Christmas vent

[Crixiancrucial]

I dont normally do this...My parents got divorced in September after being separated since February and my father can not just get over it. So I've been his shoulder to cry on and his only family since then I take him with me to my in laws holidays so he isn't alone and drinking himself to death.  So this year x mas is aty house because I'm 35 weeks pregnant and don't want to take a chance slipping and falling on all the ice. My mother is coming over an hour before everyone else so we can exchange gifts and spend a little time together and my father found out and is now upset at me and refusing to come out because she isn't going to be there when he is and they are just going to fight and make everything worse. Everything I wanted for Christmas is ruined my husband is on midnights both days and now my family is acting stupid.  I'm 35 weeks pregnant with a cold and tendinitis in my wrist. All I wanted was everything to be nice and everyone to be happy and all I get is a smack in the face.

[ashleypaige06]

Im sorry you have to deal with that :( I couldnt imagine being torn between my 2 parents

[Crixiancrucial]

Tried they are acting like children. The biggest problem is his drinking he gets mean and send out nasty txt messages to everyone. I mean the man is 50 years old you would think he would just be civil and learn but nope. Its just frustrating.

[ashleypaige06]

Maybe ask him to come around and be civil, if possible. That way they could get out any awkwardness before your baby is born and you guys could still be a family even though theyre not together.  I know itd be a lot easier said than done, but maybe they could both move forward and still get along. For your sake and your new babys

[Crixiancrucial]

Thank you guys. Yeah it would just hurt him more I don't understand it I know he loves her and what not but if I were him I wouldn't want to deal with it. I would also confront him and I have but he has a bad drinking problem on top of it all and it makes it hard to talk to him sometimes.

[Lilseamonkey]

Dang I'm sorry to hear all that :/ sounds like your pop needs a kick in rear end lol maybe confront him about it, about how he's not really being fair to you. You're too pregnant to gallivanting around and he needs to understand this and just suc!k it up and try to enjoy the holiday you've planned. He doesn't need to be around her it'll only hurt him more

[Nina159]

That's hard I know his hurt but should not get mad at u just because he won't see ur mom when his there