What do pregnant ladies think of their husband that watch PORN behind their back while pleasing themselves?

[jessyboy007]

Some of you know about my situation at home, and you know how much it upset me!!

Anyways, im still having an issue with it!! Im still wondering, if any of you feel the same way as i do!!?

Are any of you PREGGO and finding it repulsive that ur husband watch porn behind your back while masterbating, when he has the perfect marriage/relationship, with a perfect sexual lifestyle , but needs to go behind ur back (knowingly that it bothers u) , and still have this need to release some tension while watching some sleezy porn!!

Still makes me sick,,,im carrying his child, and we are about to build a family!! they might have all the excuses in the book:
1.they are men
2. they have urges
3. its healthy etc...BLA BLA BLA

urges or not...those are just his excuse to makewoman believe that its normal and its acceptable!!!!

trust me  i have urges to max out my credit card and shop till i drop, but i control myself !!!
also my grandfather didnt have the luxury in those time to watch porn , so he turned to his wife, lthats why there was less divorces in those times !! i can go on...i just feel like we are making excuses for their behaviors........

i know if he would have told me that it bothered him , if i did it, i wouldnt have gone behind his back!! the fact that he lies and find excuses , still makes me feel like i should go back to my marriage!! If i did , i woudnt be able to trust him and it would be hard  for me to regain that trust!! think of all the stress , i would put myself through while trying to see more clearly...and im pregnant!! glad im away from the worries and suspiscions!!

Anyone feel sthe same way??

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I can understand where some of you women feel that especially when you're pregnant you'd rather him pleasure himself with porn than go out somewhere and get it.  Personally...if I'm making the sacrifices I have to make to grow a new life inside me he can tuck his wee wee between his legs and hold it for awhile.  Why should the get to run off and make excuses and do what they want?  They arent any better than us.  Frankly I don't feel the least bit guilty for telling my husband NO if I don't feel like it.  If he thinks he's got is so bad for not gettin any for a few weeks even a month or two...well I'll happily allow him to endure morning sickness, peeing himself, ligament pains, contractions, exhaustion, moodiness, swelling, vericose veins and the ultimate...NATURAL CHILDBIRTH....meanwhile I'll sit HAPPILY on the sidelines not gettin any and it won't hurt my feelings in the least little bit.  

[miko_latte]

I'm 38 weeks and 2 days preggo, and to be honest I don't have a problem with it. Just last night my babys dad was watching porn and pleasing himself, to be honest I was kind of relieved, I am so tired to even have sex now adays for pleasure, now I'm more like "Le'ts have sex so I can dilate more" lol. But no I don't have a problem with it. LOL and like Jame0223 we too have a small collection of DVDs that we watch together, I'm fine with it. There's times where I try to get him to watch it, but he was never "turned on" like that from it, and like some women said it's a type of foreplay. I know it probably sounds crazy that it doesnt bother me and I actually watch it with my babys dad at 9 and a half months preggo lol but I undeerstand where you're coming from, its another thing when doing it behind your back is a whole different story. I would be pissed off at that too. But I've always been open minded with porn and when we started this relationship we both had an understanding. There's alot of **** that my baby's dad does behind my back that pisses me off, so I definitely get where you're coming from.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

Wow....Thank you LosingMyMindinGA.  I knew your story and I thought it would be very beneficial to jessyboy.  I am with the 2 of you and some of the others.  I have a big problem with it.  I could go on and on about all of the problems that I have with it.  And it's true.  Society gives men every excuse in the book for all of the "just being a guy" things that they do.  And contrary to what some believe, men's wee wee's won't fall off and they won't start foaming at the mouth if they don't get it right when they want it.  I don't get everything I want right when I want it either.  IT'S CALLED LIFE!!  

Jessyboy
You are totally entitled to the way that you feel.  Just because some people are okay with it, does not mean that you have to be.  Maybe you guys do need to be apart for a while so that he can see what he could be losing.  Whatever you do, make sure to do what is best for you and your baby.  This is no time for you to be under a ton of stress and I know first hand that this will cause a "ton of stress".  Please be careful and keep us updated.  I applaud you for standing up for what you believe in.  There is this awesome song by Jewel.  It's called Stronger Woman.  If you haven't heard it, find a way to.  You should really listen to it.  We all should.  Take care.....

[Hope2OneDay]

As long as my dh isn't out messing around on me while I'm pregnant, I couldn't care less if he watches that stuff. Luckily, if he has any of it, I don't know about it. But if I ever found out, I don't think I'd care. When I'm pregnant and tired and don't feel like doing the nasty, I'd much rather him take care of himself than come bother me...or better yet make me feel guilty for NOT wanting to do it! Men have no understanding of the complete and utter "bone tired" feeling that we have while pregnant. If that's what gets him through the nine months...so be it. :-)

[blueskye20]

I have this same kind of problem.  I actually just posted about it.  My husband and I overcame a porn problem and now he's been going to the strip club.  Anyway, I think we're over it now as we had a good, hard talk about it.  

The porn thing bothered me because I was trying to get pregnant.  It upset me that he'd rather get off to some **** and waste his sperm than have sex with me and potentally make a baby.  I know how much it sucks and I know that most of the time they think they're justified.... but they really arent.

[Jame0223]

I don't know if I am weird but hey...me and my df are only 19. We have a movie collection of about 10 dvds. Most of them are his but he never hid them from me. I know that I was with him the time we bought the last 4 or so. I don't care for it, but I have no problem with it. Sometimes we watch it together as a form or foreplay. I know that when I am alone I use the ones we picked out together. And I am sure the same goes for him. But most of the time they sit in a drawer collecting dust.

I know he has looked online at some porno sites. I remember not too long ago I was going to get on my laptop and it was dead so I was charging it, when it came back on it was on a porno site...Like it had died while he was looking at pictures. I told him not to use my personal laptop to look at porn becaus those sites are good for carrying viruses. He said okay and that was that. No more porno at all on the computer(thats the only one we use). I know he has quite a collection of magazines as well from when he was a young teen that he stole from his dad..lol but there locked in a trunk that he never goes into. He puts them there so my parents don't find them.

He's very open with me and I am glad that he is. I would rather him watch porn and me know then not know. He rarely does anything with it and we have a healthy relationship sexually. I'm sorry I forgot to mention that I am not pregnant as of yet but I have been. Even when I was pregnant I was always picked over the porno. And I know that he is truthful because he's never home when I am not. We work the same schedule pretty much except he gets home 30 minutes before I do..but he plays video games...thats his addiction! Even if he was looking at porn while I was gone I would know because he leaves the dvd in the dvd player and the case where I can see it. I trust him and even if he looks at other women having sex I know that it has nothing to do with him being unsatisfied or sick of my body. He still loves my body and I am glad!

It doesn't bother me at all but I can see how it would bother others. Whether it be religion or the way you were raised, if it bothers you then ask them about it. I am sure they should understand! Just be honest with how it makes you feel and let them know that you are there whenever they feel the need. Let him know thats it could cause trust issues. If he loves you he will understand. Tell him you know he is lying and coming up with excuses and you would prefer honesty! Porn is a guy thing, but it doesn't have to be a big deal to them. Maybe ask him why he watches it and see if theres any way you can fulfill that desire? Thats what I would do...