Please help;; Herpes while pregnant

[marisol_jose]

This is something I HATE talking about, but I just want to know if anyone has gone through this;;

I have genital herpes and I'm 6 and a half months pregnant. I have read in books that if u have an outbreak at the time u have to have a c-section .
I am so scared and dred the thought of having to have a c-section . I know that if I have to do it for the health of my son I will (no doubt about that)
I feel like I'm falling into a depression. Is there someone out there like me who can share their story or just give me advice . I'm at a dead end here and I just want to cry my eyes out. HELP;;;

[MrsPincince]

BTW you're VERY welcome. Anytime you need an ear just msg me or something:)

[MrsPincince]

I honestly don't think you're depressed. I think it's more anxiety because you don't know what the outcome of your situation will be. You have a great support system in your husband, as well as me and all of us here on MedHelp..I'll keep you and the baby in my prayers:)

[marisol_jose]

mrspincince052519- I can't thank u enough for taking time to help me out :) I talked to my husband yesterday about the fact that I'm depressed and he told me that I shouldn't worry and he will be right next to me through everything. Which also made me feel better but for some reason I still feel depressed. I didn't sleep well last night I stayed awake for hours just staring at the ceiling :( . I promise I will keep u updated on everything

[MrsPincince]

You are welcome:) You are starting to come around. I completely understand your emotions so don't feel like you are a let down. If you weren't a great mommy already, you wouldn't even have these concerns:) Your baby is lucky to have you!.....See, as Katie_7 said, you have options..Make sure you ask all about the valtrex.. My main concern for you and your baby is the depression you claim. Please inform your Dr about this as well. I think once your Dr confirms that there are options for you, and you have nothing to worry about your depression will subside...Good luck with your appointment and I hope you update us on the outcome:)

[Katie_7]

She told me there were no risks since it was a low does and we only did it for the last four weeks of pregnancy.  I had my son 11 days early, so I did not even get the full four weeks. He is a  happy healthy 4 year old. He was 7lbs 8oz at birth with no problems.

I only had one outbreak during my pregnancy with my son. I was about 10 weeks. We did a cream and it cleared up. We did not do valtrex this time because it was so early on in the pregnancy. She does not want me to take anything except my vitimans during the first trimester.  I have not had any with this pregnancy. ( knock on wood!!!)

[marisol_jose]

Katie_7- is there any risks for your baby if u take valtrex? I have an appointment with my OB next Friday and I can ask him more questions but I just wanna hear your experience with it.


mrspincince052519- thank u so much , hearinq ur experience made me feel like I shouldn't stress as much. I just don't know how it will actually play out when the biq day gets here. I feel like I'm letting my son down by beinq depressed. And I shouldn't be stressed because he feels it too.

[Katie_7]

I never had a c-section. I do have herpes and was able to have my son vaginally. My doctor gave me a low dose of valtrex for the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I will do the same with this baby. I'm 18 weeks pregnant. Make sure to tell the nurses and doctors if you are having an outbreak during labor. I hope this helps.

[MrsPincince]

Actually they put the baby in your plain sight so you can see him/her. I remember asking to see his fingers, toes, and genitals. They obliged. Once they showed me those, I was good. I can understand what you say by not feeling motherly. I felt a little ripped off from not being able to deliver vaginally but let me tell you it does NOT make you LESS of a mother and I knew that's what I needed to do at that time for my baby to be healthy.(he was facing the wrong way, and his heart rate was decreasing from the stress of me trying to push so hard, and too big to fit through my canal)..Again, PLS try not to worry or let yourself get depressed because everything you're feeling, your baby feels..

[marisol_jose]

LosingMyMindinGA- thanks for the advice I found out both my husband and I had it about 9 months ago. I really don't get too many outbreaks. Today I was prescribed some kind of cream to prevent them I hope it works. I guess I should just appreciate the fact I'm being blessed with a son. :)

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Chances are if you've had it for awhile and you don't have frquent outbreaks that you probably won't close to delivery.  Are you taking any daily meds to help prevent them?  Even if you do have to have a c-section it's not usually that bad. I had one with my oldest daughter and I  have since had 5 more vaginally.  This isn't something to be embarrassed about, more people have herpes than the general population wants to imagine.  

[emmiesmam]

i had a c-section in 2006 and it wasnt as bad as what i thought it would be it was fine actually and if the doctor says i have to have another one with this baby i wouldnt be as scared good luck  . the motherly part did bother me i was so ill in my first pregnancy i didnt get to see my baby for 3 days i knew i had a baby bit it didnt feel real but those motherly instincts and functions soon kick in and now she is my world aswell as this little man on his way

[marisol_jose]

Thanks that made me feel a bit better. I have never in my entire life had any type of surgery what so ever . I've never even had a broken bone in my body. I'm just scared on how my body will act with the medication, I'm also very depressed . I just can't see myself having a c-section I feel I won't feel as motherly because of it :( . I know its not true but that's how I feel . I mean I won't even get to hold my baby right after ill just be able to see him because ill be too drugged up to funtion.

[MrsPincince]

Hi:) I can share my c-sec story. I also have a friend that was in your situation. She has herpes and she gave birth via c-sec to a beautiful and healthy baby girl last December and everything is well with them. I also had a c-sec back in Nov 2005. I was very fortunate to have a DR/Surgeon that was informative and supportive. She knew her stuff..I think you shouldn't worry too much about it because at the end of the day it is what is best for your child. Make sure you ask TONS of questions and make sure your surgeon (which most likely is the case) has performed many c-sec's before you. Do your research on the surgeon. Remember you can choose who you want to perform the C-sec. It's ok to be scared but just know medicine is so advanced nowadays that you will be in good hands:) Good luck and try not to stress too much because it's not good for you or the baby:)