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I'm 18 years old and pregnant for the second time with the same person. I lost the first child cause my mother pressured me into abortion. Me and the father aren't together and probably never will again. I don't come from a wealthy family but I do work my butt off. I decided I'm keeping this child no matter what. But I just told my mom tonight and she is making this so hard. She is not supportive at all. She keeps telling me my life will be over and all this stuff. It makes me so sad because I just need support. I know I'm gonna have the best life. Its a choice you make. And I choose to have the best life and have a wealthy life for me and my child. Yes it will be hard and take time but I'm more determined than others. I've already given up friends and my relationship issues for this baby. My question is will I be ok? Is my mother wrong for putting me down and doubting me? Me and her have the best relationship and she's always been right but I can't lose another baby because she decides. Its my choice. I just need answers and advice
I had two children by the time I was 18 it will be hard but it is sooo worth it. When you see your child for the first time you will no you made the right decision. I worked my butt off and now I have 6 children my own house and am very financially stable . Never let anyone doubt you, strive to do your very best and always tell your self that you can do it. If you need help you can call your human resources office and there are alot of things you can do to get on your feet. Theres a program called tanf that gives you money amd help you with finding a job amd free daycare, as well as food stamps, housing, and free medical. Your local WIC office will give your baby free formula and food for up to five years.
As a parent you want to immediately protect your child, your mom is right and wrong. Children are a huge responsibility and no matter how prepared you think you are, you can never be fully prepared. Will it be easy? No. Will it be all laughs and love, no but you will make it through it and you'll feel a love like you never knew existed. I hope you have other supportive family because you'll need the help and I'm sure your mom will come around she just wants the best for you
Your life is what you make it. It defiantly won't be ruined. Your baby is your family now. You will be fine. I was 19 when i had my first and wouldn't change a thing. I was also a single mum. Don't let people pressure you or make you feel bad about anything. Good luck x
This is ur life and u decide what to do with it. Ur all grown up and ur mom shouldnt tell u what to do at this point. A child is an amazing blessing and u will do just wonderful as a mother. U have a lot of future in front of u and it seems to me like ur ready to become a mother and u have ur mind set on what u want. U will have to explain to ur mom how u feel about this pregnancy and ur going to do what u want to do. I know it might sound like ur being rude to ur mom but ur feelings and decisions count too
Im 18 and 26 weeks you can do this our age doesn't make us any different to other mommas
It is your choice! And you can do it! There's many single mothers that have babies and are above the poverty line with successful careers. If u want to do it don't let anyone tell u different! Stay strong hun. Iam almost six months and I chose to do this on my own when he left me in the beginning. There's lots of support and groups out there too. Just gotta look.
You will be ok...you want to do whats right and your mom.should support you, but her views are different and could very well not best option in your favor...parents want whats best for their children like im.sure your mom.wants, you are a mom now and it sounds like mentally and emotionally you can be a great mother figure, you are motivated with direction and a dream and if your hearts all in it thats whats for you dear:)
I am 19 and with my second i was 16 now i am 19 going on 20 soon i dont know what i would do with my son and now my daughter who i am sharing alot with she will have the same birthday as me so never let your parents control how can you learn right from wrong
Im 19 and already have one child and im pregnant with my 2nd.. Im 11+4 atm.. U will b fine i managed one on my own and u still can have a social life within reason u just need to put ur child as ur first priority xx
FOLLOW YOUR HEART. you choose your future. Don't let anyone impact your decision. Being a mother is beautiful. I had my first shortly after my 19th bday. My son gave me a purpose :)
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