HOW (not what) are you Naming your baby...

[Tasha505]

Some people name their babies after someone in the family... my mom thinks that a middle name is something that should come from a relative, either distant or close (great great grandfather, or an uncle, etc.). When I told her I wanted to give my son a middle name that has nothing to do with anyone in our either of our families, she disagreed and said it should be a name of someone in either mine or my husbands family...

What do you all think about this??? Do you think she's just old fashion or is this how it really "usually" is???

Thanks!!!

[Limonada]

Sorry, I didn't complete my post...

What I was going to add is essentially what JoyRenee said:  this is YOUR child, not your mom's.  She can have an opinion, of course, but you're in no way obligated to name your child something that you don't want to, even if it's to satisfy a family tradition or expectation.

[Limonada]

My first son was unintentially named after DH's grandfather (first name) and my grandfather (second name - but we used the Portuguese version of the name.....my husband is Portuguese).  We didn't plan this - we just liked the names together.  I think that both my family and DH's like to think that we named him after these deceased relatives, so we don't correct them.  They can think whatever they want, it makes them feel good.  The thing I really like about his name is that his initials are the same as my mom's - who died 8 years ago - just in a different order.

Our second son's names have no family significance whatsoever.  

[AHP84]

I think JoyRenee said it best; I was about to reply with something similar. :-)

In my opinion, it's nice to carry on a name in the family if that's what you decide. My first son has two middle names that are both family names (one from my side of the family and one from his father's side).
My second son's first and middle name have no family ties at all. My husband and I just found two names we liked and went with it--however, we did hear a few mild complaints from certain people on both sides of our families, lol, but they got over it.
Had my second son been a girl, we had a middle name picked out to honor my mom. It wasn't the same name, but rather a variant of the name. My mom's name is Laurie and we were going to use Laurel. But it was a very personal decision for us, not because we felt like we HAD to do it.

[JoyRenee]

What I think is that this is YOUR son and YOU get to name him whatever you want. ;-)
Your momma had her children and got to name them what she wanted. Now it is your turn. Have fun choosing a name for your son!!!

[Shayne1989]

For a girl we're using a family middle name, and thats only because its my middle name and has been for every woman on my mothers side as far as we can track down, but for a boy, all the names we've come up with so far none of them we are planning on using a family name. I think if you and Dh find a name and a middle name that arent family related and u really like it go for it! its your guys decision, so i think do whatever you like, and name your baby whatever you guys like best.

[cherylsangel]

For our little guy, we have chosen a traditional Irish name as we are both Irish and he will have two middle names which will be Paul and James for my and DF dads. Thats just something we chose to do however, I do not think it is necessary, only if you want to, its your child and you name him what you want!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

My family had a "tradition" of naming the first female in every generation "catherine".  This was the girl that the family heirloom jewelry and stuff was to be passed down to.  Well after learning that my uncle had HOCKED all the family heirlooms I figured what's the point and nixed the "tradition"  Out of 4 kids only one of them has been named after someone else.  My oldest sons middle name is the same as my FIL's and DH wanted to do something to honor him.  But other than that we just go with names WE like and don't worry about what the rest of the family or anyone else thinks.

[WifeofAnt]

If we have a girl the middle name is going to be a tribute to my stepmom's stillborn daughter.  My hubby is picking the name if the baby is a boy.

[Ashelen]

my daughter's first and middle names are completely out of the blue, and so is my son's first name...but my son's two middle names are family names (one is my maiden name because I'm the last one in the family to carry the name and if we don't pass it on the family name will die...and the other one is DH's grandfather's first name because he passed away a few weeks ago).

[ammanda]

I have my grandmas name as my middle name.  and My sister has my other grandmas name as her middle name.. I think its old fanshion yes, but its a family thing, so I think its a good idea.. I named my son Cole, which was his fathers first sons middle name who passed away.. I love keeping family names around.. but you dont necessarily have to. its ur descion

[bubbahbigsis]

my daughters name has nothing to do with anyone in the family. for my boys there first name is unique and there middles names are after family members but it wasnt something that we thought we had to do. i say its your child and you name your baby what you want to.

[becca_3456]

I have chosen a name with no family meaning. I just find a name both me and DH agree on and go with that :)

[Tasha505]

Good point... my husband isn't, and neither am I. My mom is... so I guess that's why she feels that way!! Thanks, I'm just trying to get an opinion from everyone!!

[Cassandrajane]

Well, we are using my partners name for the second part of the first name and the middle name ONLY because it HAS been passed down in the family, he is called John stephen, his uncle stephen John, his great grandad John Stephen and so on so forth, so because it has been passed on we are using it... but No, i dont think it should personally, no one in my real family or step family has for that matter just this one name John Stephen has been. If you dont want too, you dont have too, its your baby not hers. are you named after a relative. is your mum, husband or anyone? If they aint, then you shouldnt LOL...

Your baby!

xx