not sexy :-(

[xcitednscaredmama]

So my husband is in the military and just came back from a course abroad after 3 months. I am now 32 weeks pregnant and he is freaked out by the belly, he doesn't want to have sex anymore and hardly ever touches me or cuddles up to me. I feel so unsexy and really don't like how the pregnancy changed our relationship. Also everyone keeps telling me how the baby changes the relationship even more and obviously there's no sex after giving birth either. Guess I'm just looking for some positive relationship stories. How did the baby influence your relationship and love life?

[babyhalestorm]

^ lol thanks for bragging and not helping with the situation in question at all.
Girl, you need to tell him what you want! My hubby always says "just tell me what you want me to do and I'll do it! Men can't read minds regardless of what you do and how mad you get!" It's true, if he loves you he will try his hardest to change what he's doing / not doing, don't expect him to know how you feel. With all these pregnancy hormones I don't even know how I'm feeling, it changes so often. Communication is key in any relationship, you think communicating is hard now wait until the baby comes. It's best to build the strongest and best relationship now.

[rina2015]

Three month of not seeing you especially towards the end of the pregnancy makes a huge difference in how much you have grown. And it's actually quite common for men to be scared to hurt the baby. Talk to him but also give him time. My husband felt uneasy with our first as well.  We are pregnant with number three now and no issues at all. He just had to get used to it and change his mindset that he would hurt the baby.

[bholcomb]

My husband is away alot and when he comes home he will always talk about how much bigger I am. I'm 36 weeks and to be honest sex isn't that good for me now but my husband enjoys it. Try maybe playing around and see what happens. Most men are scared of hurting the baby. Talk with your dr about it when your husband is there. Good luck

[shynelle45]

Some men have a good understanding of pregnant women before they experience it and some don't. Unfortunately not understanding something usually equals fear of it. I agree taking him to the Dr with you while he's home and getting him more involved could potentially help. This is my third but dh's first and unlike my ex he was instant dad doing everything from telling me how beautiful I look constantly to making me quit my job so I could get enough rest but he also grew up in a very large family and was around pregnant women all his life unlike my ex. I would just try to reassure him that he's not going to hurt the baby, try to get him more involved, and continue to tell him what bothers you, he can only fix what he knows is wrong. Also the baby being here while deff change things but most of the time it's not for the worse it's just different. He may be better with that because he can actually help, he can't help carry our grow the baby so he may also be feeling a little confused about what to do? Idk just suggestions I suppose. Hope things work out for the best.

[Momabear2086]

My husband is actually turned on by the fact that I am getting bigger due to our little blessing inside me.  He's gone for weeks at a time working but He always makes me feel sexy.  

[manantiel29]

I just gave him a ** and told him that it was normal to have sex while pregnant and thats when i stopped and he was so horny we had sex lol now hes comfortable