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5603486 tn?1372218164

Paranoid parent

When my daughter gets here in about 2 months I don't want her out of my site I don't want anyone changing her unless its my mom or sister NO BOYS are allowed to change her No one to watch her unless it's my mom or sister I'm not going to be too trusting with anyone with my daughter not even her dad if he was around My baby is my most prized possession and I'm going to do everything I can to keep anyone from hurting her especially as an infant.. NO DAYCARE until she can talk. To many people trust too many people with their kids... I can't!!!
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5603486 tn?1372218164
Maybe its just me
Avatar universal
You can never be to safe in this world, and at least you care about her :) I'm getting induced today and I'm agitated that people will be holding my little boy... I only want certain people to hold him but I know if I say something people will flip out on me :( it honestly makes me want to stay at home and keep my baby away from people. But I guess we're just over protective
4251679 tn?1370305531
I feel you on the no daycare thing.. I'm thankful my sister in law offered to watch Lyvia when I go back to work. I just don't trust those I don't know. I really don't know how ima feel when she starts school
4251679 tn?1370305531
I feel you on the no daycare thing.. I'm thankful my sister in law offered to watch Lyvia when I go back to work. I just don't trust those I don't know. I really don't know how ima feel when she starts school
3360193 tn?1365871889
I thinks its natural to feel protective of your baby, especially if it's your first.  BD and  I went to the pics the other week and left baby boy with his mum, it was hard and I kept texting to make sure he was okay, but it was bearable.   I wouldn't leave him with a stranger.   God knows how I'll be when I go back to work x
Avatar universal
Girl I feel ya! I don't want any men around my baby. No babysitters no daycare. I don't even trust bd alone with the baby. I know he wouldn't hurt her, I just have a history with all that and I can't trust anyone.
Avatar universal
Girl I feel ya! I don't want any men around my baby. No babysitters no daycare. I don't even trust bd alone with the baby. I know he wouldn't hurt her, I just have a history with all that and I can't trust anyone.
5603486 tn?1372218164
I don't trust my family members with my baby and Im definitely not afraid to tell people don't touch her... My baby is priceless I can't put a dollar amount
I love my baby and if anyone hurts her I will go insane...
5603486 tn?1372218164
Plus I have heard so many horror stories about people doing something to babies that I think that it could happen to my child I don't put nothing past a person
Avatar universal
Hey I'm the same way. With my first I had to leave her with a sitter so I could finish my last 3 months of high school and tried some college but after tht my sister watched her. I wouldn't let my dad or brothers change her or anything. With my second my husband let me quit work to stay at home with her
Avatar universal
Yes, with you on that one. My daughter is 3. And still don't even like people looking at her at the store, people are weirdos. I've had 2 experiences in public with weird mother *******. I will never forget their faces. I have to tell my daughter sometimes not to act so cute, or whine, because some weird people could interpret it sexually. With girls it's crazy, I don't think that it ever changes either
4928337 tn?1362751166
My husband would never change my daughter unless he absolutely had to. He felt so uncomfortable invading her personal space. At times he had no choice. I never felt it a threat to her. But I would never allow any other person not even a family member touch or see my daughters areas. My husband runs her baths on occasion and will dry her up but refuses to wash her up
And I feel that's how it should be. No man should whole heartedly be interested in those aspects. She is now 3 I use all these same precautions with my son boys are more likely to be assaulted then girls keep that in mind.
Little boys should also be protected!
Avatar universal
I hear ya, even with my son, im like that too. Even family, unless i know them well enough, i dont let watch my son, and def. dont let them change his diapers. Its not just little girls, there are sickos out there who will prey on childrenbof both gender. Definitely no daycare till kids can talk, and my 16 month old usually only has 4 ppl, who i allow to watch him...my mom, my aunt, hubbys gma and my fil, who apart from my dad is the only male ill allow to watch him...and if this baby is a girl, he prob wont get that priviledge...not that hed do anything innapropriate, EVER, but men besides my hubby dont need to change my daughters diaper, ya ll know what i mean? Id rather be a Crazy Mama Bear, then allow harm to come to my child.
5603486 tn?1372218164
Yeah true I would do my boy the same way if I was having a boy... things I watch on TV don't help much it just makes my way of thinking worse I just will make sure that I let my daughter know don't trust people don't be willing to just go to anyone... I don't even want her taking a piece of candy from a stranger she will no to say no to things
5603486 tn?1372218164
I also believe that people in my family are perverts so I'm very protective not they have done anything to me I just dont trust them
4020799 tn?1355825570
My daughters 21 weeks old and i havent let her out of my sight yet. Ive got a friend who has left her baby with her mum over night and her bf mum over night every weekend since he was born! I dont know how she does it!!
5603486 tn?1372218164
I don't know how she does it either... I will be soo attached to my baby that your going to have to pry her out of my hands
Avatar universal
I'm going to be the same way that's just a Mom thing I think
5617652 tn?1374696728
I'm going to trust my boyfriend with our baby.. Even if its a girl. But no other males are to change my babies diapers either. And no daycare! I've heard bad things about daycares... I don't even want my boyfriends family to change or bathe my baby.. I think the only people I'd trust watching and changing my baby are my 2sisters, mom and boyfriend. Just because i don't know his family well enough because we live in a different town than them! Amd my sisters both have kids! Pretty sure its just a mom thing! I already know I'm going to be a protective, cautious, and paranoid mom just because of how things are these days!!
5617652 tn?1374696728
I'm glad I'm not the only one! Talking to my boyfriend about this the other day i felt crazy.. Lol i didn't tell him about not being okay with his family.. Don't want to offend him.. But i think its my right as a soon to be mom..
Avatar universal
well certain people like doctors would have to see your baby, but besides that i dont want people i dont know watching my baby even certain people i do know some of the people in my family dont know how to raise there children and then they dont watch them if you get the drift ( one of the 6 year olds refuses to listen and last time they were over at my house for my baby shower i made his mom and him leave he came up to me and said he didnt want me to have this baby cause no one wants it hes even hit me in the stomach while i was sleeping i dont trust him hes really devious to me
Avatar universal
fiance is definatly allowed to change some dirty diapers if i can make him lol and maybe his mom and dad while shes over there( but that wouldnt be until she was about 4/5 months) other then that i trust all my direct family like my brother, dad, mom and grandparents on both sides
5617652 tn?1374696728
I trust my brother, he has a son, but hes not the diaper changing type loll
5603486 tn?1372218164
That little kid is bad smh... but yeah I mean I just don't feel comfortable with anyonr except my mom and sister with my daughter Im very cautious and think anyone can do anything to hurt her my mom raised me and Im fine she is very lenient now she barely disciplines my little brother and he is 15 my sister she's too goofy to hurt a kid you laugh when she tries to discipline a baby they treat my nephew like gold so not worried about my mom and sister so much
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