How to tell my parents??

[Aracelii23]

I'm 18 years old and I'm new to this page. I posted about not having nausea earlier and got comments so I thought I'd ask something else. I've known my boyfriend since we were kids (he was my 4th grade "bf") and now we have been dating for almost 2 years and we both just graduated high school and I'm already going to college. We sometimes argued about sex because I was raised with the "no sex till marriage"  but we finally did it earlier this year. Now I'm 6 weeks pregnant and I don't know how to tell my parents because they have always been so over protective (I've never spent the night at a friends house - over protective). My boyfriends parents took it really well and they are very excited. I told older sister first because she's my best friend and I thought she would help me out but instead she has been ignoring me now for a week. If she's this bad imagine how my parents will be. Any advice?

[BradleaMarie]

My dad was furious at first and I swear noe he's more excited than I am. Lol (and I'm extremely excited lmao )

[squidbabeh]

There is about a 100 percent chance that they will be very upset. At first.

After they get used to the idea however, there is about a 100 percent chance they will love your baby. It is going to be rough, but know the initial shock will pass, but it will be shocking to them. They may be angry, scared, and say things they don't mean. But it will pass.

[Aracelii23]

Thank you all! No I won't write a letter. I'm going to do it face to face. I just hope for the best but as of now I'm stressing over it.

[Aracelii23]

Thank you! And yes I did feel pressured at one point but I didn't give in. My biggest issue was that I wanted to but I was afraid of my parents finding out or this happening. But it's done now and I feel very blessed that there is a little life growing inside of me. I know it'll be hard for my family to understand at first but I hope they can get over it and be there for me.

[BradleaMarie]

Woah...  you're saying if you write your parents a letter that means you're not mature enough to raise your child? Helllll No! Maybe they're not good with confrontation? I have anxiety and everytime I tried telling my parents to their face I'd have a panic attack. Also, if YOU'RE not smart enough to know proper grammar then you're not smart enough to raise a child of your own. See now doesn't that just sound dumb?

[jordyvi0824]

The only way to really do it is to sit them down and tell them face to face! I have seen some girls on here give the advice to write a letter and let me tell what a horrible idea that is! It shows that your immature and if you aren't mature enough to sit your parents down you certainly aren't mature enough to raise a child of your own! The good thing is that you are 18 so the choice is yours there really is nothing your parents can do about it but most parents do come around :) good luck!

[jackiie44]

Honestly. Whats done is done. Its harder to ask permission then forgiveness. So just be honest. True parents (and youll learn this witu time as a mother) love there babies uncondiotionally. And if they dont wanr to support you and be angry and hostile and not realize your.bringing them a beautiful grandbaby into the world. Then.they dont deserve you trying your hardest to explain. Apologize. Anything. Theyll be supportive. And if not his family showed there suport hy heing excited. I was in the sake shoes at 16, i told my sister. She called ne every nake under the sun. Litterly. She wouodnt talk to me. Besides kumbling ****. And i was with the guy two years as well it wasnt like i was fooling aroumd with everyone. And i to did grow up with morals as "no sex till marrage"marrage so just sit them down.. talk. Thrre gonna get mad yell everything. Mine did my father broke a door and a guitar. But i realized my mistake n took there frusteration and let them vent. After a while of silence. My parents came around. Thry didnt support early sex. But they supported me.

[mommy0618]

If your sister knows you should probably tell your parents soon. It's better coming from you than someone else. I would tell the parent you're closer to and then have them help you tell the other parent. I definitely understand your situation as I am from a similar situation. I would advise to have a plan in hand of how you're going to handle college while pregnant/with a baby. And be prepared to have a backup place to live just in case. Your parents may be upset, but they'll eventually come around. You're their daughter, and they'll always love you even if it doesn't feel like it. Good luck!

[doulamommy]

Euch sounds like my family. I've been married almost three years and my mom still got all upset when she found out (from my brother in law) that I want a virgin when I got married! If you're over eighteen and graduated, you're an adult. Do you have a place to live with your boyfriend? Approach it from the point of view that:
yes, you made a choice they don't agree with and that you're sorry if this hurts them
BUT you're an adult and have these plans for how you're going to raise this child (insert plans here)
Give them some time to think about it. Understand that they're probably going to be upset and give them breathing room as they digest the idea.

Ps the only thing that kinda worries me about your post was that your boyfriend kinda pressured you into having sex! I hope I just misread that because that should be a mutual decision, not one of you giving in to the other!

[Aracelii23]

And yes I'm 18 and haven't moved out yet but my family still believes that a daughter shouldn't move out until she gets married. I get along with my family great for the most part but I don't know how they will react to my pregnancy.