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hi, im 19 and 36 weeks pregnant, my little boy is due in March, im really excited since i cant wait to see him and to hold him in my arms, but ive been gettin small braxton hicks lately and im now getting really nervous and scared of labour, i no its normal to feel this way but i was hoping that i could get any advice or helpful hints to make labour more comfortable.
thanks ladies! every little bit of information helps, just gotta try remember it at the time lol and yea im not doing any classes before the birth, im counting down the days till i get to see him! will let you's all no when he arrives :)
Well, all these ladies said it all really. I have 5 and get a little nervous each time. I never did the lamaze thing. I don't think it works either. Labor just plain hurts. But, with that being said, it is so worth it and the doctors/nurses have always been great for me also. The Epidural is awesome but that is a personal choice. It makes things much easier and you are able to enjoy the experience much better. I love giving birth, or rather the incredible feeling of love I feel when I see that baby for the first time. There is truly nothing in the world like it. You just really think your heart will burst!!!
I wish you the best of luck. Try not to worry. You will do just fine!! Have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
I wish you the best of luck. Try not to worry. You will do just fine!! Have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
I was scared on my first delivery too. In fact I'm 3 months pregnant with my second and still a bit scared. I think you wouldn't be human if you weren't a little concerned.
I waited out the pain with contractions coming every three minutes with my first. I didn't take any lamaze classes or anything and you will be surprised how much comes naturally. Try different breathing while you're in the midst of your contractions and you'll find what works for you. One of my nurses suggested positioning the bed in a more upright (sitting up position) and that worked for a while. I ended up with the epideral and that was amazing! I was able to sit back and watch those contractions rather than feel them.
Whether you want to give birth with or without the epideral it's totally up to you. Let that be a decision that you make and don't let anyone shame you or make you second guess your decision. You will do fine and the nurses and doctors are usually extremely helpful. I told the nurse going in that morning that I was a big chicken and terrified...she helped me all day. I actually wrote a letter to the hospital saying how she had made me so conformtable with every stage of my delivery. Also, tell your doctor your feelings. He/She will be able to better prepare you and comfort you along the way. They understand that just because they do this everyday doesn't mean that you do.
Good Luck, you will do fine and believe me the outcome is well worth it!
I waited out the pain with contractions coming every three minutes with my first. I didn't take any lamaze classes or anything and you will be surprised how much comes naturally. Try different breathing while you're in the midst of your contractions and you'll find what works for you. One of my nurses suggested positioning the bed in a more upright (sitting up position) and that worked for a while. I ended up with the epideral and that was amazing! I was able to sit back and watch those contractions rather than feel them.
Whether you want to give birth with or without the epideral it's totally up to you. Let that be a decision that you make and don't let anyone shame you or make you second guess your decision. You will do fine and the nurses and doctors are usually extremely helpful. I told the nurse going in that morning that I was a big chicken and terrified...she helped me all day. I actually wrote a letter to the hospital saying how she had made me so conformtable with every stage of my delivery. Also, tell your doctor your feelings. He/She will be able to better prepare you and comfort you along the way. They understand that just because they do this everyday doesn't mean that you do.
Good Luck, you will do fine and believe me the outcome is well worth it!
I had my first baby when I was 20. I actually really loved labor and delivery! It was painful, but I still loved it. I got an epidural after a while. That really helped me to be able to rest and relax a bit before having to push.
Just remember that women have been doing this since the beginning of time! You can do it too!!!
I didn't do that breathing within stuff, but there is a way to breath and Lamaze breathing is not it! That doesn't work. When you feel a contraction coming, take a deep cleansing breath and then slowly breathe through it while focusing on something (I stared at a dim light on the ceiling). After the contraction is done, take another deep cleansing breath.
Basically, deep breath, slow breaths, and another deep one! Deep, slow, deep. And do not forget to breathe during contractions. Holding your breathe will deprive the little one of oxygen and cause you to tire a lot sooner! If you scream or grunt or groan, that will also cause you to hold your breath so try not to do that if you can help it (some women can't and that is okay!).
Your best bet is to have someone else remember this for you (the father of the baby, a mother, friend---whoever will be there!) because you will forget in the moment.
Just remember that women have been doing this since the beginning of time! You can do it too!!!
I didn't do that breathing within stuff, but there is a way to breath and Lamaze breathing is not it! That doesn't work. When you feel a contraction coming, take a deep cleansing breath and then slowly breathe through it while focusing on something (I stared at a dim light on the ceiling). After the contraction is done, take another deep cleansing breath.
Basically, deep breath, slow breaths, and another deep one! Deep, slow, deep. And do not forget to breathe during contractions. Holding your breathe will deprive the little one of oxygen and cause you to tire a lot sooner! If you scream or grunt or groan, that will also cause you to hold your breath so try not to do that if you can help it (some women can't and that is okay!).
Your best bet is to have someone else remember this for you (the father of the baby, a mother, friend---whoever will be there!) because you will forget in the moment.
haha i'm 22 and 6 weeks and absolutely terrified!!! i was laying in bed last night thinking about labor. it's definately scary but (i should take my own advice about this) just think about how after everything you're going to get hold that tiny creation in your arms and know YOU made that! and enjoy motherhood. (i know i can't wait!)
you may want to instruct everyone who will be there not to talk at all. The relaxation that wild.blue is talking about does definately work very well but it takes concentration...full concentration. That means noone chatting at you. (men dont always understand that until you are screaming "shut up" at them which definately breaks the concentration and relaxation)
well congratulations and good luck! Yes everyone is scared of labor whether it is their first or fourth. The biggest piece of advice I have for you is to make sure you have someone that can rub your back HARD during a contraction. If you dont have that person, hire a doula! The place that you labor should have an atomsphere of a candle lit dinner. A nice relaxed low light atmosphere that will help keep you calm. I can tell you that I was late to the hospital (try not to be late) and could not receive pain meds and I was absolutely terrified, however it turned out very nice. It was not nearly as bad as I had imagined and the feeling that you have when it is over is one you have never felt before. It is the best feeling in the world! oh, I guess one thing that may make it better is to not have too many expectations. Try not to think of your perfect birth because chances are whatever you are imagineing is not going to happen. it could leave you worried and frustrated while it is happening and the truth is whatever happens will be your perfect experience in the end. Over the next 4 (or so) weeks, try to concentrate on the feeling of achievement and love that you will have. To be honest, no matter how "bad" it is for those few hours, you will always love your experience, pain free, for the rest of your life. Good Luck and try to enjoy your next 4 weeks!
I'm 20 and almost 17 weeks.. and get really scared too. It sometimes makes me feel better to think millions of women have babies everyday.. there will be doctors there in case anything goes wrong.. and try to think of each contraction as one step closer to holding your baby :)
I guess relaxation really does take an edge off the pain also, I have been studying alot of relaxation techniques from the book "Birthing From Within"
hope that helped!
I guess relaxation really does take an edge off the pain also, I have been studying alot of relaxation techniques from the book "Birthing From Within"
hope that helped!
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