Omg it's a 3-ring circus at my house!!

[Riot_Queen]

This boy won't cut me any slack!
Infact both my kids won't cut me any slack!!

Aiden is constantly crying and crying and crying, and fussing and crying summore!

I can't get him to sleep in his crib for more than a few hours every night, and then once he wakes up and I change n feed him, he won't go back to his crib cuz he screams.
And ofcoarse then he wakes up his sister and then she's crying cuz she wants to get up n play. omfg.

He wants me to hold him ALLLLLL the time.
And I have to hold him upright against my chest/sholder.
The only time I can hold him laying in my arm is if I'm feeding him. Otherwise, he screams.

And unlike Ivy when she was his age, after a few minutes of screaming her lungs out, she'd get tired and fall asleep-
NOT AIDEN.
He'll scream and scream and scream and the second I pick him up-
shuts right up.
Ugh.

I dunno what to do about it!
He's going to the docs again tomorrow to see about some reflux medicine to see if it'll help his crankyness cuz he could have reflux issues cuz this boy barfs EVERYWHERE all the friggin time and it's sicknasty.
But he also toots n burps more than any baby I've ever seen. He could also be gassy.
...Then there's colick.
Oh boy.

That could be any one or any combination of ANYTHING that can irritated a baby and make them cry.

Or he could just be a spoilt lil brat like his sister and just wanna be held allllll the time.
Ugh.

So meanwhile while Aiden is screaming his head off and I gatta hold him 24/7 even in my sleep, Ivy's over there getting into EVERYTHING, not listening and being a stubborn lil terd!
Walking around the house sucking her thumb whining all hours that she's awake.

So while holding Aiden, and trying to keep Ivy outta everything, and clean, cook my kids food, pick up after them and pick up after my slob of a husband- I'm about ready to strangle the next person that walks into the same room as me!!

I'm about to TELL HIM somethin- just cuz his slob a$$ is workin, don't mean he can throw his dirty cloths all over the place and leave cups and dishes everywhere.
If he ever gets lost, I'll just have to follow the trail of dirty tube socks and empty coke cans to find him!
It ain't fair!
Thank GOD he's off tuesday and wednesday cuz guess what, MY A$$ IS SLEEPING IN!
That boy dunno what "Being tired" is he always pulls that one on me, "I'm tired! I worked all day!"
Sh*t... 12 hours on your feet slamming prison inmates around and being PAID FOR IT ain't NOTHIN!!!
PLUS he gets a full, UNDISTURBED full night's sleep!
I am up from 6am till about midnight EVERYDAY. And I never get to sleep for more than maybe 30-45 minutes at a time cuz Aiden loves to make mommy miserable it seems to be.
AND! I don't get PAID for it!
I cook, I clean, I keep this house tidy best as I can and all I get is a, "I'm tired!"
UGH!!!

Sorry I ranted. This was really only supposed to be about Aiden screaming all the time and Ivy being a lil terd. lol

[k10road]

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I have been there.  Both of my boys had TERRIBLE reflux.  My oldest was 3rd percentile on the growth charts because he puked so much, and my little one was not even on the growth charts!  He was 0%!!  They made me bring him to the dr. like 3 times a week to get weighed.  It was bad.  He was miserable.

If you are feeling really overwhelmed (and I'm not trying to say you are), certainly talk to your doctor.  Make sure you don't have any post-partum going on.  It's miserable to feel like that when it is something that can be fixed.  Our hormones do some crazy stuff!

And dang DH!  He should definitely be helping.  I don't think they realize what work it is to have a new baby and also a toddler!  It's hard work.  My boys are 23 months apart.  It was a lot.  And I'm preggo again, so I'll have a newborn, 3 year old and 5 year old!  I will say one thing that may explain (but not justify) his lack of desire to tend to the kids after work.  I am a correctional officer.  I actually just stopped working a few months ago to be a SAHM, but, I will tell you that after a day at the jail, the last thing I wanted to do was come home and play mom/babysitter some more!  Inmates are as bad, if not worse, as kids!  But, the fact of the matter is that even after being a glorified babysitter to a bunch of criminals, I still had to come home and handle my responsibilities, and DH should too.  Maybe take that approach though...tell him that you realize that he has to babysit a bunch of "kids" all day and that he probably doesn't want to have to deal with any more whining when he gets home, but that you just need a break and some help.

I really wish you the best of luck, and I'm sorry this is so long.  If' you need an ear, I'm here for ya!

[tiredbuthappy]

honestly, if he's a newborn letting him just cry at this point will probably make things worse, not better. He's crying because he is uncomfortable. He can't manipulate you yet. The fact that he will not let you hold him cradle style tells me his poor little throat is probably burning from the reflux. Just because nothing visible is wrong doesn't mean nothing is wrong.
reflux meds will help if it is reflux. Get a carrier that distributes the weight onto your hips and back. A sling probably isn't the best thing if it's reflux since he should be directly upright on your chest. Cheaper front carriers put all of the weight on your back (i learned the hard way). My LC recommended a Mei Tai carrier for a fussy reflux baby. You can also get a front carrier with hip straps. I think the moby has that too, although i could never figure that one out so I returned it.
you can also try other things to soothe him. My screamer liked the swaddleme (still does at 3 1/2 months). Loud white noise also soothes and settles her. Also, I noticed that in beginning, the only place she would sleep well was in the highchair or upright on our chests. Turns out that was because of the reflux- it just felt better being upright.

i know you're tired and overwhelmed. Trust me- I was there just a couple of months ago. But please don't let the poor baby scream often. He needs you. He doesn't understand why he's in pain. And as for your husband- stop cooking and cleaning. Take care of the bare minimum for now. a few weeks of mess and take-out can help take some of the strain off of you. And cut Ivy a little slack too- her whole world has been turned upside-down. If she's getting in to everything, then create a safe play area/playroom for her. I had to rely on the TV a lot those first few weeks with the new baby, but it helped get us all through it alive. We would go to the library and she'd pick favorite movies and watch them over and over.

oh yea- if Aiden does have reflux, that is probably why he won't sleep in the crib. Until it is controlled, you can try elevating him, or even letting him sleep in a bouncy seat for a while.

[Riot_Queen]

I tired a sling and a chest carrier with my daughter but between the two back to back pregnancies, carrying my own weight around is hard enough. My hips and back are a mess and routine daily activities can become quite painful. I can't tote my son around all the time.
I've learned to just let him cry.
If I pick him up, inspect him, change him, feed him and nothing is wrong, I just set him down and let him cry till he either shuts up or I'm done with what I'm doing.
The both of them are gunna have to learn how to share my time with them.
I know Aiden is still waaaay too young to understand, but I made the mistake with my daughter by holding her the second she opened her mouth, and now all she does is follow me around whining cuz she wants me to pick her up.

The doc gave aiden some reflux medicine, I forget what it's called but he's getting his first dose soon.
Hopefully my night will go smoother tonight.

[chantal21]

Yes a wrap or sling is an awesome idea. I have a baby bjorn ( I used it with my first son) and it works like a charm. When I need to get things done I just put Jesse in there and he falls right to sleep but my hands are free. Jesse (3months) wants attention all the time and wants to be held a lot (He just likes to be close to someone at all times which is normal!), but my 20 month old is at a stage where he needs a lot of attention now as well and is learning new things everyday. It's tough, let me tell ya! sometimes they both scream and cry together, or when one is asleep, the other acts up, but I always manage to get through the day and end up smiling and loving my children more and more. =) Once your son gets a little older, it will get easier. Someone told me that a couple of months ago, and I didn't believe them, but now that Jesse is 3 months, I find it much easier and can even get my boys to nap at the same time now. Hang in there! I wish I could sleep through the night, but I know in a couple of more months, it will happen. Being a mother is draining, but oh so rewarding! =)

[anxi]

The wrap idea is good.  The moby wrap is expensive but babies r us is having a sale on the ultimate baby wrap about 18 bucks.  I hope you get some sleep soon

[Megs2girls7]

Girl I feel ya on this one. Even though my kids are a little bit older I get the same thing from my husband. It seems no matter what I do it's not good enough and everything is my job. The cooking, cleaning, dishes, taking care of the kids, laundry, take care of the dogs, the list goes on. It's like I have to fight with him to take out the trash and even then it takes is 3 days to bring the trash can back to the garage. Then if I say something to him about it all he has to say is "I had to work all day." When he's got a nice cushy desk job that he sits on is a$$ all day! Then he comes home and plays video games and watches football all night. Most days I just want to scream! Sorry I didn't mean to rant on your post. I hope your hubby gets better!