how can i get my bf that has 2 kids interested in my pregnancy?

[hsmaddox]

my bf that i have been with for 3yrs now has 2 kids and where always in and out of court with them and ita alotta,work and i try hard to keep on track and help roger (father) with his kids and its a job to keep his kids happy and looking me cause there mom fills thee head with everything and i don't know what to do because now I'm pregnant and no one seems very interested in what's going on with me  instead it seems as if where always caring for his kids and
taking care of his lawyer bills and always making sure things are ok with him and his kids. i fill so lost. and to top it I'm scared to even tell my step kids that I'm pregnant cause i fill like there reaction will not be good. what do i do.. i really need the father of my baby here for me this one time like ihave always been for him and his kids?

[Mommy24721]

Try talking to him and telling him how u feel tell him that u feel neglected and like his kids seem more important tell him u want to b with him but want him to b there for u when u need him cause ur there for him when he needs u a relationship takes two people not just one

[AnnieBrooke]

I wish you weren't pregnant.  He has made it clear that those kids he spends his money on and goes to court about are his number-one priority; and frankly, you're about to be a mom, you can see that it is only natural and correct that your child should be your number-one priority over your love interest since the child has no one to protect him or her except the parent, and the parent is obliged (legally and morally) to be there for the kids.  All you can hope is that when the baby is born he will also feel that way about his new child.  (He might even be thinking, here he is with all this legal trouble over the other kids, and you got pregnant so now he has even more guilt, responsibility and worry being piled on.  In other words, don't expect a man to drop to his knees in instant joy if you get pregnant.  For some guys, that is mixed news.)   I also think you are mistaking the situation when you say that since you've been there for him about his kids, he should now be there for you.  He is probably going to be only about as there for you as he ever was.  You have helped him and that is probably one of the reasons he is still in a relationship with you, you don't cop attitude or squawk at him about the money or say it's not fair.  He probably thinks you like the kids or just are a nice person, but that does not translate in his mind to any obligation for him to try to bend over backwards to keep you.  (He hasn't needed to so far.)  It's kind of peculiar, but when one person is pleasant or understanding, some people just think this is the kind of person they are and take it without feeling obliged to return the favor.  

Anyway, if your guy is like that and no amount of discussion is changing the way he is acting, I would expect that over time you might consider either going for counseling (or simply leaving, I'm sorry to say).  For now, see if he will go to counseling with you, and if he won't, go alone.  

[arnitia]

Bump.