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Public breast feeding
I am wondering how many people have or would breast feed in front of your father or brother? Like, without a blanket or cover over you and as you're having a conversation with them? Because my sister in law does this in front of my fiancé and I just think its kind of disgusting and awkward. Especially if you can go in another room or put something over yourself. Not that it's weird behavior for her. She frequently dresses with no bra and see through clothes and the first time I met her she was vacuuming in her bra and underwear and her other brother was sitting on the couch two feet away. And when we used to live in the apt under her house she would "accidentally" leave the blinds open in her bathroom while she was naked and we had to walk by to get into our apt door. And there are actually a ton more things like that that she has done. But I don't think it's normal and it really grosses me out. My fiancé doesn't seem to think its gross, I think he is kind of embarrassed because he knows its not normal but also because I guess she has always been that way. But it really gets to me an gives me this creepy nasty feeling. I plan on breast feeding but I would never ever do it around my dad or my brother. Even if I had a cover over me I still would probably do it in another room. I realize its a natural thing and you're feeding your baby but your also doing it with your private area and its personal. Anyone else think what she does is weird?
I don't think it's disgusting. What would you do if you were at a park and had walked so couldn't go sit in the car? You would have no choice but to feed your child. If she is in her own home she shouldn't have to go into another room. Slightly different if you're all sitting around the dinner table eating. It's a completely natural thing.
I Breastfed With Others In The Room But I Usually Covered Up. I Was Considerate Of Others InThe Room. Yes, It's A Natural Thing To Nurse A Baby But I Didn't Want To Make Others Uncomfortable With My Boob Hanging Out.
If you're in an area where there's no way to have privacy I think that's a different story. But if you can easily go sit in a bedroom or another room I think it's different.
I'm Insulted. Its Absolutely Not Disgusting. I Hate That People Shame Mothers For That..... I Say Shame On Them.
I Am From France, We Treat Natural Things As They Are Not As Some Might Think They Are. In The United States People Are Simply Not Exposed Enough Or Educated Enough....I Find That Lots Of Moms Here Actually Choose To Formula FeEd. So From My Culture, We Feed Our Babes When Hungry. No Matter Where. It Is Not Offensive To Anyone Because They Understand.
I nursed my son wherever and whenever he was hungry for the first two years of his life. I used a blanket in the beginning, like the first couple months while I was getting the hang of it, but not after that. My little guy hated it and wouldn't stay latched if he was covered. I wore nursing tanks and tops that made it easy and discreet - I showed way less skin nursing in the food court at the mall than most of the teenage girls walking by. It's not hard to do it without showing a thing. Unless they were staring, people didn't even notice that I was feeding my baby. I wasn't going to leave, go sit in my car or a nasty bathroom stall, for my child to eat. Breasts are made for feeding children - the fact that people think it's gross and inappropriate and sexual to feed our babies where someone might see it says a lot about how oversexualized our society is. It's not sexual - it's natural and it's beautiful and it's what our bodies were made for. Shouldn't we be proud of that? Why should I hide in a dark corner to make other people more comfortable? Don't like it, don't stare. If someone thinks I'm being disrespectful for nursing in public they're being disrespectful of my child's right to eat in peace. Just my opinion.
Amy I agree with you 100%. In today's world it just causes an awkward situation for the people around you...I know it's a completely natural thing to do but really, how hard is it to slip a blanket over you. I'm sure your baby appreciates it as well...it's his feeding time...between Mom and baby...the rest of the world doesn't care to see the boob. It's totally another story if you're with your Mom or sister/girlfriends who you are completely comfortable around, but like you said, I wouldn't whip it out in front of my father...he would probably even find it disrespectful. Just cover up or find a quiet spot in another room if you can...it's best for everyone;) And to those who disagree, feel free to show the world. We're all human, we'll get over it.
I think its a beautiful thing . I'm the 4th person in my boyfriends family to get pregnant in the past 2 years and im the only one choosing to breast feed . Im told daily that its gross or I should just formula feed . "Why would you want a kid sucking your nipple" "why would you want to ruin your boobs like that" because that's what they're made for . They aren't my boyfriends toy , they're my childs food source . I see no shame in it . Its nature and its natural .
I wasn't trying to insult anyone. I was just asking if anyone agreed with this specific situation. I see nothing wrong with public breast feeding as long as your covering your breasts. In fact, I shouldn't have titled it public breast feeding because that's not even exactly what I'm talking about. But either way I don't need you to shame me.
I'm used to seeing my family members breastfeed-- no one thinks it's weird or disgusting. It's normal and they usually don't do it with a cover--but they keep a cover handy if baby unlatches.
BUT it really bothers me when strangers dont cover while they're talking to me. Because it's a strangers boob and I just don't appreciate that, lol! I do appreciate a sense of modesty from women.
If it bothers you (and you're not in HER home, granted that she's in yours) it's totally ok to ask her to cover for you and you're fiance. She might get offended, but she should respect the rules of your home.
I dont think boobs are sexual-- but I do think it's a double standard to expect teen girls to cover up their tatas and not expect it of nursing women-- no one wants to see stranger boobs!!!
BUT it really bothers me when strangers dont cover while they're talking to me. Because it's a strangers boob and I just don't appreciate that, lol! I do appreciate a sense of modesty from women.
If it bothers you (and you're not in HER home, granted that she's in yours) it's totally ok to ask her to cover for you and you're fiance. She might get offended, but she should respect the rules of your home.
I dont think boobs are sexual-- but I do think it's a double standard to expect teen girls to cover up their tatas and not expect it of nursing women-- no one wants to see stranger boobs!!!
I wasn't saying its bad to breast feed either. I don't understand why everyone is taking what I said out of context. I breast fed my son and plan on doing it this time as well. But I managed to do it without whipping my breasts out in front of make relatives or other men. That's all. I'm not saying women who breast feed are gross or if you're babies hungry to let it starve. Thank you mama_bear95 that is exactly what I'm saying :) My dad doesn't want to even know I have boobs, I'm his daughter, and I think my father would feel very uncomfortable as well if I were to just start feeding my baby as I was chit chatting with him.
^ You're absolutely right. There is no shame in it at all. I think it is so great that women actually still choose to breast feed. I find it kind of crazy to think that some wouldn't...unless of course it's something that just won't work for you. Maybe it's just whatever we're used to I suppose...growing up my mom, older sister, cousins, and aunts always covered up while breastfeeding. So that's what I'm used to and I plan to try to do the same...unless in my own home...my husband sure won't mind. Maybe it's because also I've never been one to flaunt my cleavage too haha. Not sure! It's each to her own that's forsure.
I have no problem with someone breastfeeding their kid in public. i know a lot of ppl that do, but they cover up! i plan on nursing my baby, but im not going to just let it all hang out infront of other woman an ppls husbands! it is very unconsiderate. ppl can nurse their kids but they do need to be considerate of others. I know I wouldn't want my husband to see another womans boob even if she's just feeding her kid. they make cover ups, or use a little blanket. it's not that you should be ashamed or that it's unnatural. it's called common curtesy for others.
I Plan To Nurse Wherever Whenever. No Blanket. Its Not Sexual. Its Uncomfortable To People Because TheySexualize It....That Is What Is Truly Disheartening.
You Don't Want Peoples Husbands To See A Bit Of Your Breast Because Why? Because Its A Private Area?Same How You Don't Want Him To See Your Vagina, Because Its Private?
I agree, they should be covered. I don't think any women would appreciate another woman's breasts being openly shown in front of her man. Because to women it's not sexual. But it would be ridiculous to say that men view it the same way. And kids too. My son was here when she was doing it. He's 9. And I don't think my 9 year old son sees it as a natural wonderful thing. I think he's thinking omg there's boobies! And i should be the one who decides when he needs an anatomy lesson. As a courtesy to other people its respectful to cover yourself. No, we shouldnt always give so much thought to what others think of us. But in certain situations its actually courteous and more respectful to yourself to take others comfort level into consideration. Because its not preventing you from feeding your child to cover up. In fact it's pretty easy to throw something over your shoulder, so why not? Because you want to flaunt what you're doing? Or because you want to be that person who has to push the envelope and be defiant? I mean really
Some people's husband's or men dont need to see another woman's breast...even if it is to feed your child. Men think differently than women...they were made differently and I can guarantee there are men out there that will find it a sexual situation to see a woman breastfeeding..whether he wants to or not. But we're sort of off topic from Amy's question anyway...she's asking about breastfeeding in front of your father. You even asked....^^^would you want your FATHER to see your vagina?
The fact the she is so opened about her entire body is disgusting! Theres a line between breast feeding and being disrespectful. She can breast feed withe her pants on! I would most definitely express to her the line she's crossing. If you can see her while she's in the naked while going to your apartment, I'm pretty sure others can!
Idk about anyone else but yeah I don't want other people's husbands seeing my vagina. Lol. Or him seeing anyone else's. Having a baby is a natural thing. If you had a picture of your baby coming out of your vagina would you post it on a public forum like Facebook? It's not sexual. But I bet you wouldn't want people seeing your vagina. Haha sorry this is just starting to get funny
I think it's a completely natural thing and its not gross or rude or anything at all!!!! Well all at one point have seen a boob before its not like its gonna kill you if a women/mother is feeding her baby in public. I mean think about it teens now a days are dressing very dirty and showing more skin then they should think about. And we dont say anything. But if a MOTHER feels like she is comfortable with her body its not like she's just out in public feeding people. No she's feeding her baby... Honestly in my opinion I DONT care who you are if my baby is hungry I'm not going to let my child starve because you are grossed out! But I mean we all have our opinions.
I agree there are girls out there that show way too much...but that wasn't what this topic was about. no one said it's unnatural, we've all in fact said we agree it is natural. but it's very inconsiderate to other woman an their men to have it all hang out. no one said let your baby starve. just because we all know what boobs look like does not mean we or our men should see them all, if your feeding your baby or not. how hard is it to throw a blanket or cover over yourself? honestly
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