i get what u are saying and when i had my frist i was against having my mother help me at all. My mother is the same way pushy and controlling but i have to admitt when i though it woud bother me it ended up being the thing that saving me having her there when i brought my daughter home cause i am telling u with me i read all the books and such but man that all went out the window when they told me i was taking her home and that was that i was like i has no idea what to do with this little person . as I figured ur mother is one person u know has been through this an d managed not to go crazy ( cause those moments will come) i agree having her here before had sounds like it might be a little much in the way but maybe the help after the baby is born will be worth . try talking to ur mom and letting her know what u are thinking and how it is making u feel .
as for the private delivery that i agree on to ia m only having two people in the room with me one is the Dh and the other is BFF who has been through this with me with muy other to she is there this time not so smuch for me but t o support the hubby cause this is frist time going through all of this.
again talk to ur mom let her know what uare thinking hopefully she will understand and maybe respect ur wishes when i t comes to wanting the privacy.
Good luck with setting the schedule or trying just remember to be flexible with a new born like i think others have posted for me that why u wont get broken hearted if it doesnt work right away remember babies have a mind of their own
good luck with talking ot mom
You know as mean as it may sound i also HATE company after giving birth, It must be something about my hormones, because I just want my husband to be around...
Everything everyone else does (even to try to help me ) drives me nuts and makes me mad. It happened with my daughter and with my son: I JUST WANTED TO BE LEFT ALONE :|, my mom "felt" it and just stayed away untill I felt ready.
My point is: i completely understand what you feel and eventhought your mom would feel bad, I think being tackfully (sp?) honest now would be much better than feeling miserable and wanting to kill her once she is there...I dont know, maybe you can offer her move the flight, or make her stay shorter...
Best of luck...
K.. I will keep you posted! =)
I hope they work for us too!
Well, that's AWESOME if you can get it to work. Let me know and maybe I will get those books before #2 comes!
No offense taken AT ALL!! I agree to an extent and since this is my first, I may be totally naive w/ thinking that scheduling is even possible.. But we want to try..
The idea behind it is that Ken and I found 2 books that we are choosing to follow that have a schedule that we want to try,, I am NOT saying it will be successful, we are just really hoping so! =)
And my Mom is totally controlling and will not comply is more my concern than if the actual schedule doesnt pan out.,
We are following the " The contented little baby book" by Gina Ford, and "Baby Wise".. Not sure who the author is on that one, I am having a brain fart!! I have 2 really close friends who followed these books.. One recommended each book, and all of their children slept through the night by 8 weeks (at the latest) And when I say through the night, I mean 11pm - 5 am.. So.. we shall see..
Thanks for all the input. I emailed my Mom and have yet to hear back from her.. I hate confrontation,and am nervous, but really feel strongly about standing my ground on this one.,.
I just wanted to tell you that the reason most people don't have a set schedule with a newborn isn't because it is too challenging it is because it is dam-n near impossible. You cant force a baby to sleep or be awake when it doesn't want to and you can't make it wait too eat either, babies will eat and sleep when they want. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with trying but I am saying not to have too high of hopes in succeeding in your schedule.
Sorry if that sounded harsh but my hormones are going crazy and I can't keep myself from saying what I think at this point in my pregnancy.