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Am I doing the right thing ?
My partner and I have been together for 3 years and I've just recently found out I'm pregnant. He's so against if he's saying if I keep it he will need forgive me that he will hate me and never speak to me or want to know me again. I want this baby, I already love this baby so much it's not fair he keeps saying I'm being selfish by wanting to keep the baby but I know that if I don't I'll be mentally and emotionally traumatised : I've always wanted to me a mother and I thought he wanted to be a father but clearly not. Opinions ?
I think you need to sit down with him and talk it out. If he never wanted a baby and you did maybe he wasnt the right guy to be having unprotected sex with. If you want it, keep it. In the end, you will live with your decision. But its also unfair for you women to say so many women cant have babies blah blah blah....this poor girl isnt living and doing things to please any one so sorry some women cant have babies, thats really sad but thats not a reason for someone else to have one. And that should never ever be thrown into anyones face!!! But if you can afford this baby and would be willing to walk away from this relationship than do it :) after all it takes 2 to make a baby so its never fair for anyone to say the dads opinions dont matter, they do! How would you feel if your BD took off with your kid and that would be ok well because its his too!?!
I would keep the baby and leave him. It sounds as though he is the one being selfish. Also if you gave the baby up to stay with him, you would have regrets and resentment towards him and ultimately be unhappy or leaving him anyways after you already gave up your little one. Its a very hard spot to be in but just know everything always works out, if you follow your own heart.
When I first found out I was pregnant my BF flipped out!!! He wanted me to get an abortion, he blamed me for "tricking" him. It was just a mess. I was not on birth control nor were we using protection bc I was told I had PCOS and there was no way I'd have kids without IVF and a surgery to remove a tissue growth .. Anyhow long story I was blessed! My Bf was sooo negative at the time of finding out about the pregnancy. I personally would never consider an abortion bc I believe every pregnancy is a blessing and there is soo many other options. I just can't choose which pregnancy ( a life) to terminate. But anyways after the ultrasound to confirm the pregnancy he changed dramastically!!! He was sooo happy at that point. Well then came the whole boy or girl thing. He fell in love with the idea of wanting a son and a girl was not an option in his mind. Well now I'm 27 weeks with our lil girl !!! He is soo in love with her already!!! That is his baby girl !! Lol moral of the story is if I would of listened to him and aborted this pregnancy we wouldn't be so happy with our little one on the way!!! You do what u want!!! It's ur body!! Ur child!! He can leave if he wants but that's gunna be a regret he has to love with! I wouldn't listen to him and would just give him time!! Goodluck avd congrats !!!
My ex gave me the same ultimatum. He has been here every day for the baby since he was born last month. We are still not back together but making progress. I had a rough time being alone during my pregnancy but his actions lately have kind of made up for it. I'm glad I kept my baby even though it meant losing him.
Just remember there's women out there that would kill to know what its like to be pregnant , but can't get pregnant . Pregnancy is a blessing , keep your baby . Nobody will have more love for you than your baby <3 and you won't love anybody as much as your baby , trust <3
If you love that baby, you should keep it! Men come and go, but that baby will be yours and love you forever. I know you love him. But honestly if he loves you, he would be there for you an this baby you both made together. How could he want you to kill his innocent baby over him. No man is worth a child. There are women who would do anything to have a baby of there own. God has blessed YOU with this baby for a reason.
Keep the baby. He might change his mind once he knows you choose your baby over him. Or maybe he won't, and if not he is a jerk anyway and is being childish.
That's so unfair, we got married 4 months ago and my hhusband wanted a baby immediately. I bet he is just playing with you.
Keep the baby he might grow to appreciate you both.
Keep the baby he might grow to appreciate you both.
No matter what a man says, it should never be the reason to just get rid of a child, maybe try protection so a life isn't left hanging in the balance.
Keep your child or give it up for adoption. If you don't do what's in your heart you will never forgive him and your relationship will be nothing in the end.
you want to keep your baby, stand your ground. Dont let him"change your mind" . He might just be a little scared, but still has no reason to disrespect you in that way.
I think you should keep your baby there is nothing more in important in this world then our kids and if he doesn't care about his own baby I don't think his worth it how can he call you selfish if his only thinking about himself his not thinking about a innocent life or how you feel you won't be the first or the last single mom better of to be alone then with someone like that good luck
What happens if you abort the baby and keep him.. then you wind up pregnant again... maybe he should be more careful having sex with you.... you gotta think about that too
Keep it and make the a**hole pay child support. No real man asks a woman to terminate a pregnancy never mind threatens her about it.
Thankyou, All of you! It's hard hearing these things but hey the truth is always hard. So thankyou all so much :)
I know its hard to lose the man you love. But trust me if he's acting like this it won't last anyway, you will grow to resent him and you should never choose a man over your baby. To many women make that mistake and regret it.
You know you love this baby. I suggest you keep the baby, drop the dude or give him an ultimatum: Have a family with you or kick rocks. It's pretty simple. I know you love him but your child has to be your number 1 priority. If he doesn't want to share that with you then maybe this is his way of him saying he doesn't want a future with you... I know its hard and I am very sorry!
Me and my hubby have been together for 3 years. Our baby wasn't planned but we always vowed a life together, through thick and thin. So while we didn't want to have a baby for another few years, we knew that our little surprise would not break us up. I couldn't imagine if he said those things to me. I would be broken. But you have to be strong for your child. Don't worry, it will all work out in the wash. Just have faith!
Me and my hubby have been together for 3 years. Our baby wasn't planned but we always vowed a life together, through thick and thin. So while we didn't want to have a baby for another few years, we knew that our little surprise would not break us up. I couldn't imagine if he said those things to me. I would be broken. But you have to be strong for your child. Don't worry, it will all work out in the wash. Just have faith!
I say keep the baby many girls can't have babies. At first that what I was going thru that I didnt want the baby but we have a life growing inside of us and its a truly blessing leave him and keep the baby the baby is a gift from god not many girls get the blessing that we as a future mother can have its amazing.
I think it depends. If you have discussed the issue before and both decided that you weren't going to have kids then he has a right to be upset (but he still shouldn't be talking to you like that) however if it has never been brought up and this is all sudden I say leave and be happy with your baby. If you've always wanted to be a mom you should be with someone who also wants to be a dad.
He's making it so hard for me, I keep changing my mind when I know I want to keep this baby. I just hate that I'm losing him
Keep it! If he still feels the same way when your baby is born then have him go to court and give up his paternal rights
No it's selfish to sit there and talk to you like that and say the things he said over an unborn child! If he really loved you he would be as happy as you are. Don't do anything to make him happy. If you know you can take care of your baby without him, and have support from family/friends, keep it! If anything choose an open adoption. Maybe he'll come around as times passes, I know a lot of guys do.
What the hell is wrong with him if yall been together happily for 3 years a baby shouldnt ruin it it should bring yall together
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