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OT...Update on pregnant neice....
Okay, so my older neice has decided to go stay with my father, who lives only about 5 minutes from me which is nice. I know he will keep a close eye on her as he did a good job raising me. We decided to do it that way because of the stress I have been under with my pregnancy and health issues. My neice who is pregnant however, has yet to decide to put the baby up for adoption and still has her mind set on keeping the baby.
For those who haven't read my other post on this situation, My 14 yr old neice is pregnant by some guy, she has about 4 men over 20 2 who are married to test for paternity on the baby. Im trying to convince her mother(my sister) to allow me to adopt the baby girl, but she isn't so keen on it, as the baby means more money from the government(state aide) I have no bad feelings towards anyone who needs state help, but she is the type to not help herself and rely on others to make her life work out. She lives in a travel trailer(RV) with no running water or electricity with my niece, and is hell bent on keeping the baby for said reasons.
Anywho- CPS has updated me on the situation, and they have set a court date in TX to try and get a mandatory adoption process going so that I or someone else can adopt the baby. CPS has ordered my older niece to live with relatives, which was me or my father and we chose my father as my situation isn't so grand. As far as CPS ordering my pregnant niece to do anything, they have ordered her to get prenatal care, and is tryng to make it mandatory for her to deliver in a hospital instead of her nasty RV or a freaking hay field. They are also working to get my 14 yr old niece into a teenage home of some sort, and taking all parental rights from my sister. I am considering on NOT adopting the baby, mainly because I have 2 children at home and pregnant with my 3rd, and things need to be taken care of in my household before anything this drastic takes place, my babies need to be cared for before anyone else's children. I have also been having major issues with my pregnancy, I have a failed right Kidney which ***** all in itself, so my health needs to be up to par before bringing in not only 1 but 2 newborns, as my niece is due a month after me.
I have been blessed with 3 beautiful babies in my lifetime, and I feel that my nieces child could be a wonderful addition to a family who cannot have children on their own, and that if I adopted the baby, it would be very selfish of me to due so, when I can give another couple a chance to have a child in their lives.
So the situation is still here, and the fighting is still going on, but I am holding my head up high, in hopes that the judge will grant CPS custody of my younger neice and her unborn baby, so that she can obtain proper medical treatment ( which she is denying to do as of now ) and to make sure my niece and that unborn baby have a better quality of life down the road.
I will keep everyone updated.
For those who haven't read my other post on this situation, My 14 yr old neice is pregnant by some guy, she has about 4 men over 20 2 who are married to test for paternity on the baby. Im trying to convince her mother(my sister) to allow me to adopt the baby girl, but she isn't so keen on it, as the baby means more money from the government(state aide) I have no bad feelings towards anyone who needs state help, but she is the type to not help herself and rely on others to make her life work out. She lives in a travel trailer(RV) with no running water or electricity with my niece, and is hell bent on keeping the baby for said reasons.
Anywho- CPS has updated me on the situation, and they have set a court date in TX to try and get a mandatory adoption process going so that I or someone else can adopt the baby. CPS has ordered my older niece to live with relatives, which was me or my father and we chose my father as my situation isn't so grand. As far as CPS ordering my pregnant niece to do anything, they have ordered her to get prenatal care, and is tryng to make it mandatory for her to deliver in a hospital instead of her nasty RV or a freaking hay field. They are also working to get my 14 yr old niece into a teenage home of some sort, and taking all parental rights from my sister. I am considering on NOT adopting the baby, mainly because I have 2 children at home and pregnant with my 3rd, and things need to be taken care of in my household before anything this drastic takes place, my babies need to be cared for before anyone else's children. I have also been having major issues with my pregnancy, I have a failed right Kidney which ***** all in itself, so my health needs to be up to par before bringing in not only 1 but 2 newborns, as my niece is due a month after me.
I have been blessed with 3 beautiful babies in my lifetime, and I feel that my nieces child could be a wonderful addition to a family who cannot have children on their own, and that if I adopted the baby, it would be very selfish of me to due so, when I can give another couple a chance to have a child in their lives.
So the situation is still here, and the fighting is still going on, but I am holding my head up high, in hopes that the judge will grant CPS custody of my younger neice and her unborn baby, so that she can obtain proper medical treatment ( which she is denying to do as of now ) and to make sure my niece and that unborn baby have a better quality of life down the road.
I will keep everyone updated.
I think that you are making the right decision as to not adopting the baby, eventhough I'm sure that you'd rather see him still in your family, it would probably cause more problems with your family by you having him than your niece.
The problem is that that baby will unfortunately end up in the system, and they will never guarantee that he will be adopted rather than bounced from foster home to foster home and if he stays with your niece, and her intentions is to get money for the child, then the likelyhood is that that child will end up in the system eventually.
Its a good thing that you got CPS involved, at least they will continue to follow the case from now on, even if she keeps it, CPS will still have her on file and do checks up every once in a while.
I think this is a tough one, but regardless what you do or where the baby ends up, if money is her intention, then she'll probably keep having babies.
I used to work with single mom's and teenage moms helping with subsidy and family services, its a tough and sad job, and I just don't think that government should reward people for their poor choices there has to be some accountability for the subsidy.
The problem is that that baby will unfortunately end up in the system, and they will never guarantee that he will be adopted rather than bounced from foster home to foster home and if he stays with your niece, and her intentions is to get money for the child, then the likelyhood is that that child will end up in the system eventually.
Its a good thing that you got CPS involved, at least they will continue to follow the case from now on, even if she keeps it, CPS will still have her on file and do checks up every once in a while.
I think this is a tough one, but regardless what you do or where the baby ends up, if money is her intention, then she'll probably keep having babies.
I used to work with single mom's and teenage moms helping with subsidy and family services, its a tough and sad job, and I just don't think that government should reward people for their poor choices there has to be some accountability for the subsidy.
I wondered also. You did the right thing by involving CPS. I hope they will make them do the right thing by the baby. I will be praying for you and your family.
I too was wondering what had happened in this situation, it is so sad. I understand why you would be wary of adopting, you have enough on you plate, as long as the baby is put up for adoption and not just in foster care, there are so many people out there who would love to have a baby. Thanks for the update!
i did read that post and was curious to know whats happening thanx for the update you eased my curiosity lol bad situation i know its no laughing matter i was lol because i was curious or more like i have no idea how to put it actually but i hope all works out for you and your neice thats not a place where a baby should be brought up (rv) and as you sad it would be a wonderful addition to your family it would give a family great joy in raising a baby as where there not able to concieve and bringing up two new borns is a struggle as i wouldnt know i have a twin sis soo i know from my mom :) so i wish you the best of luck and i pray everything works out for the best
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