Third freak-out in less than a week! =S

[vsentz]

Alright, this is getting really old....

I got my third freak out in less than a friggin' week! I swear my hormones are over the roof, I am just not myself when I get the 'hormone attack', and it's getting more and more as I get closer and closer!
First one was thursday when I came home from work and was gonna have dh's cousins over (from CT). It's bad as it is since all the rooms in my house are disaster zones. Maddie's room is under construction, the other guest room is packed with baby stuff and just cr**p in general..., and they were gonna have to stay in the living room... (yeah, where we left Maggie, my stupid dog, hang out while we were at work).... not the best move ever...., I came home and found my couch's cushion ripped in pieces (mind you, those couches are nice and almost new!!!), cushion case ripped and bones everywhere, shoes everywhere, and that nice dog smell all over the place!!!!!

OH MY GOD.... I just couldn't help it for freak out! dh was golfing, I tried calling him, didn't answer, i started getting so mad... what if something happened and there's dumba$$ golfing!!!?? without cellphone???

Needless to say I had to work my @$$ off to clean the room, scrub floors, repair couch, wash blankets, shampoo rug... blah blah blah... by the end of the day, I kid you not, i had bright red balloons for feet...

Second freak out....

So dh leaves to go to his dad's with his cousins and leaves stupid dog in the house without confining her (I was upstairs in the potty), and this lady at work made this EXQUISIT apple bread for me..., she put the time and the thought for me and i just felt so good, the bread was AMAZINGLY tasty so i decided to just cut a little piece so i could have it longer....
yeah right....

I come downstairs to find the bag the bread was in.... all ripped in pieces on my recently scrubbed living room....
and the dog licking her chops....

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I called dh and ripped his head off!!!! why in the LIVING HELL would he do that??? he knows!!! that damn dog is evil! and he leaves food on the counter where she can reach? not to mention leaves her unsupervised?!?!?!?!

Third freak out.....

Last night... I asked dh to cuddle with me and he got all grumpy and barely passed his arm over my back..... then i asked him what he felt for his daughter (since he never puts his stupid hand on my belly to feel her, nor he kisses her, nor talks to her!!!) and he just said 'oh... i dunno'....
I said 'why are you so afraid of being affectionate with your unborn child?!?' he goes 'im scared'... i said 'i am too, and that doesn't stop me from loving her!!!!' he goes 'im scared you'll freak out on the baby like you freak out on the dog'.....

And im just thinking... 'freaking out on the dog is a lot different than with my child!!!!'.... plus, yeah, i might freak out, burst, get over with it... and keep going! where as him, he freaks out 'calm', swallows it and lets it out caving up and being a jerk!!!

We spent hours talking, crying, yelling..... argh!!!! Our intimate life is down the toilet... (TMI..we haven't had any 'encounter' in like 3 to 4 months!! last time we tried I was too tired, told him i couldn't and ever since he just refuses to start anything!!) our romantic life is non-existant and with baby and parents coming... guess what!?!?!?! my marriage is F'ed up!!!!!

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I feel so ill today... we went to bed by 1am... and got up by 5:40 this morning! my stupid dog has stinky anal glands that not only explode every 2 weeks now, but in less than that she had an 'accident' again! so now i don't know if we need to take her to the vet to squeeze those damn things every week?!?!?!?! 15 dollars each time?!?!?!?! We do NOT have money!!!!!

I am so upset girls... i know i am being VERY stupid, and I feel LIKE A HORRIBLE MOM for making my baby so upset... she was squirming around the whole time!! and one time she kicked so hard i could actually HEAR! the kick!!!

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Anyways, thank you for 'listening' girls!! i needed to vent really bad.....

[40smama]

Vanessa -

HONEY!!!  Those f$ck$n hormones!!! aauugghh!!  

I'm so sorry that Maggie misbehaved and dh's being a little **** right now.  He'll straighten up - remember he's just not going to have the bond that you have w/maddie IMO of course.  It's been my experience that guys just don't relate to their unborn children until after they're born.  I think dh has trouble expressing his feelings and he's very worried about you and not just your 'freak-outs'.  I think he's afraid of losing you.

V - ya know I love ya!!  You're going to be a FABULOUS mommy!!  Try not to stress too much.  Remember 'things' can be replaced although it's harder than h e l l to keep perspective when you're cleaning up all kinds of sh!t after everyone messes up everything you're trying to accomplish.

V - i wish I had good advice!!  I can't wait to see lil' Maddie - I'll text or have Becca (dd) text you tomorrow after Noah's born so you know everything's okay!!!  Remember, you're going to be GREAT!  Keep venting - don't hold back - that'll save your sanity & reduce your stress level.

Keep Maddie in a little longer - you and Patty are the next to go!!! - jen

[luv2dance]

D^^^m those female hormones, i can relate, i remember when i was pregnant and very young (19) i thought everything was a potential threat to my unborn baby, i was freaking out too! As my infant daughter grew my hormones adjusted and i was back to normal almost immediately! You will be too!

[kellym]

Hey Patty, don't you dare leave me out on any drinking parties!!  The key to letting the dog out is a doggie door! It made my life a whole lot simpler. We have a panel in our bedroom that goes into the sliding glass door. Its also my 18mo dd's favorite place to poop in front of, ha ha!!  Also, when all else fails and everyone is fed and tended to, the guinea pig chirps up and wants attention too, are you kidding me? ugh...

[pcarsey]

Vanessa Vanessa.. my dear things will work out in the end. You have to remember all this is new to DH too.. he just doesn't adjust well like you do!

My DH gets yelled at for leaving a paper towel laying on the counter after drying his hands as if he just blew his nose in it too.. ahaha OH.. this morning, DH was brushing his teeth, he just spits in the sink and then walks away.... I said did you just spit in the sink, he said yeah, I said well are you going to rinse out the sink now? He said do you want me to? I just glared at him.  He rinsed it out and then scrubbed it out with dish soap! I guess he knew that would be coming next and took it upon himself to just do it. Then he looks at me and says, are you going to be grouchy when Brayden comes? I flew off the handle.. Ok Hormones are really raging now and maybe I shouldn't have said all the things I said (like, well if I have to take care of 3 kids instead of two, and I know it isn't too hard to rinse out a sink after brushing your teeth, and do you expect me to do everything for Brayden, Andrew and YOU after he is born?? and Are you going to be like this after he is born?? because if so then I will be grouchy.. ) but dang, some men just don't think! We women are just too hormonal right now and they should understand that they need to be a little more compassionate for just a little while longer!

The animal thing, girl I have 1 dog and 5 cats, and let me tell you THANK GOD all of my cats use the bathroom outside, because lord knows I am the only one who tends to the animals and would hate to have to do all that while trying to take care of a baby too! Now my dog, as sweet as he may be, he just needs to learn that I am not the only one who knows how to open the door to let him out. Gosh, it can be 3 am and he could be sleeping right next to my son or on top of my DH's head (not that he ever does, he has his own bed) but who does he come to to let him out????? ME..... GRRRRR!!!! As if I get tons of sleep now... I'm telling you, I feel your frustration!! Once we have these little babies I think You, Jen, Rebecka and Myself should all get together and have those drinks that we have been aching for for months!!! hehehe!!

[poupoune26]

Dogs!  I know how you feel!  I have a 2 year old rottweiler..  He's the sweetest dog ever.  Listens to dh and I like he's in the army. But those hormones are still making me freak out once in awile for absolutely nothing!  Just the fact that I have to vacuum every day because of him makes me ill. He goes outside, plays in the backyard without bothering anyone and when he comes in, I just freak because he's sooo dirty. I'm soooooo discouraged because I have to clean the whole house AGAIN!  And spring is the worse... He stinks! And I can't wash him...try putting him in the bath. He won't go by himself, he's scared.. (poor thing)  And here I am the other day yelling at him to go in and he kept running in his cage because he was afraid of me!  I'm really starting to wonder if I'll be able to keep him once the baby comes.  When will I have time to take care of a 100..pound baby!?

Believe me, if my dog ate my food (which right now is the most precious thing to me...lol) or ate my shoes and furniture..the dog would be history!  So, it really has nothing to do with us not being able to handle our babies when they come! Wouldn't it be great if our dh could live in our pregnant bodies for a week?!  We wouldn't be having this discussion!!!

As for your marriage, just relax a bit. I'm sure everything will fall into places once baby comes. It'll bring you two back closer together. You know men sometimes are afraid of change and makes them act like such a$$holes! Again, how would they react if they were the ones about to push a watermelon out their $#*%#    LOL

Melanie 33w2d

[nanis]

O.k don't hate me,,,but remember what you would tell me when I would freak out when pregnant with Julie,having problems with sex,hubby unattached,sickness & stress? You would say "Your baby is worth every darn freak out,sickness,etc''.ready to recieve your treasure! Just put the dog in a room or outdoors,in the back.Sit & relax.I just got a new puppy "CHICO" & he's driving me nuts!! And I'm not prego :).About the mess,the company,the remodeling it will all fall into place.Maddie will not need anything BUT mommy & Daddy.Dont worry about the room not being done,the $ ,etc.I COMPLETELY understand were your coming from wanting everything DONE & perfect for Maddie.And it will.My dh even with the 3rd would be so UN-affectionate with my belly.He was scared SH**less.After ouor loss he was scared & guarded.Even when she would go nuts in my belly just by his voice..lol.Men dont feel the same as women,we get attached the second that baby is concieved.Men its the second the baby is born.V,if you would see my dh face when he 1st held Juliana.The 1st time she said DADA(yeah,that was her 1st word..**rolls eyes**)I just know 100% that once your hubby sees,holds Maddie he will not let go!Get ready to be 2nd in line..lol.
About the not having sex,Girl what is sex?We had non for the ENTIRE pregnancy..lol.First bc I was scared to m/c or bleed.Then bc of my darn morning,noon & night sickness.Then bc my belly was SOooo huge  that it was just plain uncomfortable & gross.But girl...TMI alert.....After baby stitches & all,We did not even wait the 6 wks!!! 2 wks we waited.And my mom was in the house(the next room)..remember..lol.There's nothing sexier than a daddy holding his baby.And about your mom visiting & taking over.Girl somos mexicanos.I would not expect any less..lol.Julie was my 3rd & my mom PLUS MIL(I was out voted) still thought I knew nothing. But when she left,I was all tears.And you will learn ALOT from them.After all you came out O.K.Like I said,RELAX,breath,enjoy your belly.I already miss mine.The mess will still be there.The rooms will get done.And you hubby will turn into mush when he mets his ''Mini him''.Porque va tener ,your beautiful face,pero guerrita con ojos asules"!And you sex life will be AWESOME!