Pregnancy or Abortion?

[brownhair30]

I am 8 weeks pregnant, and I really do not want to have  this baby. But I am not 100% sure if I want to have an abortion. I do not want to put up for an adoption.  I already have 2 small children by 2 different dads. I just feel so bad that I made this mistake once again. I will be a single mother for the 3rd time.  Any advice. Should I have this baby or not?

[mommyTobe_12]

as long as you take care of your children, you shouldn't be judged for how many fathers your kids have. as long as your kids are taken care of.
I agree with you, I couldn't give my baby up for adoption after carrying and going thru delivery and all that for 9 months.
I personally couldn't go thru with abortion either. But noone knows anyone else's situation and what they go thru, do noone has a place to judge you. like some said its YOUR decision. you needa do what's best for you, and no one else. and you shouldn't hafta feel judged on the decisions you make.
You said tho your not 100% on the abortion, the only thing ill say, is make sure you are before you go thru with it! cos you never wanna have that doubt yakno ? either way Hun good luck in whatever you choose to do. there's always many supportive women on here, remember do what's best for you. x

[FreshLove]

If you cannot emotionally handle adoption than you cannot handle abortion. Giving a child away is difficult and heartbreaking, even if it's for the best. What a lot of people don't realize is that when you get an abortion you are still giving up your child -- that same baby that was killed would be the same exact baby that could've had a life with another family (or you). It's no different whether you've "known" the child 8 weeks or 9 months, it's the same little baby that is experiencing the consequences of your choice (good or bad). Abortion may seem "easier" because the woman hasn't had the chance to fall in love with her baby yet, but it seems cowardly. It's like saying it's ok to assassinate or kill someone you didn't know because you thought it was for the better, yet you wouldn't kill your friend or sister "for the better." The idea is the same- women are able to do abortions because they don't know their baby yet...but they are still killing.

That said, it is YOUR CHOICE. I just wanted to give you something to think about to hopefully help you decide. Either way, you need to feel confident in the decision you made. In life, you should never make a big decision (about abortion, marriage, etc.) if there's even a hint of doubt- because that doubt can turn into regret. Best of luck to you.

[mrssandefur]

OK she didn't come.on here for an argument or to.be judged she came to hear OPINIONS not judgmental comments, support and understanding is what she needs.
I wont judge you for the decision you make, I pray that you make the best decision for YOU no one.else.

[T_soon_2B_mom_of_5]

That is a choice only you can make, and you are the one that lives everyday with the decision you do make, but before you make up your mind and think abortion is the easy way out, Google it and see what kinds of things are out there, even an 8-10 week old embryo looks like a baby after its been aborted, it might make you feel differently and better before then after when its too late, life is too short to live with regrets.

[amerikalee]

i got raped when i was 17 and had an abortion after that my life spiraled out of control n found out i had cancer and was told that i couldnt have kids i was emotionally destroyed prayer changes things. My opinion dnt consider an abortion.

[brownhair30]

Thank You. I always tell people who judge what you just said. I am glad that most women in this forum are understanding and not judgemental. Thank You all who were understanding for your feedback, and thank you so much Jenniekae81. I have been feeling low on myself, because I do have 3 different fathers for my children. I am not wild. I am a hard working woman who made stupid choices. I am glad to know that I am not alone. And I admire your courage to have your baby!