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Should I Abort?
My boyfriend and I are going through a hard time. I am 11 weeks pregnant and was raped. My boyfriend and I were looking forward to a baby of our own. I don't know what we should do. Should we abort (and get rid of the pain the child would go through) and have our own baby or should we keep this baby? Help!
I agree with carried_away 100%. your the one who's gonna have to live with whatever decision you choose. & you deffinately will get biased opinions as pretty much all the ladies on this forum are pregnant or ttc.
don't let anyone force you into a decision. not many people know what you went thru, and probably won't in their life. tho some people may beable to live with raising a child from those circumstances, many women prolly can't even deal with the reminder of what happened to them in those 9 months.
make your decision on what's best for you, noone else. I truly hope you find some peace, and everything works out for you. goodluck hun, godbless, I'll keep you in my prayers. xx
don't let anyone force you into a decision. not many people know what you went thru, and probably won't in their life. tho some people may beable to live with raising a child from those circumstances, many women prolly can't even deal with the reminder of what happened to them in those 9 months.
make your decision on what's best for you, noone else. I truly hope you find some peace, and everything works out for you. goodluck hun, godbless, I'll keep you in my prayers. xx
Y daughter is the product of rape, only he wasn't a complete stranger, he was my bf. I never once considered abortion or adoption because it wasn't her fault, she is now 7 yrs and I would never do anything to hurt her. My husband treats as if she was his own flesh and blood, I don't treat her any different than my son, it's painful sometimes to have the reminder, but I love her So much, the pain is worth it. If you don't want your baby give her/him to someone who does. I know a woman who had an abortion and she regrets it everyday, the not knowing, she was raped by someone she had a crush on. Ultimately the choice is yours, good luck with your decision. It really isn't the worst thing to keep something positive out of a horrible experience.
Y daughter is the product of rape, only he wasn't a complete stranger, he was my bf. I never once considered abortion or adoption because it wasn't her fault, she is now 7 yrs and I would never do anything to hurt her. My husband treats as if she was his own flesh and blood, I don't treat her any different than my son, it's painful sometimes to have the reminder, but I love her So much, the pain is worth it. If you don't want your baby give her/him to someone who does. I know a woman who had an abortion and she regrets it everyday, the not knowing, she was raped by someone she had a crush on. Ultimately the choice is yours, good luck with your decision. It really isn't the worst thing to keep something positive out of a horrible experience.
I agree with carried away do what's best for you no one else. Your the only one that has to wake up and look at yourself in the mirror in the morning. No regrets just make sure you can live with it. You do want to abort and then become depressed by it you cnt live with yourself. You don't want to keep the baby then harm the baby because you can't stand to look at him or her. Don't decide to carry a baby full term if you cnt deal with the emotions behind it as I had a friend who committed suicide because she couldn't abort and couldn't carry to term to give away. Weigh all of your options. I wish you the best and please seek counselor for whatever you decide.
Don't abort. If you don't think you can handle keeping the baby you should put it for adoption there are many ppl who would love to have a child and can't. They will love the baby as their own. And if you want to keep it you are a strong women because after all its not the babies fault. For some reason or another God has blessed you with this baby. Just don't kill an inocent that has no fault of what has happen. And I am sorry that you have to go threw this but stay strong and may God bless you
Your going to get alot of biased opinions from a forum full of happily pregnant women. Most of the women here do not approve of abortions, but that being said, few have been thru what your going thru. As much as you probably want someone to tell you what to do, no one can. Only your opinion counts, and as tough as it seems only you can choose what to do. You will need to search your soul & decide if you are strong enough to carry a child for 9 months, everyday being reminded of the horror that got you there. You will also have to decide if you are strong enough to live with the decision of aborting a child that is part of you. Remember, whatever choice you make, make it for you, not for someone here, your boyfriend, or family. God bless & I will pray for you.
You can raise this baby as your both of your own . At 11weeks your babies heart is beating. It's not the babies fault and I personally could never abort. Why would the baby go through pain? It's not like you'd tell your child it was the result of rape. You can both love this child.
Get rid of the pain the child would go through? What pain? A child from rape doesn't mean they're some monster, and it makes NO difference who gives the generic material. That's not what makes parents, what makes them is the people who raise them. I was conceived by rape, and while it's sometimes hard to realize my life is no different than the life of someone who's parents tried for them. Don't abort a child just to have one of your own genetic material, you might not ever get the chance again.
My boyfriend and I are going through a hard time as well which can also do affect to the unborn child but that is no reason to take your childs life. My boyfriend wanted to abort when we first found out we were expecting.. he did not want a baby at all btw I'm 21the he's 23. He said he would support my decision so when I decided to keep my daughter he was upset but stuck by me. Now he can't wait to see and take pics with his daughter.
Just because you have this baby from a rape incident doesn't make it any less lovable or yours. You and your bf can always have your kids.. plus this one.
Or like a previous poster said "Adoption" The baby isn't doing anything but trying to survive in you.
Good Luck
Just because you have this baby from a rape incident doesn't make it any less lovable or yours. You and your bf can always have your kids.. plus this one.
Or like a previous poster said "Adoption" The baby isn't doing anything but trying to survive in you.
Good Luck
Im so sorry that but I personally dnt think theres ever a good reason 2 abort unless ur dr says ur bby wont survive even then it would be hard 4 me 2 do I would feel so guilty but I wouldnt want my bby 2 suffer just 2 die amyways cus its not that poor innocent bbys fault how he/she was conceived think of the future 2 cus wat if u cant get pregnant again or something goed wrng with a future pregnancy because of the abortion so 2 speak like karma u kno cus that happened 2 a family friend but still that will be yalls bby anyways he can rise that bby as his own it dnt have be thought of the bad way but if its that big of a problem if anything have u considered adoption instead of taking an innocent life cud theres couples who really want a bby n cany have em u kno n it would feel alot better 2 have that on ur conciense than abortion but this is just my personal opinion cus im completely against abortion but its completely up 2 u in the end just think of that poor bby who already has a heartbeat is moving n in just a few wks or so will be showin its stuff cus like I said its not the bbys fault again im sorry about wat happened n I hope I dnt upset or offend u or anyone else
dont abort. its not the babys fault. if you are POSITIVE the baby is not your boyfriends, you can always give the baby up for adoption. you can always get a paternity test to see if the baby is your boyfriends or not. if you need to talk, message me. i've been in your shoes before, i gave my daughter up for adoption since i was raped. so i know the pain you are going thru
I personally don't believe in abortions, I know every case is different! I would give the child up for adoption if I had to get rid of it. I can't possibly understand the pain of being raped and going through the pain so if I seem insensitive, I am very sorry that's not what I mean. Maybe you guys should think of this child as your own and try to love it, it's not it's fault it was created! It didn't get asked to be killed or not thought of. Again I am so sorry for your pain!
If I was in your shoes I would keep the baby....if you don't want it at least give it up for adoption to let someone who would love to have them have their family complete....that's a life that your taking...its. a blessing to be able to get pregnant and create a life for nine.months....and sometimes when you abort you may not be able to become pregnant again...you And your boyfriend could raise this child with love and everything else it deserves...I know it sounds crazy considering what happened to YOu but many women have done it....I'm really sorry for what did happen to.you...I was molested when I was younger so I have a feeling of the pain.your going through..best wishes to.you
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