are right, I have herpes.
I wish that I am indeed being irrational (like waringblender says) about the symptoms i am having, or overly-anxious rather. I should get my results in the next day or two, and I am more scared than ever.
I also just found out that children born to mothers (like my future wife) who have HSV2 are at a higher risk of developing schizophrenia, something which already runs in my family. These are the results of a study.
On top of that, my mother came down with Bell's Palsy last night, WHICH I UNDERSTAND, can also be caused by HSV1?
What's goign on with this virus???
Anyway, Breeder, lay off my friend Waringblender.
This should ease some minds, though I am one to tell people to err on the side of caution...please! I got herpes from my bisexual (scum sucking bast***) ex-husband. I didn't know I had herpes till eight years later, after I had been married to my wonderful husband I have now for six years! I thought I was having a lot of repeats of the horrible yeast infections I have gotten since I started having periods.
My husband never once showed signs of infection. The occasion that sent me to the Dr. was the worst outbreak I had ever had...got in my eyes too. I had spent two weeks at a sort of boot camp for Navy Reserve, and had gotten stressed out of my ever lovin gourd, and that was what triggered that outbreak. Friends, I was one sick cookie.
Anyway, THAT was when I learned I had herpes. My husband went in to be checked, and he did not have herpes. It's true that I never wanted to have sex during those wretched "yeast infections", but that my husband never got infected is a concept worth pondering.
People shouldn't go crazy just because they have had sex. Be cautious, yeah. Wear a condom, absolutely! Be a little smart about partners. There is too much fear in the world. Carpe Diem everybody.
My husband never once showed signs of infection. The occasion that sent me to the Dr. was the worst outbreak I had ever had...got in my eyes too. I had spent two weeks at a sort of boot camp for Navy Reserve, and had gotten stressed out of my ever lovin gourd, and that was what triggered that outbreak. Friends, I was one sick cookie.
Anyway, THAT was when I learned I had herpes. My husband went in to be checked, and he did not have herpes. It's true that I never wanted to have sex during those wretched "yeast infections", but that my husband never got infected is a concept worth pondering.
People shouldn't go crazy just because they have had sex. Be cautious, yeah. Wear a condom, absolutely! Be a little smart about partners. There is too much fear in the world. Carpe Diem everybody.
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