FTM..AM I WRONG...

[AriesQT]

I'm 21+2 and will be a FTM to a baby boy. My husband and I live in a 2br apartment. He has three sons from a previous marriage. They stay with their mom. Because she is a jealous and bitter b i t c h, we only get the boys like once every other month, if that. It's always random or my husband has to practically beg. Our 2nd bedroom has two sets of bunkbeds for the boys. My question is, am I wrong for wanting to turn it into a nursery for our son who will be living here full-time? As he gets older, I wouldn't mind the bunkbeds and him sharing his room when my step kids come. I really want a nursery, but I don't want my husband to feel like I'm doing his boys "bad" by wanting to get rid of the bunks for now. He is OK with cramming a crib and stuff for our son in the boys' room.

[mamavl]

I don't think it's a good idea to turn there room into a nursery I know your intentions ain't bad and it's understandable as a ftm but I do think it's important to make them feel at home when they are round even if it is rare. If they always slept in the living room and didnt use the room then fair enough but because it was there room I don't tink it's a good idea I would suggest keep in the baby in your room in a crib or pack n play until the baby is able to sleep through the night then rearrange the room so they all can sleep there it would be easier for you that way anyway. Your partner should seek legal advise about seeing his kids because that's not right and no matter how far they go commitment to those kids is important.

[GigiBella]

I think you should have a nursery if you want given the fact the kids are rarely there. If possible keep the bunk beds in the room. If not, get a sleeper sofa.  Or get blow up mattresses and some cute stuff that will make the kids feel like they are camping out. Do movie and popcorn. .make them feel special. Or  You can always just let them sleep in your bedro. Its all the way u handle it, but u shouldn't  feel guilty for wanting a nursery. .your not trying to be malicious.

[brit333]

I think it's fine. I've thought about this a while and the thing is your baby will be there all the time!! where is he supposed to sleep?!? You can always bring the beds back in once he is in a bed. If the room doesn't allow for 2 sets of bunk beds and a crib then you gotta do what you gotta so. I liked the idea of making it look like it's a sleep over camping style! Especially now since you will see them even less it makes sense to change it into a nursery. It's not that you are saying they can't ever come over. I don't think it's rude or uncaring at all.

[rara4]

Some ppl seem to think its okay for u to put ur child on the back burner to muake kids u rarely see feel comfortable. Its a bit like walking on egg shells to me. This is ur first u deserve to indulge in wat u would like. U can make the sleeping in the living room special for them. But the baby will b there full time n if the baby grows up feeling less than to its step brothers then there is really an issue there. It seems some women bow down and while trying to give their step kids all they can end up giving their own kids less

[Due_April_30th]

This is a tough one! Seems like a majority of ppl are saying don't do it. After reading their statements n the reasoning why it is pretty compelling n I would gave to agree with them. Good luck!

[Ropretty]

Personal I wouldn't do it. Ur a first time mom so most likely u gon want the baby closer to you. My husband don't have any other kids but if he did they would have the same thing my kids have. I would devide the room and leave one bunk bed in there. If it can fit too now im sure there should be plenty of room. Just think if the shoe was on the other foot. Im sure u wouldn't want ur child sleeping on the sofa or floor if yall wasn't together.