Need support

[Alexiafaye]

I'm about to give my mom a letter that will tell her I'm pregnant. I 19 and live on my own but I'm so nervous. Please give me some encouraging words. :(

[Mamazfenison]

Telling my mom was the hardest!  She told me to get an abortion but its against my moral beliefs. Then she told me my baby is going to be another dirty kid on welfare! It hurt me really bad, now she is coming around so im sure your mom will to. But if not keep your head up and be a great mom to your child.

[amandacovaleski]

Girl I'm 25 years old.  My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years.  We both live on our own and make our own money and have a good life for ourselves and I STILL disappointed my parents when I told them.  I was terrified because my mom is so strong on marriage before babies.  But I PROMISE you her feelings will pass.  It's a mom's initial reaction to be scared/nervous/worried.  It's just her motherly instinct.  Once she has time to relax and really think about it I"m sure she will be fine.  After all you're giving her a grandbaby and what woman can deny that!  Seriously try and take a deep breathe and relax.  I am due this month with my son and now my mom can't stop buying things for him she's so excited.  It just takes time.  The hardest part, which was telling her, is over.  That has to at least be a little weight off your shoulders! I wish you the best.

[kmommy2b]

I got some negative comments at first but the closer it gets to the time for the baby to come the more excited everyone gets. it will pass.. just be happy for yourself dont let them ruin your happy moments. good luck! :)

[mrsMartinez91]

bringing a baby into this world is one of the less selfish things a women can do. would she have rather behave an abortion. now that's selfish. but anyways she'll come threw just let time pass.

[Ashdub07]

I had my first at 17. My mom and dad reacted the same way but quickly they came around. It's natural for parents to want the absolute best for our kids and sometimes the best comes in a little bouncing bundle of joy. But being a mom now, I can totally relate to why my parents were so upset but it will pass! Hang in there, lady! :)

[DelainaN]

Use her reaction as motivation and prove her wrong

[luckymomtobe17]

Hey I kinda know your struggle! I will be 25 in June when I told my parents I was pregnant mom didn't say much but refuses to acknowledge the pregnancy and my day is not speaking to me at all its not easy but we can't let this get to us!! We have babies that need us to be strong so trust you are not alone we have each other to vent to and babies to take care of it will work out!!!!

[Alexiafaye]

I'm so alone right now and my boyfriend is stuck at work.. Everything hurts.

[Italiangirl1080]

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first son. I was scared to death to tell my parents but I did and oh were they mad! It took them a few days to come around but they did. I am sure your mom is in shock and worried for the both of you but in the end I am sure she will be supportive and crazy about your baby! Just give her some time to process everything. Also congrats to you :)

[KTowne]

I agree.. she'll get over it, you're her daughter and that's her grandchild, and if she doesn't, you're better off.. you need to remember you're going to be a mom now, and NOTHING else in this world matters but your child.. not even your mother unfortunately.. it will all work out!

[Alexiafaye]

Thank you... I'm hoping she isn't out telling my stepdad (they aren't married anymore but he has been a father my whole life) because that's taking that away from me.

[MrsWoodson]

Trust me, don't get to worked up over it. It might seem like a big deal, but she'll come around. I texted my mom that I was expecting because I expected the worse. She actually told me that she wanted nothing to do with me or the baby and she has nothing more to ever say to me. We argued over a lot and she slowly came around. Now, she's super excited about the baby and can't wait until I have her. Sometimes, parents, or rather grandparents, need some time. Just be patient.

[Shnick10]

It'll pass. In the end she's gonna love that baby like crazy. Good luck! :)

[Alexiafaye]

She yelled at me and said I'm selfish to bring a baby into the world when I have nothing to offer. And then she took off and said not to leave until she comes back. Great..she's acting like I did this on purpose and she's making me feel like crap

[gatorgrl12]

Couldn't have worded it any better than ktown :)

[Alexiafaye]

Thank you so so much you guys have no idea how much that means to me. I'm so scared.

[KTowne]

My most encouraging words, none of this will matter in a year. she will be so unbelievably bonded to your baby, none of her disappointment, fear, anxiety, etc. will matter. My advice as well, be confident, tell her it wasn't planned (if it wasn't) and that you are still excited and that you'll be the best mother you can be, you're still going to live out your dreams and be a great mother, and hard worker. You will do great, don't worry at all, and remember that she may be upset at first, it will pass and turn into excitement.. you're young but you're an adult, and this baby is a blessing! :)

[Kate037]

You are a beautiful, smart young woman who is making the best decision for her life. You will be an amazing mother, and I really hope your mother sees that too. Good luck and try not to be too nervous, she'll see right through you anyways :)

[gatorgrl12]

You can do it baby doll!!! I have so much faith that its going to be alright. Your strong and she knows that :) praying for you sweet heart!