Stress while Pregnant!!

[jess-ann5]

So my hubby has two kids with his ex. I love his kids, they are my world and I treat them like my own. But this b!tch.. she's stressing me out!

We pay this woman $500 in child support. Every once and a while we miss the full amount by $100 or so. She flips her freaking wig. Like really?? We pay child support every month, whenever she asks for more money for the kids field trips - we give it to her (outside of child support), whenever she needs us to watch the kids - we watch them! My babies came to my house with no freaking underwear on and shorts in 40 degree weather and we gave her clothes from what we bought just so they didn't go without! You know why? Because the stupid b!tch forgot to do laundry!! WTF how do you let your children go to school cold because you didn't do laundry?!!??! But she says my man is a horrible father and not a real man! UGH! Then she complains that her worthless boyfriend cant get a job and shes supporting her household all on her own and its our fault that she's struggling. WHHHATT THE FF???? Her boyfriend watch Alex during the day because our baby boy got kicked out of school. When he got kicked out, we took him and took that responsbility so we could have more time to raise him better and they wouldn't have to worry about day care or anything like that. Well we don't have full custody so the stupid b!tch took him back when she got her panties all in a wad and said "Oh my boyfriend can watch him!" But its our fault?!?!?!? No her boyfriend is a hobo who got you pregnant (Oh yea we're freaking due in the same month!) and she tells us, "Oh you know your not the only one who is expecting a baby in the next few months, I need the full child support." Its not my fault you went and got yourself pregnant by Mr. I like To Sit On The Couch All Day! And then on top of that she's threatening taking him back to court and try to put him in jail. Like dude really he is NOT a dead beat dad! We may not always be able to pay the full amount but he does pay every single month! It is NOT our fault you have $500 car note and jobless boyfriend!

It upsets me because I know my hubby does the best he can and is an absolutely awesome father and partner. I know he doesn't care about her but his dad was a herion addict and he's very hard on himself about how good of a father he is. It just upsets me that she puts those thoughts in his head. I know he won't say anything to me but I see it in his eyes, like it stings him. I just wanna punch her in her throat. It's taking every bit of my control to hold back these crazy hormones. And I have to see her today to pick up my babies for visitation!!  >:(

Ugh sorry so long... Rant over  :P

[jess-ann5]

This isn't about the animosity between me and her. I am not dramatic in that way. There isn't anything to be biased about?? These are my experiences and anger with what my family suffers - of course I was and am fully aware of what I got myself into. Like I said in a post earlier, can't take her to court until we have more money saved.

I didnt post this to get advice from someone who obviously has no idea this feels.

[tbj1985]

I agree with lizzie if she's such a bad mom why aren't you in court. Sorry I see a while bunch of a second rounders complaining. You knew what it was before you got with the man who are already had kids.  Not saying anyone shouldn't take care of their kids just that usually theirs so much animosity between the women it's hard to get a real clear view with out bias. And just to let y'all no ahead of time I'm not a baby mama I'm a happily married wife.... 10 years and quite happy.

[decbabylashaee]

I would just keep a detailed record of everything u buy for them and use a money order any time u give her extra money. Write down everything she does wrong like with the dirty cloths and asking u to do laundry cuz she can't. Gather as much stuff as u can.

[jess-ann5]

We can't take her back to court yet because we don't have the money for a lawyer. We both work full time to make ends meet and to just have a little spending money. Every bit that I am saving now is for the baby. We are planning to take her back to court next year. Josh is starting a new & better job in the next month or so. We want to wait until after he starts.

We tried to go through Lone Star Legal Aid (government funded) and they wouldn't help us.

[decbabylashaee]

We always documented everything and take pictures of them when she sends them like that. We have full costody of my 11 ur old stepson and always have. We don't ask for a dime from her. Has he thought about taking her back to court to try and get full costody of them. Sounds like your  a much stable household and y'all r married. I hope that things get better for y'all. I know the baby mamma drauma well.

[jess-ann5]

Yea I can't tell you how many times my babies came to my house in dirty, over sized clothes, torn up shoes on the WRONG feet, etc. She even asked Josh to do laundry for her so the kids would have clothes for school cause she didn't have money to do laundry at her apartment complex. But he doesn't do his part as a father. Nothing is every good enough for this <unt.