Thanks.. I just emailed her and nicely asked if she had "surprise" booked a flight and that she needed to tell me asap b/c it wasnt part of the plan, etc. etc.. Maybe I can get her to AT LEAST change the dates and make it a little shorter of a trip.
I understand what you are saying, but there really isn't much you can do about it right now right? And she's going to have to understand that you have things that you want to do in a certain way. Just try to get her to change the dates. Not to cancel, just to change the dates.
I know.. Most people dont follow the schedule from day 1 b.c it is too challenging.. Thats why Ken & I just want Ken & I around.. Its going to be exhausting but it is very important to us.. I am NOT doing demand feedinsg and middle of the night feedings for months on end.. I just wont.. I am excited to add Jaxson to my life, not have my life revolve around him.. Ok, I think I wont say anything else.. Clearly everyone else loves their Mom around 24-7 and wants her there.. I just dont and am getting frustrated..
I DO sincerely thank you all for your input! Thx! XO
I have a friend that is just like that. But when she gave birth her parents were there and she was almost begging them not to leave in the end because they helped her out more than she thought they would. Also she thought that it would be easy to put the baby on schedule, that the baby would adjust, NOPE, she and her husband just had to adjust to the baby's agenda.
We are trying a feeding/napping/sleeping schedule from day 1.
Well some airlines if you cancel a flight, they will allow you to re-use the ticket at another time as long as you book it to the same city. Which airline is she traveling with? You can call the airline and find out, she wont loose her money she'd just come later.
Also, if she doesn't help out, make her help out. give her the baby when she's sitting on the couch eating bom boms and tell her that you are taking a nap. Stuff like that. How many plans could you possibly have with a newborn in the first few days? She doesn't need to be in the delivery room, I'm not allowing anyone but my husband there.
But I know my mom and my MIL and they'll be thre cooking and cleaning mainly and changing a few diapers. It'll be sad for me and my husband when they leave because then we'll really have to take on the full baby duty.