A couple of questions... about baby shower

[mrssandefur]

I first want to say this is my third baby and although a baby shower would be awesome I really don't need or want one. However its my husbands first biological child and his moms first biological grandbaby (she wasn't very close to.me when I had our other son). Well my mother inlaw is having the shower for.me.on the 2nd.
I fist want to say, she has changed the date three different times and I've had tontell people three different times the date. Now she has yet to send out the invitations and wants me to text, email or Facebook everyone about when the party is where at and tell them where we.are registered. I personally feel that this is inappropriate and rude. Well I told my husband that its embarrassing to me to have to do this like this! ESP since I told them we were going to send invitations, if it had always been an E-Vite it'd be no.biggy since that's how we did my middle sons baby shower. My husband told me I'm being an as*hole about it. I wasn't rude and haven't said anything to mu MIL. Am I over reacting??

My second question, how the hell do I word this with out sounding rude?
I'm going to make an E-Vite but IDK how.to word it and say where we're registered without.sounding rude ://

PLEASE HELP!

[mrssandefur]

Thank you so.much.ladies!

[mrssandefur]

Yeah I wasn't too excited about registering, or a shower, if it was a girl.that'd be totally different but its a little ridiculous and my husband being a man and excited just went with it. I personally wouldn't care either way! I'd love to have those few.close friends come up.to.the hospital after baby gets here but this is all over board in my.opinion.
And yes after today and.having contractions and leaking water since I woke up I wont be surprised if he comes early! So hopefully I'll be able to see everyone! There are a few.friends coming that I haven't seen in awhile and.wont see again for awhile.

[rachb11]

Sounds good to me and doesn't really sound rude at all.

[AnnieBrooke]

My suggestion:
________________________

Baby Puddle is due June 8th!  Grandma (NAME) would like to invite you to a celebration on June 2nd!
(TIME)
(ADDRESS)
(PHONE NUMBER)
No gifts are required, your presence is present enough.  But in case you you feel like going crazy, we're registered at Target. :)
Grandma was so excited she has changed the date three times, making this a last-minute race to the finish line --  if you can come, please do!
RSVP ASVP so we can know how many cupcakes to bake!  :)

Love,

(GRANDMA's NAME) and (YOUR NAME)
____________________________________

1.  A lot of people will buy you gifts even if you say "your presence is the best present," and you simply can't under any rules of etiquette invite people yourself to your own shower and say you want or expect a present.  Don't worry, you'll still get gifts.

2.  I took off the Walmart mention simply because it's considered crass enough to mention being registered and where, don't double up.  If you do get some nice things from Target, lucky you.

3.  Grandma's name needs to be plastered up front and down low all over this rule-defying item (the rules broken are:  changing her mind several times about the date to the point where you will probably be in the hospital with your little one on the day of the party, waiting so long to invite people once she decided a date, making you, the mom, lift one finger over it (and implicitly share the blame for the bad form), not sending cute little paper invitations in the mail, being explicit about gifts to the point of mentioning where you are registered [though I know this one is done all the time], and while we are at it, having a shower at all for a third baby.)  So, keep her name up front (in the guise of honoring her as the hostess) and make it look like all the mistakes were just those lovable things your charming but a little ditzy mother in law does because she's so excited about the baby, and keep the whole thing light.  It's a party for getting in under the wire!  That's funny!  Maybe if you can keep it that funny, some of the snitty stuff people will think will not filter back and make YOU look bad.  (This is why, don't lean too hard on asking for presents, or it will look like the whole reason for the party is to rake in loot, when the whole reason is to have fun and see your friends before Puddle comes.  We hope.)

[mrssandefur]

Bump

[mrssandefur]

Yes next week that's why I'm so.pissed! Ugh. I was thinking something like this

Baby Puddle is due June 8th! We would love for you to join us in his celebration on June 2nd
(TIME)
(ADDRESS)
(PHONE NUMBER)
If you feel a need to bring a gift, it will be greatly appreciate!
We are registered at Target and Walmart

(Sorry for any inconvenience as I understand this invitation is a little late but I would love for you to be with us as we celebrate his birth!)
Please RSVP ASAP
Thank you!

Idk what do y'all think?? Lol

[KTowne]

That is pretty rude that she's changed it 3 times and is now putting the invites on you. But since you are going to have to, I'd say just write it as if you're writing one for someone else! No one will think it's rude and your family will understand, do you mean the 2nd in like the next week? If so I'd get doing it soon!!