FTM with dad with kids

[jordyvi0824]

I'm having a really hard time with my boyfriends kids! I love them but thy re so disrespectful all the time! Their mom lets them do whatever thy want all the time and eat whatever they want all the time so they are always hyped up on sugar and thy are always disrespectful to kids and adults! They hit each other and their dad they hit kids at the park.. I've told them that if they ever hit me they won't be aloud over anymore so they don't touch me! But I am really scared to have my baby around them when she comes I feel like they won't care that she's a baby and hit her and I don't really want her around them because I don't want that same disrespectful attitude to rub off on her! Ugh I'm so frustrated! Anyone in a similar pickle or have any suggestions?

[jordyvi0824]

@ammanda well you definitely get it! Thanks momma! And good Luck to you as well :)

[ammanda]

I seriously just read my life in this! Lol my bf son is almost 5. And he drives me absolutely insane!  He is annoying as heck and doesn't listen.  I think my main problem is I don't like kids. Sounds bad but hey whatever.. I have a 4 year old as well and he's my world!  He's a spoiled rotten Lil boy who I'd lay my life down for. He's a sissy cry baby with alot of feelings and I would not have it any other way lol. Well my bf makes fun of my son and is so cruel to him about it. Bc in their family they teach the kids to fight and hit and to not cry. Well I think my bf is completely blind bc his son is a cry baby too. He just refuses to see it.  I let them into my home as well and into my car. I do all the driving and stuff bc he can't drive and his son's mom is a lazy b****! Point of the matter is there's no reason he can't sit his damn kids down and tell them wth is up and make them listen and respect you. That's what a real father does!  I am having our Lil girl in 2 weeks and I am even sending my own son away for a few days so I can bond with my daughter and get the swing of things. And my bf better believe his son isn't gonna be there either! You deserve that time and you DO NOT need to feel bad for it or listen to any one trying to get you to! Take your time and enjoy it! And def make the new rules!  Me and my bf have alot to work out bc clearly we have 2 different ways of parenting.  But I will win and my daughter will be raised the way I want or were gone. Plain and simple. I am am great mother and until he can prove he can be a better father his opinion or wants or not needed. And I can sound bad all I want but until you know the story dont judge! Let's just say his family smokes cigs and weed and drink around there kids.  They all talk all ghetto and hit them and teach them how to fight. . Not the way my son or our daughter will be raised and he knows that. HeHe also knows our daughter isn't allowed at any of his siblings houses!  

[jordyvi0824]

Okay I can understand that that's a good suggestion! Thankks

[Mana517]

I agree u did become a mother as soon as you got pregnant and actually before that u actually become a mother the day you welcomed your boyfriend and his children in to your home and trust me I know all about dealing with difficult people my kids dad tell them not only not to listen to my boyfriend but not to listen to me either. I'm glad that I have raised my kids well enough to know better and for the most part they are pretty respectful to my boyfriend but like I said before the first few days of coming back from visits with their dad they tend to act out a lot more than usual. I step in and take complete control of the situation instead of my boyfriend saying something because I know the kids probably would not respond very well to that ... Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and have him do most or all of the disciplining and talking to, and you just be there to support them. TThose kids are obviously going through some pretty hard times and maybe they do resent that fact that their dad is with you and not their mom ... That's not your fault but they are kids and kids act out cause sometimes they don't know any other way of expressing their emotions. I truely wish you the best and hope the kids come around

[jordyvi0824]

Shame on me? Really? Cause I want a little time with MY baby I never said their father couldn't see them for that time he can see them everyday! They don't need to be there and I might ya when my sister had her baby she had her daughter stay with me for a week so she could have some time! I think it would be worse for them to be there and not get any attention because our attention is going to need to be 100% on the newborn I would rather them be somewhere where they will at least have some attention it's not mean at all it's actually a better thing for them as well

[mrs_farris]

Like i said if they were your biological children you wouldn't have them not stay with you for a few weeks. Shame on you.