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Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?

Hi I m a 28 year old and suffer some degree of ED in recent. I start masturbated since I m 19 and usually use porn as a form of visual stimiulation. I have observed that I have lost the ability to maintain erect during intercource or I only get weak erection. My question is: does masturbation in association with porn will "exhaust" my interest towards sex and create a negative impact on my ability to get aroused in real sex? I m worried cause I think I m still young to have physical cause  for ED. Any thought?
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F***! Thank you! I've been plagued with this forever! I haven't been able to get laid... the last two times that happened, I just couldn't get it up properly... I have a serious porn/masturbation addiction... something like 3-4 times a day! Life is a mess! My concentration and my confidence both of them are effing ruined! I actually start being scared and afraid when it comes to making a move on a woman and I know I'm good enough to go out and have a good time but the thoughts of what will happen if this moves forward start to plague me! The last two times was embarassing... I even faked/pretended to be afraid that I have testosterone deficiency and underwent a lot of stress with the doctors! I started thinking maybe this happens only with me! So I started trying to control my masturbation a few weeks back... The first time it was very tough not to sit back and watch some porn or some cyber sex and get off... I lasted only a day and the next I was at it... The next streak was 3 days though after which I failed the next 2. My last streak was 5 days which ended today when I just couldn't help myself... I was listless, unproductive and everything just started to get to me when I caved in... The sad part is that the kicks of doing it after long gaps, you can actually feel the rush :( I can't talk about this to anyone else! So today after I got done, I started browsing trying to find the correlation between ED and porn/masturbation and found a couple of articles and then this page! I really wanted to vent it all out so I registered and here I am talking it out! Sh** Sh**, life just feels like it is in shambles a lotta times!
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Its me again, I haven't watched porn or masturbated in the last seven days, since I last posted this message! Last night got pretty crazy when I started to get the urge, it was sheer torture! Didn't know how crazy this would get... but it gets pretty nasty when you start getting horny and you gotta do everything you can to control yourself, to not touch yourself :( F***!! But I tried really hard and stopped myself... No, I didn't post this so someone could give me a cookie or a golden star! Just thought I should share... let it out.
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I've had the same problem with porn harming my performance with real girls.  I'm 26 and it wasn't much of a problem until this year pretty much.  I've always masturbated at least once a day since I was 12 or so, often 3 or 4 times a day once I matured a bit.  As I gained more freedom growing up and greater access to porn..well.. that became a central focus during those activities.  Once I finished college, I met far fewer girls of course.. as school kinda puts everyone right there together, but not so much in the real working world.  Well, I've had trouble staying erect lately with my partner unless I skip all porn and masturbation for a few days ahead of time, which makes it hard to be spontaneous.  That seems to be the trick of it, just give it up for a bit and you should get it back.  I think I'll have to start severely cutting back.  Now, in all fairness, I've also changed my diet up recently, but I think I was seeing these problems start before that.  I cut most all sugars and a lot of fat from my diet to keep from gaining weight as I age, and I think that has actually hurt me some to, even though it is a healthier diet.  I think my body is reluctant to steal energy from fat cells or something when it coems to sex.  In any case, holding back on porn/masturbation seems to help.  
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This is amazing!  Thanks - will try and see if it works.  I find it ironic that Internet, the tool that has harmed us, may also be the tool that saves us again bc I found this info on this site.  I hate hate hate all those effing stupid sites that say there is nothin wrong with masturbation.  Clearly it is OK only in moderAtion!!!  Clearly that is effing bullsh$ t and those doctors should be fined or sent home for patient mis-information!!!!
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I'm 26, haven't had sex, because of low libido and being completely stressed out. Thought I had no interest in sex.  But if that's so, then why all the porn and jerking off?  It's weird because, I'm attracted to a lot of the girls I have the opportunity to have sex with, but when the moment comes, I'm terrified, and end up just not doing anything to avoid any embarrassment.  This is pissing me off.  I know I'm not going to be a guy who goes out and has one night stands all the time, thats apparently not me, but I want to have some kind of healthy sexual output.  Porn makes it so I am only aroused when there's this separation, like objectification of women.  Objects don't stress me out.  People and their expectations do.  Whats even worse is girls assume you're some oversexed guy, and you flirt with them, and its all a joke, cause I'd rather jerk off to porn than have sex with them.  That *****, cause I know girls can take that personally, like they're not attractive enough, but mostly its cause I'm too stressed out/terrified, and now I'm also thinking its the whole porn thing.  And I think it is.  I went on a 2 week trip to a foreign country where I had no privacy, and I was horny as hell.  This is messing with my life.  I don't want to spend my existence in front of a computer.  I don't think I'm compulsive about porn and jerking off any more, but I still haven't managed to meld my sexuality with my normal life.  When girls start talking about their sexuality or how much they enjoy sex, honestly it scares the sh*t out of me, and I'm like thrown completely off balance.  Cause porn is compartmentalization.  You take your sexuality and you put it off in this world of complete fantasy, where it doesn't connect with any of your normal reactions.  Thats so weird too, because I can watch crazy porn but if anything like that happened to me in real life, I'd be scared sh*tless probably.  
Anyways, glad I found this thread, excuse the rant.  I'm going to eat avocado, do some ginseng pills, and stop jerking to porn for 6 months.  I know it may take some time to undo a life time of damage, but f*ck it.  It's worth it.  I've got to try.
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I am glad I found this thread. I have gone through  the whole gamut of emotions trying to understand my husband and his addition to porn.

Since May, our relationship changed. The sex and his interest in me stopped. At first I thought life was getting in the way. We were both tired and busy with the kids etc. Then a few weeks turned into a month, and a month turned into two months, two into three, then finally after 4 months, it all came to a head.

I found on my husband's computer porn as well as web directory  for special massage places in Bangkok. (We live here).  I asked him about it and he said the it was "porn". Of course there was no porn on the web directory, just addresses and locations. I still to this day cannot believe he thinks I am so dumb. Later that same night, I found "Magic Relax Bangkok", a special massage parlor in Bangkok, in his recent google searches. I asked him again, he had no answer but what did come out of his mouth was a tirade of how I nag him and I've gained weight, and how I don't appreciate him, and on and on about how I am the problem, not him.

I went though a terrible time of sorting through the truth and lies.  We fought for about one month more.  I was so hurt, so lonely, and very confused. After more fights and discussions, and me sleeping in the guest room,  we finally  got back on track and had sex and it was great. I MEAN great. Then the very next day, I found him in the bathroom with his other women, his laptop and his bottle of lotion. It was so stupid of me to this we would make up for lost time and screw like rabbits every night.

Then it went on from there, 5am in the bathroom or every time I left the house, he would be in the bathroom. I could see his feet under the door and he was going at it like a mad man.  I really felt horrible about myself. That he preferred chronic self abuse over the me. I thought that maybe I need to be more freaky, more open to this things he likes, which I did, and I actually liked doing. But then the next day I realized I was competing with xhamster, rawtube, youporn, hardsextube for my husband's attention. I am just one woman. How can I possibly complete with porn stars and freaky amateurs.

That got me wondering about all the amateur videos posted on those sites. I wondered if perhaps these women were allowing their sex sessions to be taped in order to keep up with their partners' addition. Maybe these women were shut out because of porn and then got back into bed with their partners by participating. And then I thought some more about if solo porn watching turns into making videos, and that turns into live chat, and that turns into special massages, and that turns into swinging...like in High School how we were warned that pot would lead to harder drugs. It was then I realized the potential hazards of the endless supply of internet porn and how the porn gets dirtier and dirtier. Do you guys find yourself needing freakier and freakier porn to get you off? I betting my husband is.

My husband went on a business trip for a week, without his computer, and I thought that maybe he the break from the porn train would open his eyes. Sure enough, he came home at 2am, I was awake, but he headed straight to the bathroom and to his porn. The next two nights I turned on my freak button hoping to win back my husband. Sadly, I had my husband back for just those two nights and since then he has been in the bathroom while I cried myself to sleep.

Now, I am no longer sad and beside myself. I am mad as hell. He is actually grossing me out now. I don't want to have sex with him and I am actually thinking about having an affair.  We have two small kids and neither one of us wants a divorce. However, I don't know if I can stay and continue to be cast aside and play second fiddle to his hand.
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