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on da day i go into labor is there a way to prevent someone frm actually being in da delivery rm if not wanted.. (when i say soneone im referring to my bby daddy). i wont want him there when im having my bby n the whole time im at da hospital n when it comes to filling out paperwrk for bbys certificate can i do this on my own without having him there cus i dnt want this bby of mine to carry is stupid *** last name.
Yes you can sign the birth certificate however you want to. With our without him or his last name
bby5, you got a lot of good advice in this thread - but you need to talk to the hospital social worker to get some of your questions answered. No, it's very unlikely they'll allow you to drive away from the hospital alone with your baby - you aren't supposed to be driving yet. And you can't bring a toddler in to the labor and delivery - they'll likely call CPS for temporary care if you don't have any one at all to watch her while you're in labor.
All the other legal questions can be answered by the clerk in the hospital about the procedure for the birth certificate. If your ex is the father, and he wants to be a part of the baby's life, you'll have to go to court over that - you can't just deny him rights.
I totally agree you need to go to California to deliver, or quickly make some new friends - maybe other young moms - because you can't do this completely alone. But best to go back to California.
Best wishes.
All the other legal questions can be answered by the clerk in the hospital about the procedure for the birth certificate. If your ex is the father, and he wants to be a part of the baby's life, you'll have to go to court over that - you can't just deny him rights.
I totally agree you need to go to California to deliver, or quickly make some new friends - maybe other young moms - because you can't do this completely alone. But best to go back to California.
Best wishes.
thank u every1 for ur response.. i wud go bck to cali if i had a pl to stay but i dnt cus sis n bro hav their own lives n as for my parents will mom has passed away last month n husband has moved on. plus i used to hav medical in cali but x tlked me into getting medicate here cus im nw a resident. its just all a mess in my end for listening. idk wat i was thinking.
At our hospitals in texas you can only be in the mothers room to pick up the baby, or nursery and you only get one band to give to the dad or whoever you want and no one is let in .even if your the parent you cant even walk the baby outside of the room or the whole floor goes into lock down due to the band on the babies foot. You can keep the baby in your room with you the intire time. And the nursrs will put on your door no visiters, and no one can come in. even if he gets close to the door they send him away.
Try and go back to Cali before you have your baby. Thats what I would do. I would leave and never look back. Im sure your family would be willing to help you. Escpecially that its Christmas time.
if hes not there wit the whole nine months of misery i had to go thru i dnt c y i shud hav him there when my bby arrives. he nver wanted o cared for this unborn bby so y towrds da end.
no cus i just moved to this state n frends n families r in cali so its just me n my kidos at first i thought hes in da picture but i was wrong. left to b wit someone else n dnt want him near this new bby of mine even tho he says he will.
I had my babies as no visiters. And no one was aloud to see them not even through the glass. My baby stayed with me the entire time and whrn they took him,to check on him they kept the blinds closed. I told them thats what I wanted.
No in order for you to put him on the birth certificate he has to sign it and you both have to be present with your state ID's. And as far as you not having a ride home your going to be in some pain and I dont think they wil let you drive yourself. And as far as your daughter I dont know if they will want her in there for the delivery. You really have no one to watch her or drive you?
Thats against the law. The doors have to be locked and acsess has to be granted (the First time, usually they remember you if you have to walk out and come back in) But they have to have automatic locks on doors to keep babies who are not released from the hospital from leaving. I would call your hospital and ask about their protocalls and how you can deny Access to someone specific.
See I guess its different at different hospitals. I remember when I was at the hospital when my nephew was born we all went to the nursery without a problem. And they didnt ask us anything. Im pretty sure if he asks about the baby and says hes the dad they will ask to see the wrist band. My husband had to show the numbers on the band constantly.
i can put his name on da paperwrk not dat i want too but if say i did the person dat handles dat can handle accept that form without his signature n will tgey allow me to drive myself hm when im ready to be discharge cus i wont hav anyone to get me. let alone take me so im hopeing da hospital is just near by dat i can dr there wgen having contraction n will they allow my 2 yr old daughter in da rm wit me while delivering cus i wont hav anyone to watch her n let alone let my ******* x kno im having my bby.
In our hospital, you walk straight past the nurses station and they ask you no questions, you can pretty much walk into anyone's room and they don't make you sign in
Yea thats true. He has to have a hospital wrist band. I forgot about that. They asked my husband for it constantly when he was there
When someone goes to visit at the hospital they have to say who they are visiting, if hes on a no visitor list then he cant even get into the L&D ward, and no he shouldnt be able to go to the nursery either even if he did somehow get into l&d.
AT the nursery you see the babies through the window. Only hospital staff can go into the nursery
Anyone visiting can see anyones baby at the nursery. Some guys arent that smart. Hell more than likely come look for you first. Simply tell him they took the baby for tests and you dont know when theyre bringing him back.
If they take my baby to the nursery and he finds out I'm at the hospital, can he see my baby in there without my consent?
You can let the staff know you do not want him in there. And as far as the birth certificate you have the right as the mother to put your babies last name as which ever you chose. You do not have to have his permission to put the last name same as yours. Not having him sign will make it a little tougher for you to take him to court for child support and such. They will want to establish paternity but he doesnt have to be on there for this. Having his name gives him certain rights not having him on there gives you sole custody of your baby until he takes you to court. If you guys are not together in my opinion this would be the best way to go.
Dont tell him when your in labor,but if he finds out an comes he cant be in there if you dont want him to.the birth certificate,leave father blank or add him an give the baby your last name anyways.
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