what to do

[mealone402]

I am just recently divorced not even a month yet, I have now signed over my home of 20 years. I have went through emotional and verbal abuse for years. I am not a perfect person myself but neither was he. I am hurting still over all of this and I have not seen one single tear from him. we have a son and daughter my daughter is married but my son is a teenager and they both blame me. what can I do to make this easier on me and the kids

[activforlife]

Im sorry for your heart ache with divorce. I have been divorced as well, and it’s very painful and the fallout can last for a lifetime.
Please give yourself time to rest, “feel your loss”, and take care of yourself. Im time youir children will have a better sense of view of the whole thing. Our kids want to blame someone  as they feel helpless.

And dont give up on your happiness, life is hard, and we ALL suffer loss and heartache no matter who we are or what we have.

Blessings,

[evewisewoman]

Hi mealone402,

I was divorced a long time ago now. The first few months are the hardest.
I hope you don't mind me saying, but why did you sign over your home
of 20 years? Was the mortgage on your house paid off?  Have you consulted a lawyer when you made this decision? What did your husband
give up in return for you signing the house over to him?
When my ex husband and I divorced, we rented an apartment and we didn't
own communal property like a matrimonial home. We had no children, so
our divorce was fairly easy because we had no children and no matrimonial
home. I really sympathize with your situation. I'm now remarried and my
husband has 2 older children from his previous marriage. You say what
can you do to make this easier on you and your children? One idea that
comes to mind is family counselling so you and your two children and
of course a counsellor.  Do your children know that your husband was
emotionally and verbally abusive to you? My guess is that your husband
was not emotionally and verbally abusive to your children. If your husband
was emotionally and verbally abusive to them, they would probably have
more empathy. I suggest family counselling. This might really be helpful.
This situation can be solved with help. I wish you well. Eve