need advice..bit of a rant too..!!

[sarahhh____]

I've been trying for a baby the last year and nothing yett but my boyfriends ma keeps saying sly remarks like " I'd have one quicker myself " and it's so hurtful and then she just laughs as if it's nothing my boyfriend won't even stick up for me and I can't even complain to him because he just says she's right your just not fertile and doesn't care it's so ******* hurtful and he just doesn't care but yett whenever I get my period he goes mental saying what's wrong with me I feel so worthless and depressed any advice??? Please

[sarahhh____]

Thanks for all the support girls I think I need to really think about this and sit him down and tell him what I want and what I need but @kcwayman that's just rude and not what I needed to hear!!!

[kcwayman]

Seriously this is the man you want to have a baby with? Can't wait to see the therapy bill your poor child will need. Rethink this idea!

[Channi7]

Girl I Was Engaged to This Guy Who Desperately Wanted A Baby We Tried For A While Like A Year  When I Finally Got Pregnant I Miscarried He Was Awful To Me About It So I Left Him. Well Two Years Later I Started Dating My Current Fiancé And Got Pregnant Literally The Very First Time We Had Sex. That Pregnancy Also Ended In Miscarriage But My Fiance Was So Supportive And He Pushed Me To Really Look Into Y This Kept Happening Instead Of Accepting "You're Young These Things Happen You'll Have Kids Down The Road". Found Out I Had A Luteal Phase Defect Took Progesterone Now We're 19 Wks With A Planned Pregnancy. Sometimes When You Love Someone It's Hard To See What An *** They Are But Hind Sight Is 20/20 and Honestly Looking Back I Know I Would've Been Miserable Having His Kid. Pregnancy Can Be Rough At Times And I Know He Wouldn't Have Supported Me The Way I Need To Be. Perhaps It's A Blessing In Disguise That You Aren't Prego From Him. Especially If He Won't Even Stand Up For You To His Mom. Good Luck Hun!!!

[doulamommy]

They say they're going to change, and studies show that's correct. Once you get pregnant, the abuse does change: it escalates. There's a reason it asks on the paperwork you have to fill out for your first appointment if you're in an abusive relationship. It's because studies show the abuse actually gets worse.
I'm sorry, I feel bad for you and your situation. I know what it's like to live every day hoping he'll change. But 9/10 times he won't, so where does that leave you? Where does that leave your child if you do conceive together? Even if you finally decide you've had enough, that baby either won't have his/her daddy or they'll get visitation with someone abusive. If it was my baby, I wouldn't risk it!

[Munchkinn94]

Honey you shouldn't be with a guy like that! If he's abusive to you now it's not going to change. What if you do get pregnant and the abuse continues? He's harming you and your baby. If I were you I would leave. You may love him but he clearly doesn't love you as much or at all. You don't hit the people you love.

[202Tia]

Ummmmm get a new boyfriend??? But seriously it may not be you it may be him. He may have a low sperm count or slow swimmers. My husband had a child prior to our relationship. Our first child was born four years after we were married. I tried really hard the first year we were married to conceive. I knew nothing was wrong with him because he already had a child. Needless to say he had a low count because he smoked and I believed it just wasn't time for us to have a child. We're on our second one three years later. His first child and our first child are 10years apart. Have patience it will work out if its meant to be.

[sarahhh____]

It gets worse he beats me up constantly infront of his family and they say nothing I do really love him but I want him to change so badly :( worst thing is I can't even talk to my own ma because I lost her 4 years ago it's just so hard he keeps saying if I get pregnant he'll change for the better so I don't know what to do :(

[Maiyah23]

The mom is messy honestly I would consider finding a different lover to conceive with because if they act like that now it only gets worse

[Munchkinn94]

She has no idea if it's him or you! It could be neither. Maybe it just isn't the right time or you aren't ovualting when you think you are. It could be a number of things. But they aren't helping at all by talking to you that way. I would sit them down and let 'em have it. I'm sorry you're having to go through this though. Stay strong!

[doulamommy]

Um... If this is how they're treating your efforts to conceive, I'd hate to think how they'd be if you chose to raise your own child. Ie if you breastfeed but your bf's mom thinks formula is the way to go. Or if you feed on demand and don't just make the baby cry.
I'm sorry but if they're that rude to you now, why would you stay? I would not want to have a baby with someone who treats me like sh*t or allows their family to treat me like sh*t.

[sarahhh____]

I said that about him but his ma keeps saying no son of mine is infertile she's just such a cow uugghh!!!

[sarahhh____]

Thanks hun I know they just don't care and I've said that but worse remarks come out im just so fed up with them I really want a baby and so does he but he's just so unsupportive :(

[Aklaya]

How do they know he's not the infertile one and if she wants a grand baby that bad tell her she can pay for the fertility test or shut up I wouldn't want to bring a baby into a family like that anyway

[Munchkinn94]

He needs to stop! They both do actually. Do they not realize stressing you out like that makes it harder to conceive? Making those remarks are so rude and hurtful. Good luck though, and I hope you get your wish soon! If anything see a doctor. It could help (: