FRUSTRATED. ..

[xMommy2Be_]

My baby shower is in two weeks, my inlaws, me & my other half is paying for everything. My inlaws specifically asked me if my parents could help with food, I asked my mom because she's the one working, my dad is laid off taking care of my THREE BROTHERS. So I do not want to bother him for money, I'm not saying that I need money but my inlaws did ask & my mom did agree so far she didn't buy ANYTHING, didn't offer money, she doesn't really pay bills she lives off welfare, she lives with a friend, she has it easy I don't know how she is broke all the time. Anyways, it just makes me mad & I am crying because if she doesn't chip in & help it's not just going to make me look bad, but my whole family Its shame that she can't give us money, I feel bad that my inlaws are providing food & my mom does nothing. Me & my boyfriend spent a lot of money buying decorations, games, prizes. It makes me not want a baby shower because of how she's acting :'(

[RockRose]

xMommy,  right now you're trying to cover for your mother in front of your boyfriend's family - and that won't last long.  Your boyfriend's family and your family are going to have a long-term relationship since you are pregnant,  and you can't hide your mother forever.

At some point,  whatever your family  is,  strengths and weaknesses,  pluses and minuses,  your boyfriend's family will grow to know.

Just tell them your mother can't afford to help out,  and do her part for her.  Buy a loaf of bread and some nice lunch meat and make finger sandwiches or something.  Showers don't have to be an enormous burden to bear that breaks the bank.

[Ari_nana]

My mom was suppose to be hosting mine baby shower when it came down to it me and my boyfriend had to pay for everything! I had to set everything up I was luck enough that my best friend came over early to help me! But my mom did nothing the entire time getting her to just take pictures was horrible. But once my sister that just had her baby hence why I didn't ask her for her help got there with my cousin they took pulverized so I could relax and at least have some fun.. But I did tell her at the end never again! Next time I will hire someone if I have to! Cause I ended up having to clean and take down the decorations by myself after! So I was not happy with mine to say the least!

[mitch_14]

Whoever is hosting the party is discharge of paying for stuff if your in-laws are hosting they pay for everything if you are you pay for everything. If someone brings something to help out that's just a bonus you should never make someone feel like they have to contribute to YOUR party especially if they are going thru ruff times...

[Bentleysmommy18]

My mom isn't even in my life she's that much of a failure I want her no where near me! My husband and I and his mom will be doing everything for our baby shower! But my mother in law understands I really have no family once so ever except for my dad so she always does what she can for me!
Don't let it bother you!

[rebeccaann11]

Maybe she financially can't right now but didnt know how to tell you no

[Lataaa]

Yeah you shouldn't be shameful it's hard out their even if she lives off of welfare. It's not about the money im sure she would if she could. A lot of people go through the same thing ...

[Revvy12]

Why be a shame of your family being broke its not shameful..plus you don't have to go buying everything for a baby shower just buy a few things and a few food platters will be plenty