Don't know how to cope

[KayMartinez0427]

A week ago I found out that I'm carrying my dead baby, and have been for weeks now. I'm supposed to be 12.5 weeks but when I went in for my second appointment last week they said it had been dead since week eight. I'm so depressed, I can barley get out of bed. I can't eat and when I do it won't stay down, I barley and so I have no motivation to do anything. Every time I start to accept that it's dead, I get even more depressed because I remember that it's still in there and it's killing me to know that. My doctor said I could wait to pass it naturally or I can do a D&C, I decided to pass it naturally but I don't know if I can take another day. I can't figure out how to deal with it. If anyone has been through this and has something that helped them that they wouldn't mind sharing, it would be appreciated.

[AnnieBrooke]

Having scar tissue in the uterus can make it difficult for a new pregnancy to take hold.  And (of course not always), if an embryo does not pass rather quickly, there can be some scar tissue formed.  Please discuss this with your doctor, I'm not equipped to explain it medically, I just know I had to have two separate surgeries to remove scar tissue after my babies passed and the doctor told me it was due to my waiting so long.  You might google "Asherman's" for some information.

[KayMartinez0427]

How did the babies being in there so long cause scar tissue and why does scar tissue make another pregnancy impossible?

[AnnieBrooke]

I did this, too, when the doctor told me that my twins had died.  I waited 4 weeks, and then passed them naturally.  However, I would have had the D&C if I had known that the waiting would give me scar tissue that would make a subsequent pregnancy impossible.  Please consider the D&C.