after a d and c

[chelly29902]

Hey guys, I had a d and c on Thursday. I was doing well yesterday with a lot less bleeding and virtually no cramping but when I woke up this morning I was doubled over in pain. I had a lot of cramping but no bleeding... is this normal to have so much cramping? Also, I was told that I could have sex three days after but that seems too fast. For any of you that have been through this, how long did you wait to have sex? Were any of you told that you only had to wait three days? Or how long were you told to wait? How long was it until you felt "normal"? I know everyone's different, I just need yalls opinion. I really dont feel three days is long enough to heal. Please help. Any input is appreciated, thank you. Sincerely, Michelle

sorry for so many questions,I'm just so confused. also, thank you to everyone who posted on my last thread. it feels good to know I'm not alone.

[linzie81]

i had a d& c yesterday at 10 at 10 ws pregnant
i stRTED MISCARRIGE ON MY OWN BUT THE TISSUE IN MY CERVI WAS TO TICK TO PAST IT SO NO OTHER CHOICE ONLY TO HAVE A D&C FELT GRAND AFTER IT NOT REALLY MUCH BLEEDIN OR CRAMPIN BUT TODAY I AM IN SERVE PAIN WITH MY NECK AND BAK ?? DNT NO WHY IM HAVEN THESE BUT HAS ANY ONE EVER EXPERINCE IT DEMSELF S

[Vestall]

Sorry for your loss..after my DandC I didnt have much cramping and like Nolta said I didnt even bleed after I left the hospital as well, and to have sex after 2 weeks. Because I was really worried about everything whats happend and I thought one more problem like infection just would be to much for me. So we waited that all time. And even after 3 days I didnt feel, like you said normal..But if you worried, you always can go to see your doctor and to get some advice..take care and be strong xx

[Nolta]

When I had my D&C I didn't have very much cramping or any at all, I didn't even bleed after I left the hospital. And to have sex I was told to wait 2 weeks in case of any infection or from making an infection. I'm sorry for your loss. Its always hard to heard such awful news. If the pains continue I would call your Dr. plus they should have prescribed some pain medicine and hopefully that would help. Just remember you are not alone there are many women like us who have gone through this. Take as long as you need to grieve and try to smile at least 5mins a day and soon it will come naturally (I stole it from Love Happens I think it’s a good idea).

[adgal]

I never had any serious cramping after a D&C either (I have had 2 as well).  If it continues, I would most definately contact your Dr.

As for sex afterward, yes I was told 3 days, or when the bleeding stopped.  But as queenspade said so well, it really depends on what you are comfortable with.

She said it all, so I just wanted to add my support, and to please be good to yourself.  I know this is such a hard time...allow yourself to grieve.  ((hugs)) to you as well.

[mjmom69]

I'm so sorry you had to go thru that. I did have some cramping for a couple of days, I wasn't doubling over though. Just like a bad AF. I waited about 9 days before we had sex, though my doctor didn't limit me. He told me it was ok when I was ready. Alot of doctors recommend a 2 week wait. I agree with queenspade, if you feel the pain is very bad at least call your doctor to question them about it. I know how hard this is and it will get better. You will go thru alot of emotions and ups & downs. Just let it happen and don't try to bury it. Talk to someone you trust if you feel like it and let yourself mourn. Take care and feel free to drop me a note if you need to talk. You are definitely not alone and we are here for you.

[queenspade]

Three days does seem a little soon to be but I am not a dr.  I have had 2 d&c's & possibly going to have a 3rd in the next week or so.  Even if my dr told me that I 'could' have sex in 3 days, if I wasn't ready then I would wait.  I didn't have much cramping after either procedure & if you feel it isn't normal, I would call your dr.  I was told to wait much longer than 3 days but I was 18 1/2 weeks pregnant when I had my D&C.  My dr. told me that my cervix had been through a lot & to wait a few weeks to prevent infection.  As far as feeling 'normal'....physically I felt pretty good within a couple days.  Mentally & emotionally is still a work in progress for me.  I hope that you start feeling better soon & I'm sorry for your loss.  (((HUGS)))
Jenn