my best friend just told me

[kaciie90]

my best friend just told me she is pregnant. im so excited expecially if i am to. (the only reason i say if i am too is bc i had a possitive test and a negative test)
so im taking another one tommrow.
i think it is going to be great being pregnant at the same time as my best friend!!!!

what do yall think???

[Crysi]

I'm SO glad they both took it so well. Make sure your ex keeps to what he has said.
Mom's tend to get right into it. After my micarriage my Mom was still buying me baby stuff (she didn't show a lot of it to me till recently when she knew I wouldn't be bothered by it) and has told me that when I have a kid I have to live at home for a while, even if I've been moved out for a while. They get really into it, it's another baby for them to have around, and be there for. I sometimes think that my Mom wants me to have a baby more then my fiance and I do.

[kaciie90]

well im back and he was suprised shocked silent.
but after we sat there for a while he said he will be here for me and our baby

[Jame0223]

Yay...see..surprising they take it better then we think they will! I thought my mom would flip but she didnt. She was proud of me for making the right choice. I think my dad was the same with me. I dont have a good relationship with him and when I had to tell him about it he took it well, we had a good convo. Me, my parents and my honey...all sat down and had a talk. I felt very good about everything when they took it well..Its nice to know.

And you thought she would kick you out! lol Like I said...everything going to be fine with your ex. Its his choice on whether to step up or not..but you may be surprised. If he doesnt, then screw him, he's the one that will be missing out

[msgorgeous]

congrats..dont be nervous im sure every thing will work out :)

[kaciie90]

im going out to eat with my ex tonight to tell him. i think im more nervous about telling my ex than  my mom

[martikadragoon]

you told your mom?! YAY. Congrats girl!

[kaciie90]

my mom took it a whole lot better than i thought!
she is happy

[Jame0223]

YAY Congrats hun! :) Don't worry about tonight...it may not be that bad! He's going to have to know either way. I think you'll be fine. Just remind yourself that you have to tell him and that he needs to know. You can do it! I hope he steps up, at least for the baby. IF not...then your baby is better off with out his ***! Good luck tonight!

[kaciie90]

yeah i understand that and i know me and him wont get back together but he should step up and be a father to his kid

but idk i wont find out what he is going to do until i talk to him about it tonight.
gahhh im so nervous.

[shasy03]

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!

I hope he is a man and steps up too.  Good luck and have a happy healthy 9 months!!!

[chitten]

You have to realise ( and i dont wanna offend you but im speaking from experience here ) that things arent gonna be perfect.

Like me, you were seperated when you fell pregnant, and just because you're having his baby doesnt mean to say you will get back together.
If he has moved on, the chances are thats because he doesnt want to be with you.

It hurts like hell - i know.

But you also have to be prepared for the chance that he may accuse you of doing this on purpose to trap him. If he feels stuck, he will prob say a whole loada nasty hurtful things.

My ex knew i was on the pill so we never ever expected to fall pregnant but i was 2 months gone when i found out.

I was gonna have a termination but i changed my mind.

He has since suggested that i didnt go through with it as i hoped we would get back together.

Truth is, i dont wanna be with him and i now no i deserve better.

I just hope you understand that he might not be as happy about this as you are.

[kaciie90]

yeah i know

its just that i want my baby to have a father because when i was younger i didnt have a father figure in my life, he came around only when he felt like it. but when my mom married my stepdad me and him have never gotten along. he is the reason me and my mom are not close and dont have a good mother daughter relationship.

but the thing about it is that my ex might not want to step up. but his parents would end up making him step up. bc when me and him were dating i had a pregnancy scare and he told his parents and his mom called me and talked to me for a while and told me she would come with me to talk to my mom and if my mom kicked me out that i would move in with them.  
but i dont see things happiniing like that now

[chitten]

I wouldnt hold your breath though hun.

My ex is an ARS*HOLE. He thinks hes gonna be a great dad but in reality i dont think he has a clue.

Just remember that you DONT NEED HIM for anything and any contribution he makes is an added bonus.

Hes treated you like **** so dont take anymore s**t. I know how hard it is especially if you still care about someone but youve gotta be strong for youe little one now.

[kaciie90]

yeah im excited.
i just hope my ex will step up and take responsibility

[chitten]

Well congrats.

Now is th eperfect time to start planning and making changes for the years ahead.

It will take alot of hard work, time, effot and money but will be worth it in the end

[kaciie90]

so i tested again when i woke up and the result was......................
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POSSITIVE!!!

[shasy03]

I think it is great only if you don't have a friend that is competitive. My best friend now found out on the 6th that she was, found out she was having a miscarriage on the 8th and passed the baby this past tuesday.  So I was excited for her but she was just in a race with me.  I'm not trying to race things....so everything is competitive with her.  

I think it would be awesome to  be pregnant with my best friend only if they were not trying to out do me.  Congrats.....and good luck with you!

[chitten]

Did you test again???

[martikadragoon]

kaciie90~ Good luck! Even if you are pregnant you'll be a great mom and your mom would be stupid to kick you out because of it. She should be SUPPORTING you.

[kaciie90]

idk i am just ready to find out if i am or not SOON

[alaysha]

Could be that the second test you took wasn't as sensitive which can happen sometimes. Hopefully tomorrow will give you a for sure answer.

[kaciie90]

the first one i took was on monday i think and it didnt have a line at all
i took another one on tuesday and it said pregnant - ept digital
and the one i took today was negative but it was the same kind (ept)

i normally have my periods in the begining of the month

[Hales20]

Well whatever the test turns out for you it is suppose to happen as everything in life happens for a reason.

If it turns out negative then i guess you have nothing to be worried about.

If it turns out positive, yes you have to tell ppl, but at least you will have someone going through it with you & will understand where you are coming from.

I was ttc this month but i have a feeling im not preg. the only symptoms i have had so far is being sick (cold/flu type which im not even sure if that is a proper symptom, lower abdominal pains & back pains) other than that i feel fine. I did BD during 'O' however dont think this month is my month.

But doesnt bother me- im still young & will keep trying. Took my mate a Year to get Pregnant after trying with no BC Pills.

Anyways, whatever the outcome, good luck with everything & keep us up to date with everything!

[alaysha]

Hmmm... what kind of tests did you use and when is your period due?