Dealing with insane stress

[Raevicious]

How do you ladies deal with stress? There's a chance I'm going to lose my contract with my salon because I just told them I'm pregnant and.my boss is having me come in for a meeting next week to 'talk'.  Well, that's not all and yes this is a bit of a rant, but the father of my child has been ignoring me. Since I told him I am in fact pregnant the only things he has said to me is he can't trust me and he demands a blood test. Now, I'm no white trash or anything and I don't sleep around, everyone knows this child is his. He wouldn't give me any of his information, so a friend of mine went online to a government site and we searched his name...turns out he already has a child, which he lied to me before and said he didn't have kids, and the state is after him for owing more than $2,000 in child support. All of this at 9 weeks seems like a bit much and I've been keeping my composure because I know if I lose it, it will stress on my baby which I love more than anything right now but I want to know if there's anyone out there who's gone through this or any tips as to how to keep myself from going crazy or any help at all. Feel free to comment or message me, I need something.

-Soon to be single mommy at age 21

[MamaBear0612]

I've been under stress since the beginning.  My job is insane sometimes, it's been a struggle just to keep my head above water. At first the father of my child was having major issues with the pregnancy, and even though he got better we've had our breakdowns throughout. I've handled a lot of things alone, which wears on you after awhile. The other day I had a breakdown because I didn't have anybody to call when I dropped water all over my floor. I had to get down on my hands and knees to clean it up, and then I'm so big I couldn't get back up...totally dumb, but I sat there on my floor and just cried...then I went to bed and cried all night. Being single and being pregnant isn't always fun and it has its very hard moments, all I can tell you is to keep your head up and let yourself cry it out if you need to. Try to wrap yourself up in fun baby stuff, and in people who love you and are excited about the baby...if your ex isn't, then stay away from him if necessary and don't feel bad about it. It's about you and your mental health, and that precious baby of yours, not about him.

Just so you know, I'm almost 29 weeks now and my baby is perfect, despite all my stress. I have a lot of ultrasounds to check on her since I'm considered high-risk, but she's healthy and growing strong. The last time I saw her, she was yawning and being cute on the screen like she had not a care in the world. We're not the first or last women to be stressed in our pregnancy, our babies will be okay. Once they're here, they'll be the light of our lives and then all the stress of a difficult, single pregnancy will be only a memory.

[trying43]

As far as your job go into the meeting and either record the meeting with a mini recorder or bring a witness.  I don't know what state your in but they can't get rid of you because ur pregnant.  Contact your states employment commission to find out what to do. As far as your bf is concerned sounds like he doesn't want to take responsibility so u will have to get dna test and go after him for support to.  Good luck.

[vallove31]

I'm stressing to my baby father keeps telling me He doesn't want the baby. The baby want have his last name or he want tell anyone about the baby not even his parents. It makes me feel like u