I NEED TO VENT !

[Karina517]

I'm so frustrated ! I don't like going to my in laws house cause when I tell my daughter something they turn around and tell her the opposite so she listens to them and ignores me :/ then later when I want to tell her something she doesn't listen to me and starts acting up !! Ugh NEED ADVICE !

[Karina517]

Thank you ladies ! I really appreciate the advice ! I will surely get my acted to getter and speak up :)

[MommyMakwa00]

My mother never bit her tongue when it came to the in-laws, never let people step on her toes, disrespect her name and sure as heck never let anyone parent her children. I don't know how you do it but your more patient I guess, I think your much more mellow but your a mom, don't let anyone treat you low hun. You gave birth so I know your strong! Good luck :)

[jordyvi0824]

You can talk to your husband but as you said he always takes his moms side so it doesn't sound like he will do crap about it! My fiancés parents are the same way! I am pregnant now but my fiancé has two kids and we figures out that when we bring them to their house they think "their house their rules" so we sat them down and we said until you learn that we are their parents everywhere you do not become their parents just cause their at your house so until that changes you will only see them when you come to our house where you respect our authority

[Karina517]

The thing is that we are moving a table that his uncle have us and his mom said she will help is wit the chairs so she leaves before us with the chairs and tells us she'll wait for us at our house ! Well we arrive to our house and she decides to break into our house :/ I went off on my husband even tough it wasn't his fault, I told him he better say something to her ! Well he did idk right now I'm just really emotional and stressed and ugh !! Thanks for listening to me and giving me advice I WILL SURELY talk to my husband about this ASAP :)

[wife_and_mama2014]

Don't cry <3 if they wanna be that way, then they can live with no visits until they have a change of heart. I have already talked to my in laws for when this baby comes. I made it clear ME and my HUSBAND are raising this child. When we want their advice or help, we will ask. Otherwise, back up. Just have to stand your ground no matter what!!

[Karina517]

I would like to tell them but I if I say something all the family will come back and try to start problems that's why I just stay quiet ! I would really love my husband to step up and be a man and stick up for me but ugh ! I really feel like crying right now :/

[wife_and_mama2014]

Then talk to them directly. If he doesn't wanna stick up for you, that's his problem. Tell them, "look, this is MY child. when I say no to something, that's exactly what it means: no. you need to respect my authority as her mother and don't go and tell her she can do something when I already clearly said she can't". Remember this is YOUR child. You have a say in if they even see her. Grandparents have no legal right. It is a privilege. They need to support you in how you raise your child, otherwise they can stick it where the sun don't shine.

[Karina517]

I've tried talking to my husband but he always takes his mom side :/ I assume it's to get to me but really don't care ! And my daughter she only does that at there house cause at my house she knows when no is no ! And listens to me, she knows she can get away with shi at her house and It frustrates me ! I tell my husband that no matter what he needs to back me up ! Like I do with my family whatever he says I back up and he doesn't understand :/

[tabygary]

So they are busy teaching your child to be disobedient. Its not that they love your daughter somuch but they are using her to get through you.I think you have to talk to your hubby and also knock some sense into your little princess before they ruin her character. You have a good reason to hate visiting them becoz what they are doing is destroying the little girls future an manners

[em_mummytobe]

You are the parent, make sure you remind then that. They are not her parents, meaning they have no say . I would turn around and tell her again, no I am the parent you listen to what I say.

[wife_and_mama2014]

Tell them to back off! Period. This is your child, not theirs.