Please read the article if you can find it. The doctor who wrote it stresses the need for someone to be on a stool softener for a really long time, to give the colon and bowel the opportunity to heal. You don't take a stool softener "every time you need to go poop," you take one (like Benefiber, the kind that are simply a ground-up bean) in your food the way you would fiber, to help the stool stay soft. In other words, it is more like a food additive to keep the food itself manageable than it is a medicine. The body doesn't get "dependent" on it. And someone who has had bowel damage from impaction needs help to buy time for the bowel to heal. I would not give him a laxative with an active ingredient, but at the very least I would step up his fiber and liquids. Please don't blame this on autism or ADHD, a lot of kids without autism and ADHD get impacted bowels and attendant damage, and you need to take steps to heal the bowel permanently. This can mean a stool softener for a long time. Please, again, ask the GI doctor and read up on the problem. Good luck.
Thanks for the input. I'm a little afraid to keep him going on the regimen that they suggested because it was causing him to become ill and vomit and if we put him in pull ups again he might start urinating again. He is fully potty trained and has had no accidents, it just the bowel movements we have an issue with. I've been researching and have found out that he might have nerve damage in that area that causes him to poop in his pants because he has no feeling of needing to go...Every time he poops in his pants, I ask him why he didn't tell me before hand and if he felt the urge to go and he says all the time that he didn't know he went and didn't feel it. He sometimes doesn't even notice that he pooped and will sit in his dirty panties until I finally smell him or ask him to go to the bathroom and find out then. He has a little bit of autism and we think ADHD or ADD. His autism is the social kind, but still he shows signs of it. I'm concerned to not have him get accustomed to having to take a stool softner every time he needs to go poop. But thanks again for your input.
There is an article about encopresis in the March, 2010 issue of Parents magazine, called "When Your Child Just Can't Go," or something very similar to that. It's written by a doctor who had to deal with this issue in his son. It can take a year for a bowel that has been damaged by impaction for it to get well enough to function normally. Please see if you can find the article, and keep going with the GI specialist (not all pediatricians understand this issue). Keep the boy in pullups for now, so he won't be humiliated by accidents, and talk to the doctor about the bile and the issues. I don't think he will get addicted to Miralax, but if you are worried about this, ask the doctor if you can switch to Benefiber, which is a ground-up bean (no stimulants or anything. I don't know if Miralax is the same way or not.) Please take seriously the need for treating this daily for a much longer time than the pediatrician said. The bowel needs not only to stop having an impaction, but it needs to heal and regain the function of compressing normally. If you cannot find the Parents magazine at the library, try googling online about encopresis, and about fecal impaction or bowel impaction. If you treat this correctly, it can heal, but if you don't, the child might have a dysfunctional bowel all his life.
Seems like he is upset ...there is a big focus on the issue it may help to back off it is possible anxiety has been created about it .