baby adoption

[TeenMom15]

I'm thinking about giving my baby up for adoption.

[ericatoday]

If my mom was 15 and put me up for adoption and my adoptive parents told me its because she honestly couldn't take care of me and this was my best chance and getting everything I needed. Yeah I'd want to meet her but at the same time I would be mad or hurt.

[Brianamz97]

A lot of moms say adoption might be best when they don't even know what adoption does to the baby. Of course it helps a couple who wants a baby but it DOES affect the baby if he/she never gets to know who the real parents are. Honestly, if you can, TRY to take care of your baby and get help financially if that's the case. As I said, I'm 17 now and my boyfriend and family and I planned well throughout my pregnancy to where we have clothes and diapers for him all the way until 2 years of age. It's not impossible. It won't be easy but it's not impossible and a baby is worth it all in the end.

[ericatoday]

If you already think that then maybe you should. It might be best for you and baby.

[oct3014]

I'm not sure if this is the same girl from yesterday, but I think you should talk to a case worker at your school to see if they can help you with your environment and then decide on what options you have about what's best for both you and the baby. That way you have the support that maybe your not getting at home.

[Brianamz97]

If this is the best option for you then do it, but I really hope you do open adoption. I'm 17 and my baby is due in a week. Of course since I am young, my boyfriend and I weren't sure if this was the right path for us but we pulled through and adoption was never an option for us personally because he was adopted as a baby. It's affected him a lot and he told me he would never do that to our baby because he knows how it feels to be adopted. He said because he will NEVER know who his real parents are or why they gave him and his brother and sisters away. He said it was maybe because of drug abuse. So I believe that if you can take care of a baby then you should, but if not then please be careful with your choice and consider an open adoption so your baby at least knows you.

[missjestur]

Not trying to be rude, sorry - I'm simply curious. I don't know how to help you out if you're even looking for help... We ask want to help you, but its hard to know how from what you typed.

[missjestur]

What is your question? Do you want us to talk you out of it or confirm that you're going the right thing...? Something else?

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

No one can tell you if that's the right choice for you. But if you feel you won't be able to support a child or have the support you need then I would say you are making the right choice :) you can look into an open adoption so you could still be in the babies life. Good luck with whatever you decide!

[nikkimamaofthree]

OK. What are your pros and cons for doing so or the baby's pros and cons? Would you pick out the appropriate family or just give the baby to an orphanage?
How far along are you?