So annoyed...random vent (enter at your own risk.)

[rosey3216]

So I'm sorry but this is really starting to get to me. All these girls on here are bitching about how they are up to like 150 pounds now that they're halfway through their pregnancy.. and everyone is comparing and I'm just on the side like wow... I never tell anyone my weight other than my doctor obviously, but I was 310 before pregnancy and last I checked I was like 315. I have always been overweight due to a lot of things. 1 depression. 2 medication. And 3 I was vegetarian for 3 years and my family wasn't very supportive so I had to work around their meals and didn't get to really eat a lot of healthy food. My whole family has been overfeeding me since I was reallyy little, my dad died when I was 7 and I feel like that was one way that they tried to "comfort" me because they didn't know what to say to me. My whole family is overweight and I have tried countless numbers of diets and can never seem to lose a significant amount of weight. Anyways it just brings me back to my school days when I was the designated ugly fat friend and while all my size 2 friends bitched about their weight, I would just sit there quietly because I was a size 16.. I have always had low self esteem and I feel like all the weight forums on here are starting to bring me down even more. There is so much more I could say on this subject but I guess I just had to get that off my chest because it really makes me feel like the odd one out.. just like it always has been. :(

[JennCam]

I agree to that...to show support here, from reading about your belief about yourself...im sure you went through hell, I hated high school.myself...younh ppl are so vain...but I have to add that beauty is in all shapes and sizes the beauty that stands out is inside, dont be so hard.on yourself...ignore the ignorant, they dont know any better ;)

[rosey3216]

Not at all. Just the skinny girls that play the "omg I'm so fat" role.. I dealt with that all through my school years, I thought once I graduated it would stop but I guess not... But getting into shape and being healthy is TOTALLY different.

[JennCam]

I would never ever, put any other female down...thats not what im about, im here to support.others.as well, I work hard on myself and I saw ur.post and felt it was somewhat geared at.me.bc I spoke about weight.

[rosey3216]

Yeah I saw your post about dieting after baby, that is nothing like the posts that are bothering me. Your post was a valid question, I'm just saying that the posts of skinny girls that know they're tiny but say they're soooo fat is what gets to me. When a girl that is 130 pounds when pregnant and almost due is saying shes fat, how is that supposed to make us women at 300 pounds feel? If shes fat, I must be HUGE. That's what bothers me, not women who are talking about getting into shape. There is a big difference.

[JennCam]

I.posted about dieting bc I dont like.what I look like big, and I thourougly enjoy fixing my issue...i did not gloat, nor aim at hurting anyones feelings, it was a valid question, for myself this site is for support...BITCHING isnt something I do.  I enterrd at my own risk and you posted at ur.own.  Sorry you feel the way that you do, but insensitivity should be banned on this site!  Sincerely, The Bitcher

[Mama2B_Again]

I understand where you are coming from. I was 265 prepregnancy, and at 34+4, I am now 269. No, I haven't gained hardly anything, but I get the whole "big before pregnant" thing. The hardest part for me is that my mother has always been far bigger than me, so I could turn to her. However, in the last 1.5 years she has lost 140 lbs, and is currently about 20 lbs less than me. Now she is just cruel to me about my weight! Asking if there's only one in there, taking my prepregnancy clothes because I "can't wear them anyway", etc. I just smile and say, "yeah, but I'll only be pregnant for a few more weeks. You'll always be a heartless bit¢h." Darn hormones, can't control 'em. :) Sorry for the novel, but just remember you won't be preggo forever. After baby comes you can start walking, mommy and me exercise classes, etc. Don't stress about it now, just grow a healthy baby. And overweight does not make you ugly or worthless, that's society speaking, not real people who care. And your baby will love you no matter your size. :)

[rosey3216]

Motherhood is one of the stores that only went up to size 22.. :( plus I wear like 46 E in bras so that doesn't help... I'm hoping breastfeeding will help a bit and my baby is due in June so the weather will be better to be more active, but its hard for me to even do daily tasks without losing my breath, even taking a shower, getting dressed or walking up the stairs takes my breath away. :/ it *****...

[mummytwobee]

I dont get why people complain about gaining weight im 95 pre pregnancy and im soo worried that ill lose more once i breast feed! Im jealous of the ladies who have curves i wasnt lucky enough to be that way so i think everyone should feel beautiful how they are! The grass isnt always greener on the other side! I personally hate being so tiny

[flower216]

Motherhood is a great store!! And watch before you know it your baby is goin to be here and you have to show your baby that no matter your size or height(i struggle with that alot) you're goin to be as beautiful as god created you and plus i personally the bigger the better its more of me and everyone to go around:)

[acline93]

motherhood maternity is GREAT! I'm about a size 18-20 but with a huge belly by now, and their plus size maternity wear fits amazingly.

[rosey3216]

Yeah its all really frustrating. I remember every time I would go shopping for a prom dress through high school I would cry in the dressing room because I could never get the dress I really wanted, they never came in my size or they didn't fit me right.. my bf says "you're fine" but doesn't really make me feel all that secure about it.. its always been an issue for me, I almost cried today trying to find some clothes that fit, I had to find the biggest size they had and even then sometimes it didn't fit exactly... I looked online for plus size maternity stores and they all only go up to like size 22.. I'm a size 20 right now and only 16 weeks.. its very depressing for me.. :( and I've had so many people beat it into my head over the years that I'm fat and ugly and worthless that I've just started agreeing with them because I started to believe it.. so now I don't like anything about myself and idk how to change it. :'(

[Shirano]

I got to be honest. The other posts were posted because these women are having a hard time with there body changing, they weren't to make anyone feel bad. They need support just as you all and I need support as we go through SO MANY changes within our bodies. I an technically over weight and before I got pregnant I was trying to get my BMI in the normal range, it's crazy hard to do lol. But I got so used to always trying to lose that the whole gaining thing really is hard on me because I would celebrate a loss and be determined to lose if I had gained. Now I have to learn to be okay with the gaining because I am taking care of my baby girl. Every woman struggles with there body image at some point and pregnancy can cause the struggle to be even harder. I'm so sorry the posts are getting to you they weren't meant to. This post may hurt so of the others who had posted previously because they don't want to make anyone feel bad they just want support, like you want support, like we all want support. It's hard being pregnant keep your chin up, you are beautiful! You have life living inside you which is the coolest thing :)

[metalmum]

Im 320pounds or 144kgs. Im 6ft1. I look fat but not huge. Im 14 weeks
my doc has told me to loose weight cos its to much strain on my body and mostly my heart. If i cant loose a bit of weight the i will have to have my baby an hours drive from my place not the 10mins up the road. My hospital dosnt cater for bigger women150kg+.

[acline93]

I was thinking the same exact thing, which is why I haven't really been on here nearly as much. I see a lot of girls complaining that they were 110 pounds pre-pregnancy, and they've gained 30 and now it's the end of the world, whenever I've lost 30 due to morning sickness but now I'm worrying about gaining that weight back.

[hippiemommy]

I dont understand why everyone wants to loose weight as long as your health is good then i think your fine.. big is beautiful ..im actually really skinny but i hate it.  Its actually kinda hard gaining weight as well.. i feel if you got it flaunt it.. i love big girls i wish i could get to be overweight.. it might seem weird but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and i feel big is beautiful..

[flower216]

Dont feel bad and for all those people that make you feel bad think of their comments as something for you to notice that you need people that tell you how beautiful you are how no matter your size they want you around and want to be there for you. I hope this help to make you feel better because you made me cry and made me want to belly bump everyone that makes you feel bad ;) so imagine a 9weeks girls well 18 year thats exactly 5ft and a belly bump everyone lol.:)

[maybaby19]

Blessed, I had a meltdown two nights ago because I'm so uncomfortable with how much I might again and how I feel like my husband doesn't want to be around me and is being distant and feel like its because I'm gaining weight....its an aweful feeling :/

[BlessedELEVEN]

Same here I was 285 prepregancy and now I am 263.. I've lost 18 pounds due to morning sickness.. I don't know about you mommies but lately I've been feeling stressed about gaining anymore weight. I am scared to gain weight and then not being able to lose it after the baby. I cried myself to sleep last night because of it. I know that I shouldn't worry and just be happy I'm carrying a baby inside of me, but I worry! My husband lately has been very distant and I feel that he finds me ugly. I've gained 100 pounds since we've married seven years ago. Due to multiple reasons, and now I'm worried he will really be disgusted by me... I usually self validate myself, but being hormonal doesn't help either!

[maybaby19]

Sweetheart, I'm not very far overweight, and my body shape hides it well, but even so...seeing girls talk about how depressing it is to be 140 and 39 weeks pregnant is hard for me to see when I bust my butt to stay under 190. I know its not much help but "over weight" is over weight. Its always been hard for me to get motivated to stay in shape when I bust my butt to stay this size and I see girls that are just naturally tiny. And to hear my family lecture me on staying in shape and good health when they are all over weight too and are the ones who taugh me my eatting habits. But I just had to accept that I will never be a "naturally" skinny girl and quit blaming my family. I'm 21 and but my own food and cook my own meals, its my fault now if I'm not in shape. You will find someone to love you for you! But you have to love yourself first. Do something to make yourself proud and do it for you...you deserve it! I hope you pick your head up, because a confident woman is a beautiful woman...in any culture, shape, size.

[rosey3216]

But no one has ever made me feel beautiful... Always the opposite.. :( I feel so hopeless.. I've been trying to lose weight since elementary school...

[NikiHans]

The scale doesn't define beauty, it comes in all shapes and sizes.

[rosey3216]

I suppose so... Bump

[shelleversole]

Babe, lots of us were overweight prepregnancy. I am, and have been since before i was.pregnant. Its hard on everyone, no one who is pregnant feels secure all the time. Love yourself, you are a beautiful person and will have a beautiful child soon. Losing weight is so hard. My doctor had me on fish oil pills nd worked with me to help gve tips an support tolose weight before i got pregnant. This was to help combat pcos, and help me get pregnant. Once i have my little guy I am going to walk every day the weather is good enough for him to be out in, and once I heal up from birth I am going to strt working out again. You just need a good support system an faith in yourself. Trust me doctors are more than willing to help. Keep your head up!

[missymay34]

Don't feel bad I was 223 at the beginning of this pregnancy. I have medical issues that cause me to bee overweight as well. I lost 25 lbs and an still down 16 lbs Prepregnancy weight. I want to diet after this baby and try to lose weight as well. I do plan on breast feeding again too.