Young mommies?!?

[1992Mama]

Any of you young mamas worried about how your older family is going to look at you at the baby shower?I'm 21 and not married... I am terrified to see some of my family at the shower because I haven't seen them since I've been pregnant. Most of the people coming to my shower are  25-80 years old and I feel like they are going to look at me badly! I am very self conscience!

[OhHeyStace23]

No mama! your at a good age.. you have atleast completed high school ( I assume) and are an adult. if your guests and relatives have the nerve to look down upon you because of your pregnancy , Shane on them .. you will see peoples true colors. no worries everything should be fine ,:)

[OhHeyStace23]

No mama! your at a good age.. you have atleast completed high school ( I assume) and are an adult. if your guests and relatives have the nerve to look down upon you because of your pregnancy , Shane on them .. you will see peoples true colors. no worries everything should be fine ,:)

[mommytobe1018]

Im 19 goin on 20 wit ma 2nd baby n i honestly dnt care wat ma family thinks cuz they not doin anything for me n i barely talk to dem

[arlandonbloom]

I know that being a young mom and trying to be "accepted" by older family members is a tough thing... I am 20, 7wks4days pregnant, but will be 21 when I deliver and my family is all way older than I am... The youngest cousins I have are 6 and 10 the rest are in their 40s and didn't have their families or get married until after college... Well, I am married, junior in college but all I have to say is that your family or friends can't accept the fact that you are 21 and having a child, then don't worry about it. The people that matter most are the ones that are supportive of your decision. I know you might feel ashamed but in the end, the people that matter will be at your side and won't judge you and will be there to help and be around during your baby's life. Good luck!  

[StephanieFTM]

I felt the same way I only invited the family members close to me, I come from a very big Christian family that are judgemental so I just didn't invite them so I could have fun at my shower and not be embarrassed or wondering what they were saying about me. Luckly my bf comes from a big family also so we had 75-100 people show up so I didn't worry about not getting everything I needed.

[mommyjosie559]

I turned 21 in April and I'm now 11 weeks pregnant. The people I live with my mom and sibling were so happy. But my cousin who I'm very close with was upset. Told me to consider abortion or adoption because I'm not with the baby's dad and I'm still so young. But I know I'm doing the right decision and I know I'll love my baby because I already do. It doesn't matter what people think. All that matters is the baby :)

[1992Mama]

Thanks so much I feel so much better knowing that I'm not the only one feeling this way! I live y little boy so much already as he's not even here yet :)

[KDQ]

I am 23 and a FTM. I got married at 19. Although I have been married almost 4 years when we announced our pregnancy we still felt very judged. People just have to come around to the idea. You are growing a precious baby. Dont let anyone look down on you- be proud! You csn't change things now. Enjoy your shower and just prove to people you are young but you will be a good mommy.

[BabyTurnip]

Im also 21 pregnant with my first. I dont think it matters in this time of age if your married or not (although for grandparents its a big deal) but i wasnt scared at all since both my cousins younger then me already had babies and they are both mest up in the head. My one cousin is 18yrs old with a one yrs old baby girl and shes running after a 35yr old married man. So really i have nothing to fear. If my family wants to talk (and trust me they will lol) i know im in a stable relationship. We both love eachother very much and we know we are going yo be great parents for our son and thats all that matters to me. I was adopted by my dad and his family (beside my grandpa, God bless his sole) hated me. I was the child from a ******* and they. spent every minutes of my childhood to remind that. Now that im pregnant with the only boy im treated like a freaking angel! And i hate there two face back stabbing attitude.  

So dont be worried about what others think or say. All you need to know is your going to be the best thing that ever happened to your baby :) and nobody can take that away from you! Just hold your head high and show them how proud you are! Good luck momma!

[Baby2mommy]

I got pregnant at 17 n had my baby at 18......I was in foster care still! Yes in any situation it can b difficult to tell a certain person.....I'm on my second n my husband n I were terrified to tell his dad. Though hes the father of both our children it still was nerve wrecking lol I do hope everything works out for u .

[1992Mama]

Thanks ladies :) I'm not so much worried about them saying anything at the shower I'm worried about what they will say behind my back :( I hate being talked about even of its good I'd rather be just left out of conversation you know?  Me and my boyfriend are so happy about the baby and have planned on getting married for the past 4 years it just hasn't been the right time. Now we have decided to wait because we don't want anyone to think we're getting married because of the baby. My grandma already went off on my boyfriend because he didn't aske me to marry him when I got pregnant! But that's not what I want I don't want to get married because people think its right I want to because it makes me happy and him happy! So I'm worried that if I'm out of the room rude comments will be made or things like that! But I guess I'm just super paranoid and always have been. But I'm excited that so much of my family decided to come to the shower anyway :)

[Ashdub07]

I had my oldest when I was 17. I didn't care what anyone thought because I knew I was doing the right thing by keeping my kid, so all the naysayers could go naysay up their a s s e s

[holly_ett]

I have learned that u can't worry about what other ppl are thinking. I say just enjoy urself and if anyone makes a comment then let them cause they are just making themselves look bad. You should see the amt of dirty looks I get cause im 24 and 31 wks pregnant with our third and not mamrried but still with their father.  My kids father is Lebanese and they are big on getting married and have schooling done then having kids but we did things in different order. I have even had a Guy in a mall stop in front of me and look at my 2 kids then my belly and made sure I was looking at him and shook his head at me to make the point that im young and shouldn't have kids. I do look younger the 24 tho but he is very lucky I had my kids with me cause I would have used some really harsh words that a 3 yr old can't hear lol

[juiceboxxxhero]

Don't worry about how they look at you. Your family SHOULD be supportive and if they're not make it very clear that that is what you want/need from them. I'm 19, and pregnant with my third. Although I am married, my family has the stereotypes for everyone. Just make sure your family knows what your concerns are.

[gglove]

I'm 18. I just recently got married. We have a honeymoon baby coming in December. I'm worried about people will think. I get comments all the time, asking if I was already pregnant so we got married. Or comments om how we should have waited. I think in ever pregnancy there is going to be worry about what people thinnk. As long as your happy with your choice to keep the baby.. focus on only that.

[abigailsmomma]

I am 21 and no married but I live with my boyfriend/baby daddy...and I know he is the one I'm going to be with forever. Everything is so easy with him. I dreaded telling my entire family because I knew they would judge me. They already believed I was living in sin and now I'm just adding to it. Well I'm 36+4 now and I can honestly say I have never felt so close to some of my family members as I do now. It was really hard for me to spend time with any of them...my mom's friends included but they took it better than I thought. Everything is great now and I have no worries about bringing this baby into my family.

[GordonBaby]

I'm not young per say, 26 ftm. But I am the third youngest of my step siblings, which whom are all married (except for my 21yr step brother). I am not married, and not even with the baby's father so needless to say I was a little unnerved thinking about my shower, since I am the only one NOT blood related either. I will only have two friends there are the rest will be their family, but only my Mother and Grandmother. I'm now looking forward to it , if anyone has anything to say or doesn't approve....show em the door. It's about you and your child now, and the people who aren't supportive and aren't there for you, don't matter : ) I cant wait to eat the food!

[MommyTOOBe13]

Im a yound soon to be mommy , thats how i felt telling my family i was pregnant , im 19 and 20 weeks pregnant and 1 day , so farther along in my pregnancy people look at me differently , sometimes in a bad way , and some other times in a good way.

[Rubysf]

I'm not a young mom ill have her when I'm 24 and I'm a ftm I still worry since my family always has something bad to say. But my family is just very critical about everything. So I wouldn't worry cuz you can be older and people will always find something negative to say. Some of my family would be like about time she got married then had a baby like really I got married at 22 and got pregnant at 23. That's not old to me.

[1992Mama]

Thanks you guys have good advise and your personal stories make me feel more confident! I'm so happy to be having the baby so I won't let anything get me down about it

[confusedrose]

I'm a young mom and I was really worried about telling my grammies. And my brother.  I'm 18 and also not married. One of.my grams took it really well. The other one basically called me stupid. And my brother.pulled the whole I'm disappointed in u act.then his girl friend found out she was prefaced.So he got.over it. But don't.let.anyone get u down. If your happy then stay happy

[33159813]

I'm 17 & I was fine at my baby shower(: if they have a problem oh well, but everyone seemed to be accepting by the time I had my baby shower. Don't worry about how they will look at you. Chances are they're excited  happy to be there(:

[33159813]

I'm 17 & I was fine at my baby shower(: if they have a problem oh well, but everyone seemed to be accepting by the time I had my baby shower. Don't worry about how they will look at you. Chances are they're excited  happy to be there(:

[1992Mama]

I just feel weird because most the people coming are my moms friends that I have known my whole life and my mom can't make it to the shower because she is out of state and saving money to come when the baby comes. I think I would feel better if people my age were coming but there's only 2 out of 20 that are my age! I'm so nervous!!!!