advice on telling people?

[amy8702]

The title kind of says it all. I'm getting closer to my 2nd trimester and decided that's when I'll share (what I believe) is my wonderful news. But, I'm worried several people know my past with all the miscarriages. One person who I thought was going to be supportive, literally called me selfish for continuing to try. I'm worried about the judgement some people may have. Only a select few know now but, that's because I knew I could count on their support. If anyone has any advice, that would be greatly appreciated.

[amy8702]

LoL, no need to apologize. I appreciate at your advice (or two cents) lol. I don't know why I'm having such a hard time with this. Probably because of my past.

[Des_a_rae]

I'd say BE PROUD of your pregnancy!!  If they can't be happy for you and decide to be rude, then you don't need them in your "happy" life.  Look what you've been through and to finally have this wonderful little miracle inside you, you have no room in  your life OR that babies life for rudeness! :D  I'd be shouting it from the roof tops and sorry for MY rudeness but p!ss on the negative ones!  I'm so happy for you!! and I think your friends and family should be especially happy for you!  Sorry for my 2 cents. lol.  Congrats hun!!

[amy8702]

I think I might just tell everyone how I want and any negative comments can easily be removed from my life.

[CR2010]

I don't blame you for cutting her out of your life. Negotivity is what is unhealthy, we can not hold back the urge to be mothers. Or be mothers again. How is it selfish to want to bring and raise a baby in the world, it's not. The baby will have plenty of love obviously and won't need anymore then mommy

[steph_ut]

I am a fairly private person so keep in mind this comes from that point of view. I would only tell those who have been supportive/expected to be supportive. It might be considered rude by some but if some people have been rude to you, I wouldn't count them amongst those who I would tell. Once they find out, you will not only have a well-established pregnancy but also a well-established support group who are elated to know that things are finally going well for you!

[amy8702]

When I asked how it was selfish she claimed I would be bringing a baby into an unsettled lifestyle as there's no way I'm over the miscarriages. She doesn't know how I feel though but the thing is, she made this a public post where many of my friends and family (a lot of people who didn't know) aware of my situation. I no longer speak to her but because of her, way too many people know what struggles we've had and my family likes to judge.

[CR2010]

How is continuing to try selfish? It's not like your aborting baby after baby. Now that's selfish (not to offend anyone) don't let anyone bring you down, this is an amazing experience, don't hold back because you are afraid of what people will say, I mean heck it's not like you can change it now. If they are not supportive they are not important