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Pregnant and not eating right due to living situation! Plz help
So I don't eat right at all. I know it's not a good thing but I live with my husbands Hispanic family and I am American and only like American food. Plus I am very uncomfortable helping myself to the kitchen. Anyway, I don't eat the recommended food guidelines. I'm told to eat fruits and veggies every day- and I don't (probably once a week to be honest) I'm told to eat a lot of meat and chicken and I don't - again with the once a week. I eat a lot of cereal and peanut butter with crackers; so my calcium and protein seem good. But the other things I lack horribly. I don't have a job or money to buy my own groceries so it goes by whatever the family buys... Which since 7 of us living here the food runs out pretty fast. My husband has a job but he doesn't buy groceries and if he did I'm sure they would be gone by the next day because his little siblings don't know how to not eat other peoples foods. I'm just so aggravated at what I should do? I have wic but even those items get eaten up or drank so I'm feeling like I don't know if my baby will be okay. She's healthy and all lab and ultra sounds came back good but I'm so worried! Please any advice at all!?
Wow he sounds very immature, but I cant say much cause my babies father acts he same way when hes drunk, although he never tells me to leave, and he doesn't allow his family to treat me bad or talk about me. he just calls me names sometimes, so i totally understand how you feel. It hurts! 20 years old is very young, but Ive seen younger men having babies that actually step up. Although my boyfriend does help with the baby, he watches him at night when i work, and he feeds him and buys him stuff, and he has a full time job. he is 22 years old and just received his second DUI, so I'm not really proud of him at the moment, and really worried about whats gonna happen.
I cant tell you to leave him, and that you can do better and blah blah blah, because that would make me a hypocrite. Ive been there, I'm still there, I hear it all the time from people, but Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 years, pretty much my whole life since I was 12 years old. and now we have a 3 and half old son together, so its really hard to leave, and I know he loves me, hes just like his father, stubborn and doesn't show any sort of feelings. But like I said Ive known him for 9 years so he doesn't have to tell me how he feels, I have known him long enough that I can read him, although it would be nice to hear once and awhile.
But all I can say is you gotta take care of that baby! Make sure your taking your prenatal. and eating a good source of meat, and veggies and fruits, it doesn't have to be everyday. just make sure your eating it. Its sad that your mom lives so far away and stuff.. How old are you? How far along are you? is there anyway you could get a part time job or something?
I cant tell you to leave him, and that you can do better and blah blah blah, because that would make me a hypocrite. Ive been there, I'm still there, I hear it all the time from people, but Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 years, pretty much my whole life since I was 12 years old. and now we have a 3 and half old son together, so its really hard to leave, and I know he loves me, hes just like his father, stubborn and doesn't show any sort of feelings. But like I said Ive known him for 9 years so he doesn't have to tell me how he feels, I have known him long enough that I can read him, although it would be nice to hear once and awhile.
But all I can say is you gotta take care of that baby! Make sure your taking your prenatal. and eating a good source of meat, and veggies and fruits, it doesn't have to be everyday. just make sure your eating it. Its sad that your mom lives so far away and stuff.. How old are you? How far along are you? is there anyway you could get a part time job or something?
He's 20 but my mom lives 12hours away and does not have a steady home & my doctor is here :(
It sounds like this guy is no good for you. If he can't grow up and get a full time job to support the baby then I don't think you should be with him. If y'all aren't together they can still be in the babys life. I think you should talk to your family and see about staying with them for the time being until you can get on your feet. How old is your husband if you don't mind me asking?
We live here cause he still wants to be a
Kid pretty much. He doesn't have a drivers license but yet he keeps getting his permit but refuses to take the actual drivers test. So neither of us have a car; I don't have my license cause I just moved to this huge city and the traffic is something that I've never been around before so it scares me. He only has a part time job and won't go full time or look for another job. He makes about 800 a month in a city that takes at least 1000 a month for rent. He honestly treats me worse than his family does. He calls me names and tells me stuff that really hurts when we argue. Last time he told me to pack my **** and leave cause no one wants me here anymore. :/ I feel so horrible and I stay because of the baby. I know he wants to be apart of the babys life and his mom and dad do too; it's their first grand baby! It's just so hard when I'm so unhappy.... I honestly don't know what to do or even what I can do.
Kid pretty much. He doesn't have a drivers license but yet he keeps getting his permit but refuses to take the actual drivers test. So neither of us have a car; I don't have my license cause I just moved to this huge city and the traffic is something that I've never been around before so it scares me. He only has a part time job and won't go full time or look for another job. He makes about 800 a month in a city that takes at least 1000 a month for rent. He honestly treats me worse than his family does. He calls me names and tells me stuff that really hurts when we argue. Last time he told me to pack my **** and leave cause no one wants me here anymore. :/ I feel so horrible and I stay because of the baby. I know he wants to be apart of the babys life and his mom and dad do too; it's their first grand baby! It's just so hard when I'm so unhappy.... I honestly don't know what to do or even what I can do.
if your hubby cared at all he would stick up for you. your right its not your house and you would feel very uncomfortable asking them not to eat the stuff you buy, which is where your hubby should step in and say something to them. Your not even being comfortable with your husband right now. Is there a reason why you guys are living there?
Make sure your taking your prenatals. I couldnt take them, for personal reasons, so i HAD to eat fruits and veggies and everything EVERYDAY i had to watch my diet closely. but I did eat alot of cereal, seemed to be the one thing that I wanted. lol
for the bennifit of your baby and your health, you need to talk to your husband. When it came to my baby, I spoke up to alot of people whenever I wanted, it cause alot of fights between me and the father, cause I didnt approve of alot of him or his family, but I always spoke up and still do, cause thats my baby, and its my responsibility to take care of him and give him only the best.
Just talk to him!!!
Make sure your taking your prenatals. I couldnt take them, for personal reasons, so i HAD to eat fruits and veggies and everything EVERYDAY i had to watch my diet closely. but I did eat alot of cereal, seemed to be the one thing that I wanted. lol
for the bennifit of your baby and your health, you need to talk to your husband. When it came to my baby, I spoke up to alot of people whenever I wanted, it cause alot of fights between me and the father, cause I didnt approve of alot of him or his family, but I always spoke up and still do, cause thats my baby, and its my responsibility to take care of him and give him only the best.
Just talk to him!!!
well,your hubby nids to stand up for you. You are carrying his baby and he needs to make sure you are eating properly. Why don't you guys move out?Living with the inlaws is never a good idea even if there are good people.
If i were you i would pretend to be sick due to lack of food.lol! but seriously,talk to your hubby and express your concerns with him.Its time he grew up and realised he has a family of his own now and he needs to start providing for it. Sorry if i'm too harsh but if a man doesn't stand up for his wife,your inlaws will treat you like garbage coz they know your hubby wont do anything about it.
If i were you i would pretend to be sick due to lack of food.lol! but seriously,talk to your hubby and express your concerns with him.Its time he grew up and realised he has a family of his own now and he needs to start providing for it. Sorry if i'm too harsh but if a man doesn't stand up for his wife,your inlaws will treat you like garbage coz they know your hubby wont do anything about it.
Get your Hubby to say it to them....
Why do they treat you like a 6 yr old. You aint their child. You're having a bubby. Jeeze! Tell your Husband if they don't treat you better, and stop eating your stuff (when you get some lol) then you'll find somewhere else to live :)
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Why do they treat you like a 6 yr old. You aint their child. You're having a bubby. Jeeze! Tell your Husband if they don't treat you better, and stop eating your stuff (when you get some lol) then you'll find somewhere else to live :)
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Well thing is I'm not comfortable telling his family not to eat stuff. I feel like I live in their house so I have no say :/ which is pretty much how it is since I can't even hang out with friends or do anything cause they treat me like a 6 year old. I hate it ... I have no freedom and my husband doesn't stand up to his parents so idk what to do really. I'm so aggravated at life and I just want out but I stay for the sake of my baby
I dont eat fruits and veg everydayy... I eat it once or twice a week...
Like you said to me little and often... Can you not ask for certain things, say you 'crave' them and lock them away in your room. That what me and the OH did when we lived in a shared house with Polish peoples. I kept nicking their milk though SHHHH.
And or you could ask your husband if you two could do a quick shop and for you and him, again keep it in your room... So buy snackyy things. And if stuff needs to go in a fridge, Tell them its for you and the baby and YOU need it. I do it to my brother and sister, and they leave it alone. Cause its for the baby... :) Although my brother doesnt wanna be an Uncle, he wants to be santa... S:
Talk to your husband and say there are a few things you want because the doc said you are starting to lose weight?
xx
Like you said to me little and often... Can you not ask for certain things, say you 'crave' them and lock them away in your room. That what me and the OH did when we lived in a shared house with Polish peoples. I kept nicking their milk though SHHHH.
And or you could ask your husband if you two could do a quick shop and for you and him, again keep it in your room... So buy snackyy things. And if stuff needs to go in a fridge, Tell them its for you and the baby and YOU need it. I do it to my brother and sister, and they leave it alone. Cause its for the baby... :) Although my brother doesnt wanna be an Uncle, he wants to be santa... S:
Talk to your husband and say there are a few things you want because the doc said you are starting to lose weight?
xx
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