Baby daddy baby momma drama

[kaalaharvey]

So is anyone else sick of other women who have the same baby daddy as you do harassing you? To explain a bit of the situation, I met my daughters father when he was with his gf, they broke up and then we got together. Stupid? Absolutely. Well I got pregnant and then he left me 3 months later for her and got her pregnant a few month later. She has a son by him that is 6 months younger than my daughter. Well, she seriously cannot let the situation go. I have forgiven her for whatever happened and I have asked for forgiveness but the girl just will not let it go. My daughter has to go with her 'dad' sometimes and its over to her house. She texts me at least once a week complaining about something or calling me names and I sit back and say nothing. I am seriously just like get over yourself. Anyone else have a similar situation they are dealing with? Sorry just had to vent.

[babymama1985]

Well it got better on both sides. But it never truly went away. She got mad because I wrote on her sons cast "hope u feel better love ya" but ya know i understand now where she was coming from. I just minded my own business. I said hunting and she Sid hunting me but that's it. I think she realized after awhile things I truly wasn't trying to take her place or that I tried to be a mom to her son. He knew who gis mom was. I wouuld say probably a year..... took awhile. It was better but never truly went away. But one thing is taht i told my ex that I thought he was wrong sometimes. I actually took her side when he would have custody nd chon of child support lol $1000 for one child. He prob doesnt pay that now. But he was always a good dad but I kept my opinion to myself unless he asked and whether he liked it or not i always gave him a truthful answer. Why cant u talk tp your babys father about her?

[kaalaharvey]

Oh definitely being nice is a priority for sure. When did it let up for you, if ever? It's been over 2 years since this has started and quite frankly I'm really done with it. And technically, at least in my state, the child support doesn't actually mean u get to see your child :/ it just means that you have to pay for your child.

[babymama1985]

Lol but ladies there are always two sides to every story. I'm sure my ex tells his new gf all sorts of things about me. And u shouldn't judge unless u have been on both sides. I'm on the side of being the baby momma now bit a few years ago i was on the side of being the new girlfriend to the man who wasad going thri a divorce and who had a child. I definitely could have been better. I understand now what she went  thru dealing with that. Just be the nicest person u can be. It helps on both sides.

[auntie4life]

Yeah I know it kills him.  I just always remind him that if she does do child support that she has to allow him to have her for visitation.  I think that is why she hasn't yet.

[kaalaharvey]

And that's so sad that she would change her number! Seriously some women have no common sense. They are just out to hurt people :/

[kaalaharvey]

Exactly. I'm really trying to be civil on the whole thing. I have a pfa on her dad so I can't ask him to ask her to stop either. It's really quite annoying. But I suppose until she gets off her high horse ill be stuck with restraining myself and being nice. I'm 8w 4d pregnant so I try to not get stressed.

[auntie4life]

My boyfriend has a daughter with an ex she is about 7 months I believe. She lives in Utah and we live in Oregon he has never gotten to see her due to financial issues and being unable to take time off work. Well when she found out I was pregnant she freaked saying he was replacing his daughter with another baby and would only fight with him when he called our text asking about her.  It kills him he hasn't seen her and now she won't talk to him and got rid of the phone she had so he is unable to even call now. She says he refused to help with things when that's not true.  And has threatened child support on him.

[babymama1985]

I agree that she needs to get over it. Y'all both made a boo boo but u still gotta deal with the hand u were dealt. I would do what u did and what you're doing. I would try to make it as good I could and peaceful as possible. She obviously isn't over it but after all this tome she needs to let it go. ESP since you're the one who has to let your baby Hoover there and u r the one being nice. Gnome sounds like a woman with a vengeance.