am actually scared now :(

[chezross]

Just when I used the thought that in just a mear 15 weeks I'll be having a baby, I now have a mear 15 weeks to get used to the thought of doing this alone! My boyfriend decided to end or relationship due to him being stressed!? Please bear in mind that he has been unemployed since Feb, whilst I still worked a 40 hour week doing night shifts and being pregnant and paying all the bills. I will admit I have been hot headed due to worrying about money, and now he wants to stay in my house whilst were not together until he gets himself sorted! I dont think so!! Ive told him that if he doesnt want to at least try on the relationship then he can leave (he has nowhere else to go but that isnt my problem anymore right?)

He says he will be there to support me and the baby, but Im thinking ahead like when he plays football 2-3 nights a week, and when he starts seeing somebody else he wont be around but he said Im being stupid thinking that.

Its still all pretty raw, I cant concentrate on my work and Im trying to just get on with it, usually what I would do is drink as much wine as possible until I fall asleep but I cant do that, Im fed up of crying and being upset all the time but I cant see the light at the end of tunnel just yet! Just doesnt make sense because we planned for this baby!

I dont feel I have the strength to be alone, and with him not there cuts alot of my options, like going back to work, or if I started seeing somebody else! I mean who is going to be interested in a single mum! Not that I want to see anybody else, if Im doing it alone then its just me and my daughter, no uncle joes or anything :( Break ups are hard but being pregnant too, I just dont feel like I can cope

[vacuumprincess]

break ups are hard.  I can agree with that.  I know things seem hopeless now, but it will get better.

6 years ago & was married to a horrible man & pregnant.  He was irresponsible, abusive & unsupportive.  I understand you saying that you have been hard on him, butt hey, you ARE PREGNANT.  give yourself a break.  If he was any type of a real man he would understand that you are nervous, scared ... etc...

Anyway, about a year after my baby was born I FINALLY left my husband.  Let me tell you, it was hard, but it was the best thing I ever did.  Life got so much easier after I stopped dealing with all of his bs.  I had a hard enough time dealing with my pregnancy emotions, I didn't need his on again off again bs of him wanting to be with us.  

You & your baby deserve someone who WANTS to be with you & is supportive to you both.  Supportive isn't necessarily a money thing.  Yes, he should try not to be lazy & go to work, but... by supportive, I mean emotionally.  I understand how you feel comming from similar situations.

Fast forward 3 years from the birth of my daughter... I met a completely wonderful man.  We slowly built a supportive loving relationship.  Now my daughter is turning 6.  This man & I got married last year.  I am  now 36 weeks pregnant & he is also adopting my 6 yr old  daughter.

You have your whole life ahead of you.  So many things change.  You just have to figure out what you & this baby deserve in life & go after it.  Don't settle for less.  anything can happen.

best wishes.

[marisol_jose]

Heyy :( I'm sorry for what u r qoinq thru especially beinq pregnant. I honestly think that if he wanted to end the relationship becuz he is "stressed" then he's out of wack because you're the one who is pregnant. If anythinq u shud be the one stressed because you're workinq and payinq bills and on top of that you're body has changed and still has a ways to qo and to me that says that you're a very stronq woman :) I know you feel like you can't qo thru it alone but GOD has a plan for everyone and and he will fix thinqs. You have to have faith and leave it in the good lords hands. I'm sorry if your not religious and I'm talking about GOD but the way I see it is that he does exist and everytime I need help I just pray because stressing yourself out isn't doing any good for you're baby nor you. If you wanna talk u can talk to me ill be here :)))