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I'm 17 years old, this is my second pregnancy but sadly I am not a Mum. My first pregnancy at 16 ended in a missed miscarriage, it was so easy for me to decide to keep my baby as I had support everywhere and now I feel as though everyone is frowning upon me for not learning the first time. I spoke to a doctor yesterday and she was persiant on me getting a termination; handing me bouchers on clinics and abortion. I was devastated when I lost Peyton and yet I can seem to be happy about this baby; my rainbow baby. 
I can finish my last year at a school for young Mothers where my baby would come with me and my local hospital does a learning program for young Mums with classes each week. My boyfriend is supportive but says it is up to me so I don't know what he wants... he is getting a job for more income so we can get a rental house for the baby. 
I just don't know what to do, I can't tell my Mum... she is 18 weeks pregnant herself and she warned me I would fall pregnant again... I need advice, please? :(

doulamommy · Answer

Look into government assistance if you need it. Wic, Medicaid, foods stamps etc can help you give your baby a good start and get back on your feet.

newjulymommy · Answer

You do what you know in your heart is right honey! I believe in you and I'm sure that after you talk to your mom and let her have her space it will all work out. Don't forget that she is hormonal too ;)    oh! Also please PLEASE if your boyfriend does not have a job have him get one and you too if you don't. Saving up will be the best thing you can do and it will also help your mother not freak about basicly having to raise two kids the same age since rhere isn't financial support from your side (not saying there isn't but you get my drift.    And ohhh yeah girl get a new doctor s/he is NUTS  to be telling you to abort!! I would have slapped that Beeeep across the face and walked out! But im also super hormonal so that doesnt help my case any lol

MomsDoItBetter · Answer

Im glad you decided to keep it (((: i was 16 when i had my first & now im 20 due any day now. Dont let no one try to make your decision for you. You are doing the right thing , & yea find another doc if possible. Congrats on baby! (:

Peyton_13_09 · Answer

Thank you so much, honestly I have never had so much support before and from complete strangers. I have decided to continue with the pregnancy and to defiantly get a new doctor. I might be young and still a little immature but I have a plan and I am sure I can do this; this is thanks to all your encouragement and beautiful words. You all have really given me the courage to continue and become a Mum.

tasia15 · Answer

God dnt make mistakes so keep the baby  it need to b more woman like u that get pregnant n want to own up to it this is baby number two I had my first 3 months before my 18th bday I'm 22 now n successful they are a blessing nt a curse

doulamommy · Answer

Honey you need a Dr that you can trust with your life and baby's life. Honestly if my midwife had even once mentioned termination (even if baby tested positive for trisomy 18, which runs in my family) I'd be out of there so fast! 
You are looking ahead already at what life will be like with this angel. You aren't being stupid about it ("oh la la la I'm gonna have a baby! We're gonna be the cutest family ever and we're never gonna struggle and my future will just fall into place")
You're going to be a good mom. Not saying it's gonna be easy, but you have a better chance than many.

Skylarssmommy · Answer

Keep Your rainbow baby im also 17 but with my first , you can do it i believe you can. Your really mature in my eyes bcuz u have a plan already . Its nobodys decision but ypurs whether u keep your baby . You can message me any time u need too talk i can totally understand what u goin thru . Im 7 months pregnant wit my daughter skylar harmony

Immrscrushh1 · Answer

A baby is a blessing hun, dont let it go.just because of the opinions of others. Once you have your baby in your arms and you see his little face, trust me, you'll be glad you made the desicion of keeping him/her(: Best Wishes

ArickaR · Answer

I'm 19 years old an this is my first pregnancy.  My mom she was kinda upset about it, but  i got her support. I think your mom will be upset , but your her daughter so no matter what she still gon be there for you.

ArickaR · Answer

I'm 19 years old an this is my first pregnancy.  My mom she was kinda upset about it, but  i got her support. I think your mom will be upset , but your her daughter so no matter what she still gon be there for you.

Kirtz · Answer

At the end of the day it's your baby! If you can provide for the baby without depending on anyone I say Hey who cares what everyone else says. It's when you need help from other where the opinions begin to matter.

Johnnelle1995 · Answer

Aweeeeee well im 18 and pregnant (1st time )and im due feb 12th and im very surprised and upset your doctor would even offer abortion to you . I would find a supportive doctor!  And its not easy but it sounds to me your ready for the opportunity to be a mom and give it a try and grow up your just worried about everyone else don't be! Eventually everyone will fall into place and if they dont u always have your child on your side hunny thats how i look at it if no one else is there for me my baby is and i will be damn if someone takes that away from me!

hinkypunkheid · Answer

Keep the baby.  You can do it.  It's the a decision you won't regret.  Of course there is adoption but your not that young and if your willing to work and have support of your bf go for it.

Peyton_13_09 · Answer

Can't seem to be happy *

mikki1989 · Answer

Girl it sounds like you've been through it but trust me this baby needs you and you need it. Every thing happens for a reason. Keep ur head up and try not to stress it's not good for the baby ♡ if u need to talk you can message me