how to deal with loss of baby?

[hannah0912]

hi..
i went for my 12 week scan and the nurses told me they heart beat had stopped and baby had stopped growin at bout 10 weeks so i had to have a d+c.. was just wondering if anyone knows any good ways to help me get over this as im not coping at all at the moment, and the babys dad is not supporting me throught this time at all.
at the moment feels like i dont want to go on after losing him or her and would really apprecaite any help
x

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I am really sorry. Time, they say it helps heal all wounds. Let your body recover and maybe someday you can have another baby, hopefully with someone more deserving than your ex. Aslelen is right, family, friends, its their job to help us in our time of need just as we would be there for them. You could also try a support group. I wish you the best of luck hun. And dont be too hard on yourself, its nothing you could have done diffrently............

[hannah0912]

yeahm im close to my mum and shes done so much for me recently i just wish the babys dad would be the same, we were together 17months and now he broke up with me and i have to move out..
thanks for saying i can message you
x

[Ashelen]

Oh honey I'm so sorry for your loss....unfortunately the only thing that will heal you is time :(. The first step is to get through the D&C...and now that you've done that, you can focus on healing your body and your heart... i don't know any ways to recover from losing a baby, because I still am not fully recovered from my miscarriage 3 years ago, but take it easy on yourself and seek support in loved ones....are you close to your mom? can you turn to her for support? Or do you have a close friend who will let you sleep on her couch for a few days and get away from it all?

I don't know what to say though, besides I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope that you find healing. If you ever need to talk you can message me.